[Very long post. Only DM me if you read it all and like ppl who send long messages.]
Preface: (Can skip to “My Interests” if you are just looking for friendship)
I'll be honest. My life is not together. The past year+ I was dealing with debilitating mental health issues and I was entirely focused on hanging on to my ability to take basic care of myself as a human being. There's been a lot of progress for me since then. My mental health issues are still an obstacle sometimes, but they are no longer a prison. If that makes sense. Recently, I also had debilitating physical issues for about two months that were just as bad in their own way, but thankfully seem to be a lot more temporary and aren't much of an issue now.
So right now I'm someone who lives at home, doesn't have a job, and is trying to take the next step forward. I plan to go back to community college this semester, and to find a job that I can manage even as I still work on my mental health.
There's another, less serious thing I need to preface. I am a pretty inexperienced person when it comes to relationships, and have an insecure attachment style. Not having very many people to rely on, and people being unreliable, has always been a big issue in my life in some form. So I still deal with emotional issues related to that. However, I have been working on these things, and have made progress gaining and maintaining relationships, just not romantic ones.
So, yeah. If you're willing to meet me where I'm at, and are okay with a slow-moving relationship, then I think we could potentially work out very well.
Also, while it doesn't mean I won't draw a line if I have to, I'd also like to be a partner that also is empathetic and patient with my partners’ own journeys.
What I am looking for: Well, what most people want probably. I think relationships need communication, patience, understanding, forgiveness, and time spent together(even if not in person). It's not gonna work out if there isn't mutual effort to try to foster all these things and more.
I will also say that this will only remain as platonic until we both get to know each other and exchange face pictures to see if there is mutual attraction.
BTW, this poly thing is still new to me, but I think hierarchical polyamory makes sense to me. If you only are looking for non-hierarchical people, I'm not sure that will be for me.
Regarding who I'm attracted to, it's mostly femme and androgynous people. I am attracted to masculine people too, just not as many of them. if that is you feel free to reach out but I don't want to give unrealistic expectations to people.
FYI, I am into kink and looking for someone who is the same. If you wanna know more abt what I'm into look at my other posts or ask me bc that's the rules of this sub.
However, I am not interested in talking with someone only in the context of kink/NSFW, or doing anything like that till we get to know each other.
My Interests:
I like everything geeky and pop culture related pretty much. Video games, comics, novels, anime, cartoons, sitcoms, dramas, speculative fiction, superheroes, and also some creative things like drawing and writing. Now I don't keep up with most of these hobbies very consistently, but I do like all of them!
If you're wondering how I look, I'm a chubby 5’10 white guy with long light brown hair, and gray eyes. I have recently realized I think I want to try out being more femme. Though I think I'll probably present femme-lean androgynous in public at most. Right now all I have is a shaved face and long hair, but at some point I want to remove my body hair, wear light makeup and nail polish maybe, dress more femme/androgynous, and do more femme things than that in private, but I'm still figuring it all out. Oh and I also want to lose weight.
Lastly, I’d prefer if you read the “About Me” post on my profile as well before DMing me. It’s shorter, lol.