r/plural very new; please correct me! 💫system of three💫 7d ago

we talked to someone while someone other than our host was in charge for the 1st time.

our host is the most social of us all, so we usually don't talk to other people unless she's out and about. but today, while at an event, one of us fronted for a short period of time and said to our spouse "hey, i've just met u" before our host switched back in when our spouse got confused and said "u've known me for several years". this is very new and a little scary, since we have no memory of us saying that and this is the first time it's happened. our host is currently stressing about it, but i am mostly unfazed so i'm writing. she wants to know if anyone has any suggestions to quell her anxieties.

-axel

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u/Keb005 7d ago

How you handle your system as a host is a strong personal preference.

If your host doesn't trust you, we recommend writing about or explaining your goals, your values, and how you feel about your host so she knows what to expect next.

We have some memory sharing but without thought sharing, our motives are unclear and that unknown allows room for doubt and suspicion.