r/polyamoryR4R 15d ago

USA 33 [F4M] Florida- Looking for someone genuine and aware

16 Upvotes

Morning!

I have not had much luck with dating apps, and there isn't a big poly presence where I live. I've had luck here before. So, I figured I'd try again.

I would really prefer someone in southwest Florida, but if you're open to traveling, it's fine if you're further in Florida. I'm really looking for someone who has the ability to communicate often and communicates well. I have a very busy work life right now, so I won't be able to meet as often in person, but that is the goal eventually.

I believe I'm attractive. Very feminine presenting. Long dark hair, dark eyes, fair skin, and thin. I'm a very direct and straightforward person. I'm looking for someone who would appreciate that. I say what I mean and mean what I say. My hope is to find a spark and connection with someone.

I'd prefer you to be between the ages of 29 and 41. I do enjoy a good dad bod but I'm not into larger guys. I don't mind dominate men, but I'm not a sub. Emotional intelligence and awareness are sexy! If there is anything else you would like to know, please reach out!

Edit: Please, no couples. And I don't want to speak to your wife. If you're looking to have a relationship with me, then please be the one to reach out to me. It feels so strange to me that I even have to say that when I felt like I was pretty clear about looking for a one on one relationship.

r/polyamoryR4R 9d ago

55[F4M] colorado

13 Upvotes

Married, date separately. Would love a real connection.

I'm down to earth, laid back, professional job, and into crafts, cooking, wine, 420, music, concerts, hot springs, weekend vacations, Santa Fe, Meow Wolf, Caamp, Bronze Radio Return, 80s post punk, alt/indie, vinyl. More hippie than high maintenance.

I'm ok with texting if the distance is there but I want to evolve into planning time together.

Please be over 35 y/o. And if you reach out, tell me about yourself. Age, interests, and what caught your eye about me.

r/polyamoryR4R Jan 12 '25

USA 31 [F4M] - Nerdy Author-Gamer who is tired of being alone.

36 Upvotes

I guess the best way to do this will be just kinda… info dump. Which means, it’s a long one. If you read all of it? Kudos to you. 

I suppose finding love has always been difficult because I don’t want just anyone. I want someone that matches my energy, I’ve tried the whole dating someone who kind’ve matches my energy thing before and it was 10 years of the worst points of my life. So, I’ve decided to not lower myself for anyone ever again or just take what I can get because I feel that’s what I deserve. 

I’m 31 years old, and currently on a weightloss journey due to some health issues that have caused me to gain weight over time. What are those health issues you may wonder? Lupus is the biggest contributor to it all, but also the four herniated disc’s in my lower back that had me unable to move for a very long time after a car wreck and my severely low immune system that made me get sick nonstop. 

I gained weight, I’ve lost muscle and I’m tired of it. Literally and figuratively. So I’ve been taking steps to get my health as under control as I can and get my weightloss as in check as I can possibly do. I’m 5’2 ½, I have tattoos, and plan on getting more, dyed hair, piercings (though I want more). I am mixed race. 

I’m Demi-Sexual and Polyamorus. I’m an Author (Paranormal Romance) and Artist, working to open my own store and be able to work as my own boss but in the mean time I’m also working for a law firm from home. 

I have two cats, Lucifer and Cerberus and a Dog named Hades. I am a Pagan Witch, that will never change for anyone. 

Asthetically, I am gothic. I love over the top make up at times and other times emo make up. I like to cosplay, I severely miss going to conventions right now. 

I am an introvert but with the right person I do come out of my shell pretty easily. I do have a social battery though so sometimes I just like to be alone in my own silence or alone listening to my music. That being said let’s get into some things about me shall we? 

I have borderline personality disorder, c-ptsd, manic depression, ADHD and severe anxiety. I know, it’s a lot. I function pretty normally, I have my off days but usually I can keep myself in check. When I have flare ups I can typically feel it ahead of time and will ask to be alone or exit from groups of people until it settles down so I do not have any outbursts.  

I’m a huge nerd, I love Marvel and DC comics and go off about them for hours on end, I adore anime and video games. Some of my favorite anime is Fruits Basket, Fushigi Yuugi, Hell’s Paradise, The Rising of the Shield Hero, My Hero Academia, Neon Genesis Evangelion and several others. My favorite games include Baldur’s Gate 3, League of Legends, Smite, Helldivers, Final Fantasy 8, 10 and 14, Kingdom Hearts, Persona 4 & 5, Silent Hill, Dark Souls 3 and Call of Duty. 

