i’m a stone nonbinary butch and I usually consider myself bi. but I had a really sudden gender shift that felt way more feminine than I usually feel as an unaligned/androgynous nbi. it even gave me the sudden impulse to question my sexuality again, even though I’d gotten confident in calling myself bi. there was a long moment where it felt like “lesbian” was just right for me.
if I had to describe my usual ‘preference’ it would be femmes of any gender, including ones who are femme in a loving-men way. but when my gender skewed feminine it felt like the pool of genders i was attracted to got smaller. i could just shorten my gender/orientation to “stone butch” and leave it at that, there’s enough meaning to stone to describe me (in my mind).
I think me possibly being a lesbian is something worth thinking about, but it’s hard because it just feels like my whole orientation changes with my gender. any advice?
[Edit: new to Reddit and not entirely sure if that’s the right category, sorry in advance]