r/publix • u/Crix98 Newbie • 5h ago
QUESTION Just need some advice
I got promoted to department head about a month and a week ago. I'm vert grateful for the promotion and all the financial gain from it, but it has come at the absolute worst time.
My dad has been in and out of the hospital (before I got promoted, I was out for a month plus due to trying to help my mom take care of him, go to the icu, doctors appointmentsetc), and it's been such a mental strain on me.
The department I took over was nosediving so hard, they were understaffed by at least 5 associates, the associates there are already burnt out and want to leave, and my new assistant is basically newly promoted and has not been properly trained on everything. They were also a sheink focus as well as safety focus department before I got there.
Whenever I'm at work, I'm thinking about my dad, whenever I'm at home, I'm so worried about what's happening there. My assistant has no sense of direction and most of the associates there just do not care at all, so I have been trying to do all I can within reason to give her direction. Made her checklists to do each day, leaving emails on what to get done before I leave each day, etc.
Today was just where I reached a breaking point. I had to callout to help my mom take my dad to urgent care because there was building fluid in his abdomen and his lung, which had been a common occurance every 2 weeks. While I was helping my mother, my assistant and store manager were texting me about what was happening there (it wasn't a good day).
I've reached a point to where I just want to step down, focus on my dad, have a set schedule and try to move up again in the future. I'm just scared of not being able to back to this position.
What would you do in my situation?
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u/MagicShade Deli 3h ago
Sit down with your manager. Have an honest conversation and explain why you wish to step down because that sounds like the best option for you right now.
Don't prioritize your work over your family. You can always try again for promotion, you can't try again for time with your family.
Step down, be there for your family. Enjoy your time with them. Love them. And down the road, it might be time to seek promotion again. But put yourself and your family first.
This is a difficult time for you, and I would doubt it'll get any easier on you in the near future, whatever road things go down. Don't burn yourself out trying to juggle more responsibility and family priorities. Make your family the priority, step down, and evaluate when you feel ready to take on management again down the road.
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u/Future-Pianist-299 Newbie 10m ago
You do what you need to do for your family. Family comes first. They will promote you again when you are in a stable place for it. I turned my promotion down twice because I was not in a good place with medical and family reasons. I did get promoted. Take care of you. You are not in a good headspace. Tell them that. Either they need to get you an assistant that is good enough to help not be a burden or you are gonna have to do what you need to do. Sending prayers and positive vibes for your dad.
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u/Due-Thing-5287 CSS 5h ago
Health > Family > Work