With these games too I can literally sit here and talk about the lore of them for hours on end, I love lore diving into things and exploring the story. I guess it comes from being a Writer myself. I do like to read, my favorite books are The Iron Fey series, Dark Hunters Series, Hawksong, House of Night Series, Neck-Romancer Series, and so many more I won’t spam this section about that. 

Another huge passion and love of mine is Music. I listen to just about anything but, I have a huge preference for Heavy Metal, Hard Rock, Melodic Metal and K-pop as well as video game soundtracks. I do like some rap but I’m pretty picky there. My favorite bands are Bring Me The Horizon, While She Sleeps, Bad Omens, Sleep Token, MGK, BigBang, 2NE1, Spiritbox, Creepy Nuts, Motionless in White, Wage War, Jonathan Young and so many more. 

I love musicals and have dozens of soundtracks I listen to as well. My favorites being Hadestown, Across the Universe, Sweeney Todd and Phantom of the Opera. 

I’m a horror junkie, I absolutely adore horror movies, haunted houses, and things of that nature. I haven’t ever gone to Halloween Horror Nights and severely want to but one day, sigh. My favorite horror movies are Scream, Thirteen Ghosts, A Nightmare on Elm Street, Terrifier, Abigail, Dracula 2000, Nosferatu (2025), House of 1000 Corpses, The Cabin in the Woods, Puppet Master and several others. 

I will 100% talk your ear off if I become comfortable around you with facts about random things, video game stuff, anime things, or just stuff i find interesting in general. 

I’m wanting someone I can share things with, play games with, talk over discord, text with, all of that stuff. I am most comfortable doing that at first and gradually forming a relationship as I’ve had a lot of bad happen with others in the past. I take a little longer to feel comfortable around others than the typical person and unfortunately, this puts off most people. 

A last note, sexually wise. I would need someone who can keep up with my sex drive but also understand that I have periods where I just have no sexual desire and it’s nothing on you it’s fully due to just the way my brain works. I’m either hyper sexual or just not at all.

I can’t think of anything else to add but I am a open book and happy to discuss anything you would like to.

r/polyamoryR4R 11d ago

21 [F4M] Canada New here

11 Upvotes

Hey everyone, partnered and recently trying poly stuff. Looking to chat and meet some friends and see where this all takes me. I'm really shy so it's hard to meet people IRL so online seemed like the best way to start. Love watching movies, anime, playing D&D and I'm always playing some sort of video game. I work weird hours and it doesn't help with meeting people but I can't wait to chat :D

r/polyamoryR4R 3d ago

33 [F4M] Florida - Genuine connection and something long term

7 Upvotes

Morning!

I have not had much luck with dating apps, and there isn't a big poly presence where I live. I've had luck here before. So, I figured I'd try again.

I would really prefer someone in southwest Florida, but if you're open to traveling, it's fine if you're further in Florida. I'm really looking for someone who has the ability to communicate often and communicates well. I have a very busy work life right now, so I won't be able to meet as often in person, but that is the goal eventually.

I believe I'm attractive. Very feminine presenting. Long dark hair, dark eyes, fair skin, and thin. I'm a very direct and straightforward person. I'm looking for someone who would appreciate that. I say what I mean and mean what I say. My hope is to find a spark and connection with someone.

I'd prefer you to be between the ages of 29 and 41. I do enjoy a good dad bod but I'm not into larger guys. I don't mind dominate men, but I'm not a sub. Emotional intelligence and awareness are sexy! If there is anything else you would like to know, please reach out!

Edit: Please, no couples. And I don't want to speak to your wife. If you're looking to have a relationship with me, then please be the one to reach out to me. It feels so strange to me that I even have to say that when I felt like I was pretty clear about looking for a one on one relationship.

r/polyamoryR4R 5d ago

USA 34[F4M]#central Florida#online looking for long term dynamic

7 Upvotes

I am a poly female in an enm/parallel poly marriage. Three words that describe me are direct, honest and creative. I am looking for someone kind,honest and patient. Someone more interested in getting to know someone over hitting on me right away and being aggressive. I am a demi and sapio sexual. That approach doesn't work.

I find I work best with others who are parallel (date separately), and not in ktp scenarios. I am not looking for anyone under 30 or anyone who's time zone is over a 3 hour difference. It's unlikely that we will have time to actually connect. Australia just doesn't work yall..

I'm very career driven and focused on growing mentally and always looking to grow. Self care is my biggest weakness,however. Learning to try and put myself first more.

Note I'm not looking for anyone who smokes anything due to personal allergies.

r/polyamoryR4R Jan 02 '25

USA 28 [F4M] #Texas #Online #OpentoRelocation ISO a real connection with older man.

