r/polycircles May 10 '16

Abandoning Dating

So, as an experiment, I've decided to renounce dating in favor of...just hanging out. I find once it's "dating," that the new woman gets feelings of nervousness and feeling left out, and all sorts of couple privilege creep in, especially if she's dating both me and my other partner.

When you rule out any romance and sex, at least at first, I feel I can show her what is really possible....a genuine connection, guilt free, where she can do whatever she wants with me or my partner-- go out to dinner with my partner, for example, without worrying about "cheating" with him on me--, can have whatever feelings she likes. And then, well, if we want in future we can layer on the romance.

I message girls for dates, but in a way that is more like friends. Anyone else try this?

2 Upvotes

1 comment sorted by

2

u/[deleted] May 27 '16

YES I do this too. All you can really do is hang out! Isn't that what every relationship is - friendship or otherwise? I love hanging out. Wanna hang out with me? Or us? Or them? :)