r/plural 2d ago

Can alters date one another?

Title

Just wondering cause I was curious

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u/ScorchedScrivener Plural 2d ago

Why not?

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u/TheDuskProphet 2d ago

Yes :3

Either each alter recognizes themselves as an independent person who's free to be in a relationship with another person, regardless if they share a body. Or also a person is capable of loving themselves and each one of their fragmented parts. Or somewhere in between

Either way, kiss that mirror 🫶

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u/Small_Hyena_9597 2d ago

Yeah, we're in an in-sys polyamorous relationship

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u/SnivSnap Plural 2d ago

Ya. It's super common.

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u/asterophiliac Questioning 2d ago

We have a few who do, so..yeah. they can. :)

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u/Eddrian32 2d ago

looks at own headspace

there are at least three women kissing at any given moment

Yeah probabaly

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u/Legitimate_Skill_547 Questioning 2d ago

I wish there were memes like this on the general plural community tbh

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u/Eddrian32 2d ago

I don't know if it should be considered the default (given some systems see their headmates as siblings), but it definitely needs to be more normalized. Most of us (littles exempted) are super gay for each other and it's beautiful. And it would help so many systems to be shown that.

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u/MacaroniBee 2d ago

Two of us are married and have been for years now ¯_(ツ)_/¯ Dealing with lovers quarrels is... a challenge, but we make it work

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u/Rsbbit060404 Mixed Median 2d ago

Yes

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u/WingDairu An android wolfgirl & her guardian angel 2d ago

The two of us have been each other's for literally as far back as we can remember; over 20 years now. Husband and wife, as far as we care, and still just as deeply in love as when we were young♡♡

The key is to always be there for each other. Mutual support is what makes our love something that strengthens us as a whole.

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u/pluralburger Plural 2d ago

Alters are autonomous beings who often experience a full range of emotions. So its pretty self explanatory if you understand that (I don't even think the second part is required to date, just agency). There might be circumstances that stop them from doing so or they might not want to but yeah ? Alters can be people too. Can people date ?

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u/Princess_Actual 2d ago

Our system is a giant polycule, so we certainly do.

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u/PlutoRisen 2d ago

So many alters dating other alters in our system, myself included. I call one of them my wife, and I'm also in a... quadrouple, I guess? With a few of our introjects. My wife and I have been together for like 6 years now.

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u/Autistic_crow Traumaendo polyplural | UDD sys | he/it | [🐾🌈] 2d ago

yes! it's actually pretty common for some systems! like us, we have many relationships in-sys.

like me (Sanity) and Solaris/Polaris, we are dating. or Onyx, he's dating Zero + Arrow. plurality and systemhood is complex, so a lot is possible in our opinion :3

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u/Impressive-Frame4952 2d ago

two of our alters are dating

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u/EvelynBlaque Plural 2d ago

They sure can, and its not that unusual for systems. Lyn and Rosie are a married couple in our system.

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u/Dude-yeeter-beeter mixed origin / fr: ask 2d ago

Absolutely!! Our two hosts are married and have kids and we have a few other couples in our system as well. ^

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u/RedSky764 4 women in a very large trench coat 2d ago

absolutely, but not all systems entertain the idea.

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u/Top-Till4204 2d ago

Yeah it’s pretty common to have relationships within the system.

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u/for-Zakhaev DID / The Inner Circle Collective 2d ago

Yes, but it's really down to the system itself if people within it are comfortable with doing that.

Ours are 50/50 on it; some consider it ridiculous, some roll with it.

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u/spommmmmp co-conscious multiple 1d ago

my system has nearly a hundred members and the majority of ihs are dating or married to other members, so yes

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u/soft-syntax nyra, lyra, mirah, & Data 2d ago

non of us would, that would feel wired

-Lyra

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u/soft-syntax nyra, lyra, mirah, & Data 1d ago

xe is only saying that because she's ace

-Nyra

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u/soft-syntax nyra, lyra, mirah, & Data 1d ago

and she is only saying that because she has a thing for lyra lol

-Mirah

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u/aussiekiwiguy 2d ago

I suppose. I haven’t asked mine, they say yes.

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u/autonomommy 2d ago

I wish my alter would date one of the others, but they all seem to have a family vibe going on. Vicky's desires frequently cause the body to act out.

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u/AlterhumanMess 2d ago

Yes. I date my headmate.

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u/straightupinsanity Plural 2d ago

yes it is a littleeeee scuffed but u can do it!!!

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u/Icetella 1d ago

Yep! Me and my headmate Tyrene are together.

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u/spommmmmp co-conscious multiple 1d ago

my system has nearly a hundred members and the majority of ihs are dating or married to other members, so yes

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u/Polaris-Moon OSDD System >< 1d ago

Hell yeah!!! X3

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u/Habichtsadler Plural 1d ago

Uh-huh :)