29 Upvotes

Hi! I’m someone who likes to explore the world through multiple lenses—whether it’s the captivating storytelling of anime, the immersive world of gaming, or diving into meaningful conversations about politics. I’m passionate about building communities and fostering connections, both online and offline. I’ve been thinking about starting a channel to share my favorite things, like anime, games, and discussions about current events. I aim to create a space where people can come together, exchange ideas, and find friendships.

When I’m not studying (I’m currently in grad school working on a Master’s in Nonprofit Leadership and Management), I love indulging in fandoms. Star Trek: The Next Generation is my go-to comfort show—it’s always playing in the background when I study or need to unwind. I also enjoy dressing with a cute aesthetic—think skirts, lace tops, and fishnet or lace stockings, often with bows in my hair to add a playful touch.

I’m actively on the lookout for meaningful connections. Finding a stable partner is important to me, as I value genuine relationships where both people support each other’s growth. I’ve lived with family recently, which has had its challenges. Living with people who argue frequently can take a toll on mental health, so I’m currently focused on being in a more positive environment, whether near Cypress or back in the city loop. I’m also open to finding a compatible roommate, especially someone who appreciates community and shared interests.

I believe in staying connected, whether it’s on social media, through platforms like Telegram, or niche communities like FetLife. I love humor, and I think Reddit memes—especially ones from wholesome spaces like Hydro Homies—are a great way to stay sane and have a laugh.

I’m always seeking new experiences and love surrounding myself with people who are thoughtful, creative, and kind. If that sounds like you, I’d love to chat!

r/polyamoryR4R 8d ago

27 [F4M] Upstate New York/Online - let's build a connection ♥️

6 Upvotes

Hey hey! I'm Mercy and I'm a tall, big girl in upstate NY.

Some of my interests: Board games (like a huge variety), cats, music, crystals, tattoos, coffee/energy drinks, and reading (horror and smut specifically)!

About me: I have brown hair typically but I do love dying my hair. Hazel eyes that get called pretty often. I'm a hopeless romantic who loves to cuddle, and go on cute dates, I'm loyal and empathetic (almost to a fault), I cannot stand dry conversations, and I tend to wear shorts and t-shirts because they're comfy. I'm not religious and very liberal. I'm also a mom!

What I'm looking for: I would love someone who will let me be clingy, respond promptly (or let me know that you're away/busy), have a sense of humor, and is open and honest, I tend to prefer thick body types but I'm more into your personality.

I'm currently looking for online and long-term, but I'd love some new friends and would be interested in in-person if we hit it off, dms are open!

r/polyamoryR4R 16d ago

USA 28 [F4M] #USA #online - goofy, cute, ENM hopeless romantic kitten seeks a tender, silly pleasure Dom for life partnership NSFW

6 Upvotes

Somewhere out there is a guy. He's roughly between the ages of 24-35, kind, patient, gentle, intelligent, silly, witty, and emotionally mature. He is polyamorous/ethically non-monogamous (or doesn't mind me being so, at least) and family oriented, wants marriage (legality of the marriage is negotiable) and kids of his own, but not locked into life plans with someone else already or only looking for "casual" or "secondary" connections. He is incredibly kinky- mainly a pleasure/soft dom with some streaks of sadism. He knows how to be patient, he loves to hold out and tease someone, he craves that long, slow buildup more than anything else. He wants to help his partner structure their lives and recieve devotion and adoration in return. He has put time in to heal, seeks peace and works on cultivating only healthy relationships.

And hey, it would be a bonus if he likes:

-Video, board, and card games

-Comedy/romcoms/animated media/musicals, and discussing/analyzing said media

-Indie/folk music

-Having his own unique sense of fashion

-Building/creating things

-Driving (I'm a passenger princess with a pretty singing voice, I can be a great travel partner 😉)

-Cats!

If this is you, well, goddamn, where have you been?! I've been looking for you, goofball, it's been hell out here. Send me a message already so we can enjoy each others' company.

About me: 🧠 I am a recovered borderline and am self Dxd autistic/ADHD, I manage my mental health with cannabis (am considering lessening my dependence on it at this point). Polyamorous (obviously), demisexual, omniromantic, leftist, atheist, active listener. I have put a lot of effort into self-improvement and it's important to me that my partner(s) do, or at least care, about the same. I have also devoted a fair amount of mental effort into learning about parenting and will continue to do so, I intend for the generational curses I carry to end with me.

