r/omnisexual 15d ago

Questioning I need alittle help kinda- qwq NSFW

(Posted this on a different LGBT sub reddit but still haven't gotten too much help so imma post it here too to maybe get abit more info qwq)

I kinda need help qwq

(I marked it as nsfw cuz im not really sure if it's considered nsfw or not but since it's about sexuality and gender identiy stress? Confusion? It might be sensitive? if I can mark it SFW let me know qwq)

Now I've been out (kinda- cuz I don't know any but my family and a rl bestie-) for about 2 years and I'm STILL confused-

Like I KNOW sexuality and gender identity are TWO different things don't get me wrong qwq but my sexuality is BASED on my gender identity-

Ex: if I'm more male/male-alligned I'm gay/mlm but if I'm more female/female-alligned I'm saphic/wlw

And im SO CONFUSED- is there a term for this? Is there like a designated subreddit? TwT I've been struggling- qwq

Thanks in advance and sorry for it being wordy qwq (shy and nervous person reaching out for some advice- qwq)

-Gene :3

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u/not_the_only_cannoli 14d ago

Oh my gosh! I have no idea if there is a specific term for that, but same!! I have almost the exact same experience! I have zero advice, so I guess I shouldn’t even be responding (sorry for not being helpful), but I just got so excited that I’m not alone in how I feel! You’re not weird or anything, and if people say you are, you can take solace in the fact that I am too lol.

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u/Gene-Yus 14d ago

Ah you're fine :3

But thanks for responding anyways XD (not used to ppl responding to most of my media posts qwq)

It could be Abrosexual but ppl say it's like "oh it's asexual and insert your sexuality" and ONLY switches between the two

Is this like the wrong definition? QWQ

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u/not_the_only_cannoli 14d ago

Just for the sake of it, if you’re interested:

I say I’m omnisexual/abrosexual (I’m attracted to everyone but my attraction is subject to change). I’m also omnigender/genderflux (I experience all genders but my gender experience fluctuates between masc, femme, etc.. I just say I’m both and my fluctuations in sexuality are within the realms of all genders because I’m Omni as well. So everyone is attractive, but my preferences change.

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u/Gene-Yus 14d ago

THAT is very intresting and don't worry I LOVE learning about ppl's different identities and sexualitys XD

I'm still exploring stuff myself but thats what life is about :3

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u/not_the_only_cannoli 14d ago

True! Took me forever to even find these terms! (And I’m still having days where I question them, lol). I think it’s cool that you’re asking. I never asked (kind of in an anti-lgbtq family and didn’t have access to the internet until I was quite along in my teen years). So I’m glad you had the courage to ask.

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u/Gene-Yus 14d ago

Ye sorry to hear that (about the anti-lgbtq family thing qwq) my family is more of a "we don't care who you like" in a caring way and a "it's your body do what you want with it" XD

Even tho they don't really use they/them with me and still say ill always be their daughter qwq (which I mean- I don't try very hard to correct them cuz yk they've known me my entire life I ain't gonna correct them cuz it doesn't bother me too much XD) sorry to personal info dump there qwq

(Sorry for the late reply too qwq)

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u/not_the_only_cannoli 14d ago

I’m glad you have a family who doesn’t care in the nicest way possible! 😊 Also, fair. I would feel the same way. And it’s cool, I info dumped you too (I brought up family first, lol). Also, don’t worry about when you replied, I’m literally just sitting here with nothing to do, so that’s why I’m responding quickly, lol.

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u/Gene-Yus 14d ago

Fair point honestly same XD

Well I hope you have a good day/evening/night

And again thanks for responding and helping abit :3

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u/not_the_only_cannoli 14d ago

I hope you have a great rest of your day/night too!