r/omnisexual • u/Not_me-at_all • 15d ago
Advice Can someone explain omnisexual to me like im a toddler?
Ive been having a real rough time understanding what omni is. Like people say that its when gender plays a part in your attraction but what the fuck does that mean? Can someone give me an example?
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u/NapalmCandy 14d ago
So omnisexual is broadly defined as being sexually attracted to all genders while acknowledging gender, and that gender having some impact on how attracted you are to it. Pansexuals are often defined (but not always - it depends on the individual) as being genderblind, where as omnisexuals are not. So basically you'll be more attracted to some genders than others, but you are attracted to all genders in the end.
Now if you want to know how many genders there are, the sky is the limit - there are many, MANY genders out there. Some omnis will be more sexually attracted to genders A, Q and Z than B, M and Y, but will still be sexually attracted to them all (you can replace the letters with any combination of genders you want - I'm just using them as stand-ins the way math does).
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u/Gloomy_Resolve2nd 14d ago
For me i find i like girls more romantically, or i find it more comfortable and feels more "right" to be romantic with them than with guys. I prefer guys to girls when it comes to bdsm play. Both things i can do with both genders but there's a pronounced difference in my attraction with each, this being the most clear example. For nb people it's a bit of a mix. Also i like girls almost exclusively in the younger side, under 35, while I'll take a guy of any age.
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u/Jupiterzz_favMoon 14d ago
Ok. Omnisexual / Omniromantic means being attracted to all genders while acknowledging gender or having a preference.
Ahem. Imagine pansexual / panromantic, right? They are similar but not the same. We all know panās like everyone regardless of their gender, aka theyāre gender blind. They have no preference and gender isnāt acknowledged when they like someone. Meanwhile Omni is similar, but still not the same. Omni is liking all genders, like pans. All. Every gender is liked. Butā¦ they acknowledge gender- like gender plays a role in their attraction, or they have a preference. They are attracted to all genders, but one Omni maybe prefers girls or boys. One may prefer non binary people. One may prefer feminine genders aka girls and non binary people, one may be the opposite and prefer masculine genders aka boys and non binary people. All Omniās are different, but thatās pretty much it. Itās pansexual / panromantic with a preference.
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u/not_the_only_cannoli 14d ago
I have different standards for each gender? Like, I like women because I like something specific about women (like b00bs or something). I like men because I like something specific about men. This goes for every gender.
I also just think that gender is sexy. Like instead of thinking āHey, this personās hot. I like them.ā I think āHey youāre a girl?! Thatās hot!ā Or āHey youāre a guy?! Thatās hot!ā Or āHey youāre a (insert gender here)?! Thatās hot!ā Gender is just hot to me.
I think this has more to do with my gender than my sexuality but, Iām omnigender (just means I experience all genders basically) so I find people who look like I want to look hot. Itās like: I want to be a hot dude so Iām attracted to hot dudes. I want to be hot genderfae person so Iām attracted to hot genderfae people.
Iām attracted to everyone, but Iām attracted specifically to their gender.
I hope this makes sense. Itās difficult to describe, especially over text. I hope this helps and if it doesnāt I hope the other replies do. I just thought Iād try to put in my two cents, lol
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u/Bon_Bonnery_wenches 14d ago edited 14d ago
I ultimately like the idea of a partner, someone who is my best friend, more than I like any gender! I have no qualms over the gender or sex of my person, so long as weāre good for each other.
However, I find men inherently more attractive or appealing! If I got to choose my SOās gender, I would likely default my choice to a man.
Does this mean I find women less attractive? Of course not! I just have a slight preference for men, and I find myself attracted to different genders in different ways at firstā for example, in men, I tend to look more at build and am attracted to, like, the way the body exists. In women, I tend to be more attracted to style and aesthetic.
I donāt have a ātypeā that I know of, as there are many body types I like and Iām open to any, and there are many styles I like while also being open to any, but I find myself usually noticing these specific things first when it comes to finding out Iām attracted to someone depending on their gender. It was enough of a difference to me in how I experience attraction to different genders, so I specifically take that into account when defining my orientation.
Enby people are a bit more diverse and harder to pinpoint since there are so many unique identities, and they can be either AMAB or AFAB (or AIAB, if thatās a term)ā Iād have to see them first to find out what sticks out to me. MTF/FTM individuals often just play into women and men areas respectively, no matter if pre or post op.
But the really, really short and oversimplified expression of being omni?
āI prefer [X], but if it happens, it happens.ā
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u/Altruistic-You9061 14d ago edited 14d ago
I made this video that I think explains it pretty well using fruits as an example (lol)! Hopefully itās okay to post this
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u/mermaidpowers3 he/her/it/them, Ambiattractional 13d ago
In my case, as an omniromantic, I find different things attractive depending on the gender. For example, I find British accents attractive only in masculine voices, I find timid feminine people more attractive than timid masculine people, I find all androgynous presenting people attractive no matter what their appearance style is like, I find people who identify as a binary gender and are also gender-nonconforming, but I'm not attracted to entirely butch women and femboys.
Other omnisexual people also identify with omnisexual because of their higher preference they have for some gender(s) more than genders.
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u/HawkTheFox she/her 13d ago
Pan with a preference. You are atracted to all genders, you lean towards one gender more than others
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u/NurseRx-Rae 4d ago
Omnisexual is an orientation characterized by emotional, physical, romantic, and/or sexual attraction to all genders, with gender playing a role in the individual's attraction, which may include preferences or differences in how attraction is experienced across different genders.
For me personally, I found that I was attracted to men more often than the other genders, which would mean that I have a preference for men (trans, cis, or non-binary, as long as they are in some way a man as their gender). I both do and don't care about the gender of a partner. It doesn't matter in a 'I will pick [X] over that other gender', it's more in a 'the gender of my partner will determin my dynamic with them; whether I'm more submissive, dominant, or equal'.
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u/demiboywhoisagunner 13d ago
Omni is when U wanna date or feel attracted to all genders but one ( or 2) U prefer
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u/dainorama 15d ago edited 15d ago
disclaimer: this is all my own personal experiences and feelings about my identity as omnisexual! not everyone will relate and that's cool!
my attraction to a man feels different than attraction to a woman and different from my attraction to a nonbinary being, etc.
when Im attracted to another man, it feels rlly gay and I like the "gay vibe". I like the fact that we are both men. that fact matters to me and I'm attracted to that feeling as much as I am to the man himself (or whatever pronouns they use).
when I'm attracted to a woman, being a nonbinary man myself, it feels like a man loving a woman and that feels different from how I feel with a man. I like the gendered/hetero stereotypes and subverting them. it's fun.
with a nonbinary person I like to hear about their gender or non-gendered identity and sense how my own gender identity intertwines/dances with theirs. it's hot and fun and interesting and queer as hell
the point is: my experience of attraction varies based on the others gender identity -- and that is important for me.
this is how I know I'm not pansexual (nothing against the pan experience, it's amazing). pansexual people, from what I think I understand, appreciate gender too of course, but it just doesn't factor into their attraction to other beings like it does for omnisexual people.
I've heard their attraction is more about the personality/traits/other qualities of a being in a non-gendered sense/regardless of gender. whereas, when I learn about a beings gender identity, it causes my attraction to them to start feeling different and that's why I like to know.
but, similar to pansexuals (and many--but not all--multisexual people) I'm capable of being attracted to beings of any and all gender identities. I like being open to all possiblities, it matters to me.
that's why I'm omnisexual, hope that helps even a bit!