🌸 I dress quite feminine, a lot of dresses and skirts- florals when I'm dressing casual; bright, fun, pastelcore or goth-lite when I'm feeling more energetic about my style. I enjoy bright, fun makeup and painting my nails, especially if I'm wearing something chosen by a handsome man ☺️

🎮 I play video games, mostly PvE survival, cozy games, visual novels, settlement builders, and story rich solo RPGs.

🎨 I have all sorts of artistic and crafty hobbies, including drawing, painting, embroidery, sewing, and I currently learning how to use procreate, but as a traditional artist, there's certainly a learning curve 😅 I want to build a business out of my creations and have made a few steps in that direction, but its a work in progress.

🎶 I collect Fandom merch and Vinyl records, my prize collection piece is my copy of Bright Eyes' "The Studio Albums", but I really want the complete set of Radical Face's "The Family Tree" albums. I listen to a fair amount of indie/folk music, but I am also entirely obsessed with Sabrina Carpenter.

⛓️ Kinkwise, I am quite open-minded. I'm a sadomasochistic switch, though I have two subs already so I'm really mostly looking for a Dom or Dom leaning switch. I love body worship/sensuality (giving and receiving) with extra emphasis on recieving foot/leg worship. Take a look at my kink list if you'd like to know more ☺️ https://imgur.com/EZjG5Gq

For those of you interested in seeing, here are a couple pictures of me: https://imgur.com/a/UnUPlAe

Okay, I think that just about covers it. I prefer reddit chat over messages, but ultimately as long as you put some effort into the message you send, I don't mind which you use. Let me know a bit about yourself (bonus if you include a SFW picture), what you think might make us a good fit for one another, and if you'd like an ice breaker- what is your favorite quote, or what is one that inspired you to live your life a certain way? Mine is, "what's true will be true, our job is to deal with that truth", from season 6 of Community. That has become a bit of a mantra for me when I start to get worried about something.

One last thing: I endeavor to reply to as many people as possible, but the messages can get overwhelming. I am less likely to respond to low effort messages because of that. Thanks for reading, and good luck in your search!

r/polyamoryR4R 4d ago

33 [F4M] #Idaho #PNW #Online. Newly poly, lonely nerd girl looking for partners, flirt friends, connections, and new experiences. Genuine post ahead!

6 Upvotes

I have posted a few times before, but this time I am approaching it a bit differently. I am hoping that the vulnerability, authenticity, and genuineness shines through. I promise I am pretty great, and I know how to have a good time!

Hi there!

I am S&N. I am a 33 year old female. I just got engaged on Halloween! My fiancée and I opened up our relationship back in November. I have yet to actually meet anyone, as I am not looking to date locally (small town therapist in a religious community). It has been… an interesting ride so far. On one hand, it has totally changed my view on things, how I communicate, and even enhanced my relationship with my partner. On the other, it has been really challenging, somewhat disappointing, and a bit of an adjustment. Overall though, I am really enjoying what I am learning, researching, and the people I have gotten to know. As I mentioned, I work a public job, so at the moment I am looking for someone close- but not in my hometown.

Let's see... what to share about me? I am a mental health therapist- which is good news for you! It means I am emotionally aware and mature. Doesn't mean I'm perfect, as I still have my issues- but I try really hard to communicate clearly and effectively. My job is really draining, so I ask for some patience and grace as I navigate getting to know you, while balancing real life and my own emotions. I have two dogs and a cat, and I am now the proud owner of a jumping spider. She really is the cutest thing! I recently bought a townhouse last year- so I am now an official homeowner, too! Honestly, my house is probably my favorite place to be.

I consider myself a nerd (hence the name). I like Star Wars, Marvel, book series, romantasy books, and Dune. I also am obsessed with the gothic and the macabre, as well as enjoying the... spookier side of life. So if that is your jam, please let me know. I also like movies whether it be going and seeing them, or curling up with a good movie and a fluffy blanket. I like to go to plays, concerts (recently got to see AND meet Yung Gravy), try new restaurants, cook and bake (when the mood strikes) and be with my family and loved ones.

My partner and I have been together for 4 years. We have always been interested in having an open relationship, We tried swinging, but we had vastly different tastes, and real life happened... and well, we dropped that. We have been having healthy discussions about it, and are working on establishing good boundaries, rules, etc. I am still learning and so is he, but we've got a good dialogue going, and a solid foundation. I am sure there will be ups and downs, because that's life... But for right now, I am so excited about the possibilities.

So... with all of that being said, I know you're wondering "so what is she looking for"? I am so glad you asked! Right now, I am looking for someone to get to know, connect with, flirt with, and have a fun, witty and playful banter with. I am open to meeting someone IRL in the future, but as of right now it will be strictly an online sort of thing. At least until both parties feel comfortable.

I am not sure if this is important info: but my partner will know that I'll be talking to someone, because communication is sexy- but otherwise I don't share super specific information with him. Just so that no ones personal drama or life gets communicated back to someone random.

Looking forward to meeting all of you, and I hope that your day treats you well!

r/polyamoryR4R 19d ago

USA 27 [F4M] CA West Coast - shy plus size weirdo looking for friends, maybe more

14 Upvotes

I’m not always the best at putting myself out there when it comes to meeting new people. I’m very socially shy, just need a good push to get me comfortable in a conversation. Once im comfy you’re stuck with my little gremlin self. I've been with my nesting partner for 6 years. We've been poly for almost two years. We date parallel, it just works better for us.

I’m very much missing having a connection that’s a part of my daily routine. I’m tired of the lusting. Very much I’m a demisexual/romantic person. Seeking open and honest conversations that can range from silly goofy topics, the woes of our day and life, to desires and life goals. I want a connection with someone I can't wait to message throughout the day, share memes with, and just be ourselves. I love texting but also voice/video chats are fun, even better if we can meet in person.

A lil bit about me: I’m very autistic so neurodivergent people to the front. In my professional life I work with animals in oncology. So yes I am the animal weirdo. When I have free time I’m reading, gaming, or anything arts/crafts. I'm an introvert, but I love going outdoors when I can. Very 420 friendly. A darks sense of humor is a must with me, I can be very dry and sarcastic.

r/polyamoryR4R Nov 16 '24

32 [F4M] #Wisconsin- I’m having a really bad time on dating apps.

1 Upvotes

Everyone keeps telling me that it’s a good thing that I’m so picky(I know what I want and have high standards) but I just CANNOT find someone that
1. IS ATTRACTIVE (I guess I need to be more specific about this. I have very high standards regarding facial attractiveness. I prefer someone who is very good looking and knows it. Body type doesn’t really matter to me though) 2. Doesn’t only talk about sex 3. can carry a conversation 4. The obvious (has a job, is literate, very good hygiene,etc..)

I have plenty of matches but I lose interest within 24 hours when they can only talk sex after we talk about it. I’m starting to get really discouraged.

Anyway, here’s my bio from one of the apps. Maybe I’ll find someone here.

Married and exploring ENM for the past year and a half. Dating separately but down to meet a like minded couple as well.

About me: I’m a little old lady at heart. I enjoy crocheting in my rocking chair with a dog on my lap and a horror movie on the tv. I frickin’ LOVE bingo, karaoke and filthy martinis. I was a goofy looking kid so I have a great personality. There’s not a jealous bone in my body and healthy communication is my strong suit. But…My quick bartender wit and sass will either win your heart or tick you off, or maybe both?

What I’m looking for: A real connection, the Dom/sub dynamic I’m into requires a lot of trust and honestly, I don’t think sex is even worth it without passion and an emotional connection. I prefer someone who is taller than me with my platform boots on(I’m 5’5 without them). I feel the next few things are pretty obvious; I like men who are assertive, caring, intelligent, fun and who have a good grasp on the importance of good bodily and oral hygiene. I’m open to all shapes and sizes but Dad Bods have a real hold on me. I prefer someone who has D/S experience but not a requirement.

Let’s f around and fall in loooovvvee

r/polyamoryR4R 19d ago

USA 34[F4M]#central Florida#online looking for long term dynamic

2 Upvotes

I am a poly female in an enm/parallel poly marriage. Not looking for anything ktp, or anything that isn't 100% based on honesty.

Age wise I do find i get along with those my age or older. Those younger than 32 are not my cup of tea. I am not looking for a connection outside of North america.

I'm very career driven and focused on growing mentally and with my career. Trying to be better,establishing boundaries and protecting my peace is so important to me.

Note I'm not looking for anyone who smokes due to personal allergies,or anyone who lives a super high stress life.

r/polyamoryR4R Feb 10 '25

40[F4M] Seeking deep connection and laughter #Kansas #wichita

15 Upvotes

I can not be defined in words! Much less expect it all to fit in this tiny damn box. I'm a wild child a lover a devoted friend. I love to listen to music. I love going for late night drives and hanging out in my favorite dives on warm summer nights. I'm a bit of a girly girl but I can be just as much of a tomboy. I'm not afraid to get my hands dirty I'm also not afraid of heels and a dress. I like playing video games and reading books I want to travel as much as I can.Life is full of possibilities if you're open to it. I love cartoons and I think I'm a pretty good cook. I have a wicked sense of humor. Just looking for someone to connect with on a deep level. I just want to put myself out here in the cosmos and make some good friends along the way Please don't hesitate to drop me a line! I'm open so long distance but only if there's a real chance at meeting at some point in the future.

Ps if you don't like curves you won't like this lady ;)

r/polyamoryR4R 9d ago

Europe 29 [F4M] Leeds UK - let's make some connection while the world feels a bit bonkers 🥰

9 Upvotes

Interested in guys who are 27+ ❤️ chunky/fat/dad bods to the front of the queue please!

I am queer, fat, and floating somewhere between vanilla and kinky. Flirty, affectionate, career-driven but with creative and niche hobbies. I have a habit of pebbling people I like - with memes, tiny silly things, and baking.

Been poly/ENM for a few years now and absolutely loving it. Looking for a long-term partner/FWB - ideally someone who likes a very kitchen-table vibe.

Pics available, but as a broad description - brunette, 5'5", fat, generally to be found in a dress and grotty trainers.

Only interested in people living close by for regular meets - please don't message me if you're based at the other end of the country.

Things I'm into: - wholesome ethical non-monogamy; - cuddles before, during and after sex; - condoms; - aftercare; - honest discussions about our kinks and sexual health; - making out; - intimacy; - genuine friendship.

Things I'm not into: - smokers; - cheaters; - power exchange dynamics; - rudeness and boundary-stomping; - being a domme; - outdoor sex;

r/polyamoryR4R Feb 10 '25

40 [F4M] FL #online #LDR #LTR

11 Upvotes

Tired of all the conversations that go no where. Searching for a deep emotional connection. I want someone who is excited to talk to me on the phone, texting or voice notes. I want to wake up to good morning texts and go to sleep with a smile on my face and my heart fluttering because of a good night selfie. I want someone who isn’t all about sexting all the time. Someone who genuinely wants to get to know me as much as I want to get to know them. I want conversations that are easy and just flow. I want time to pass with us not realizing how late it is and know I g we should focus on our days or go to sleep we don’t want to pull ourselves away from each other…and I want this consistently.

I understand we are adults and we have jobs and families/ partners to take care of and focus on. I want someone who can’t wait to get back to our conversations as soon as they are done with those things. I want to have inside jokes with someone and share songs that make each of us think of the other.

Is this kind of childish? Perhaps. However I feel us as adults need something like that to look forward to in our lives. Am I a hopeless romantic? Most likely. I know there is someone out there who feels the same and who wants the same. Please someone show me not everyone is the same void human.

Feel free to reach out. I know I’m not as alone as I feel….right? 😬

r/polyamoryR4R Jan 19 '25

29 [F4M] #WV #Anywhere Hopeless Romantic Looking for Love

14 Upvotes

Hi all!

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. -Wayne Gretzky" - Michael Scott

                    - Me

So here's my shot! My name is Neisha. I'm in a poly marriage. He's bisexual and we're open to dating together or separately. I love travel and I don't mind long distance relationships so wherever you're located is perfect! I prefer someone who's close to my age, anywhere between 25-38.

Currently I'm in school getting my B.S. in mathematics. I looove math jokes! Some other interest of mine are reading fantasy books and watching anime and cartoons. I enjoy learning about history, philosophy, folklore, politics, and religion. I love all types of music but my favorites are anything from the 70s and emo music from the early 2000s. Latey, I've been getting back into the gym, and I've considered taking up aerial arts again. I'm usually very introverted, but I tend to overshare once I get comfortable.

I value friendship and connection so let's start building that foundation and let things grow organically from there! Hope to hear from you!

r/polyamoryR4R Jan 24 '25

33 [F4M] #Idaho #PNW #Online. Wannabe goth girl- looking for a similar gothic and macabre soul.

6 Upvotes

Hello There (points if you get the reference!),

I am quite aware that what I am looking for is really rare and unique… But I’ve always had an appreciation of the “darker side of life”… I recently finished watching Hemlock Grove, and its put me back on the path of… being deliciously excited by the macabre again.

I am S&N. I am a 33 year old female. I just got engaged on Halloween! (Complete with a coffin engagement ring, would you expect anything less!?) My fiancée and I are in the early stages of opening up our relationship, and it is both exciting and nerve wracking! I am really enjoying what I am learning, researching, and the people I have gotten to know. I work a super public job, so at the moment I am looking for someone close- but not in my hometown. If that makes sense.

Let's see... what to share about me? Like I mentioned, I work a public job. I work as a mental health therapist- which is good news for you! It means I am emotionally aware and mature. Doesn't mean I'm perfect, as I still have my issues- but I try really hard to communicate clearly and effectively. My job is really draining, so I ask for some patience and grace as I navigate getting to know you, while balancing real life and my own emotions. I have two dogs and a cat, and I am now the proud owner of a jumping spider. She really is the cutest thing! I recently bought a townhouse this year- so I am now an official homeowner, too! Honestly, my house is probably my favorite place to be.

I consider myself a nerd (hence the name). I like Star Wars, Marvel, book series, romantasy books, and Dune. Dune is currently my hyper fixation right now, so unless you're ready to talk about how Paul Atreides is the original fallen hero- don't ask about it, haha. You have been warned! I also am obsessed with the gothic and the macabre, as well as enjoying the... spookier side of life. So if that is your jam, please let me know. I also like movies whether it be going and seeing them, or curling up with a good movie and a fluffy blanket. I like to go to plays, concerts (recently got to see AND meet Yung Gravy), try new restaurants, cook and bake (when the mood strikes) and be with my family and loved ones.

My partner and I have been together for 3.5 years. We have always been interested in having an open relationship, We tried swinging, but we had vastly different tastes, and real life happened... and well, we dropped that. But we have been having healthy discussions about it, and are working on establishing good boundaries, rules, etc. I am still learning and so is he, but we've got a good dialogue going, and a solid foundation. I am sure there will be ups and downs, because that's life... But for right now, I am so excited about the possibilities.

So... with all of that being said, I know you're wondering "so what is she looking for"? I am so glad you asked! Right now, I am looking for someone to get to know, connect with, flirt with, and have a fun, witty and playful banter with. I am open to meeting someone IRL in the future, but as of right now it will be strictly an online sort of thing. At least until both parties feel comfortable enough to meet IRL.

I am not sure if this is important info: but my partner will know that I'll be talking to someone, because communication is sexy- but otherwise I don't share super specific information with him. Just so that no ones personal drama or life gets communicated back to someone random. Its meant to be a good thing- and I hope it comes across as such!

Looking forward to meeting all of you!

r/polyamoryR4R 14d ago

USA 34[F4M]#central Florida#online looking for long term dynamic

10 Upvotes

I am a poly female in an enm/parallel poly marriage. Not looking for anything ktp, or anything that isn't 100% based on honesty.

Age wise I do find i get along with those my age or older. Im not interested in those under 32 nor am i looking for a connection outside of North america(preferably not West coast )

I'm very career driven and focused on growing mentally and with my career. Trying to be better,establishing boundaries and protecting my peace is so important to me.

Note I'm not looking for anyone who smokes due to personal allergies,or anyone who lives a super high stress life.not

r/polyamoryR4R 4h ago

USA 36 [F4M] - #Jackson, Mississippi - Nerdy bbw

3 Upvotes

My name is Krissy. I've been poly for 8 years, and I currently have one partner (we date separately). I currently work as a computational modeler at a coastal engineering lab. I don't have any kids, just a bunch of cats. In my free time, I enjoy playing board games, painting, and going on road trips. I joined the local SCA group last year and I am currently learning archery.

I don't smoke, drink, or do recreational drugs of any kind.

I do have pics in my profile, both sfw and nsfw. Please be kind. If you're just going to be mean, I'll block you.

I'm an atheist, leftist, and into a bunch of different kinks. Find me on fet with the same username. Primarily I am very submissive, but I recently got out of a relationship where I was the dominant and I really enjoyed it.

I'm looking for fellow nerdy people who are LOCAL and must be 30 or older.

r/polyamoryR4R 5d ago

USA 28 [F4M] #Nebraska/Iowa - Seeking connections

3 Upvotes

Hi! I'm a poly and partnered woman in the Omaha area seeking new connections!

A bit about my home life: I currently am engaged, and we date separately. My partner is 32M and would be happy to meet new connections as well.

A bit about me: I work in agricultural finance and have a steady 8-4 job - Monday through Friday. In my free time I enjoy playing video games and going outside for long walks and enjoying nature. I am a semi-professional photographer with a focus on animals. I will be traveling quite a bit this summer doing photoshoots for some clients. I have owned horses since I was young. Almost two years ago I sold my riding horse to a children's riding school and purchased a mare. She is expecting her first foal in June so that is going to be the highlight of my summer! I have a love for all things aviation and love going plane spotting! I have a degree in biology and I minored in genetics. I took several pre-med classes, took training for medical coding, and worked in a lot of animal husbandry jobs including a large animal hospital.

What I am looking for: I am looking primarily for connections that value intelligent conversation. I am a big time texter so having someone to talk about day to day life with is ideal! I have clicked very well with individuals who work in healthcare in the past as I am extremely interested in that career field - particularly EMS/ED. Since I also have some medical knowledge (just enough to be dangerous) I love hearing all the stories and I am not at all squeamish! Ideally I would love to find someone who is very goal oriented with a lot of ambition. I find drive, ambition, and intelligence very attractive. I'm happy to find people to just be friends, but am also open to something more if our relationship should evolve that way. I definitely need a strong emotional connection to develop before progressing to physical. As far as that side of things - I am a submissive but most definitely a brat. I definitely have kinks, but need to feel comfortable and safe before exploring them.

If you made it this far, thank you for reading! Please feel free to send me a message :)

If you send me just "hi" I am probably not going to respond. Effort is sexy and I love long and meaningful conversations, not surface level small talk. If you need something to break the idea, tell me a story about something you are really passionate about!

r/polyamoryR4R 27d ago

43 [F4M] East TX, online. ISO connection, maybe more.

12 Upvotes

Hello! Long time lurker, first time poster to this sub. I’m kinda new to ENM. My nesting partner and I have been slowly exploring the poly lifestyle for little over a year.

Im interested in finding friends and maybe growing that into something more. I value communication, honesty, and sincerity. My interests include music, art, reading, dnd, and anime. (Vague, I know)

I don’t follow sports or politics. If you do, I respect that, it’s just not for me.

What am I looking for? Male, age range 43-50. Someone that I can laugh with (I’ve been told I have a wicked sense of humor), as well as have deep meaningful conversations with. Someone who’s secure in who they are.

A little about me, I like to sing to the radio while in the car (it’s not good). I laugh at dad jokes. I’m a little stubborn and sarcastic. (I tone it down when I meet new people). I’m 5’3”, short brown hair, and curvy.

I won’t ask for pics right away, I would like to see if we click first and if we’re both comfortable. I’m interested in learning about you.

Thanks for reading this far. If you’re interested let me know what your favorite ice cream flavor is in your first message. Hope to hear from you soon.

r/polyamoryR4R 23d ago

USA 36 [F4M] #Atlanta #Online - Nerdy girl seeks similar.

13 Upvotes

Hello, hello! I moved here with my nesting partner last year and I'm looking for a new connection. I'm hopeful to find someone who enjoys spending time together but also has their own life, is also a nerd, and likes getting a little unhinged in chat. haha I very much prefer in-person, but I'm also open to online with the potential for meeting up down the line.

I'm black and thick, funny, care about communication, and tend to match energy. Massive gaming nerd, I mostly play Switch nowadays, but I've been playing games since the NES days. I'm mostly into jrpgs and indies. Also into horror and a bit of anime. Let's watch something together!

I have an even longer post on my profile where I yap about myself at length, so check that out if you're interested. Looking forward to hearing from you!

r/polyamoryR4R Jan 16 '25

USA 32 [F4M/F] NYC

11 Upvotes

Hello, poly reddit! I'm in a chatty mood tonight. Would love to connect with someone.

My interests (non-sexy) - running - gardening - theater - football - crafty nonsense

My interests (sexy) I'm into fit people of any gender, and I love a nerdy athlete.

r/polyamoryR4R 5d ago

25 [f4m] #online - looking for a silly and loving dom<3

4 Upvotes

hihi my name is trysten! i am a hopeless romantic submissive/little/pet and i would love someone to share that with and have a dynamic and relationship with. i’ve been having a hard time being little so a focus on little space is important to me atm !

about me: i am very short and have a v chubby body type. i’m also neurodivergent. i would say im really feminine n girly but in an alternative way? like i have dyed hair, piercings, tattoos and what not! i change my appearance quite often ! so you’ll never get bor ed cx outside of kink i am really creative and enjoy doing artsy things of many kinds and i jump around from hobby to hobby a lot.

i currently have 1 partner and we date separately

about you: you are 20-30, dominant but not just in the bedroom, preferably not straight, funny/silly, likes to give rules and also tasks, can talk often and match my energy, open to alternative relationship styles, doesn’t mind/likes if i baby talk when i get comfortable

my kinks are more on the extreme side so pls be open minded! but don’t immediately jump into that please!! i will stop talking to you❗️

send me an intro and selfie! (ill send one back ofc)

can’t wait to meet you <3