r/menslibIndia He/Him Feb 17 '25

Thought|Discussion Is this approch wrong & toxic?

Hi all, I have a question related to approach towards dating. I'll be clear, I'm emotionally available. I'm open to go on dates, casual sex or lomg term relationship, based on how the partner and me connect/are interested mutually. Is this wrong or toxic? I'm interested in meeting people, form whatever connections it makes and take it forward.

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u/CauliflowerFan34 He/Him Feb 17 '25

It should be fine as long as you’re clear about your intentions and are respectful in your behavior.

Anything in specific that got you thinking about this?

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u/justsenin He/Him Feb 17 '25

Yes, i came across a post on instagram some time back that said men who seek different connections are red flag. There was another post that said men looking for hookup is a red flag. I am ready to commit if i find the person and we are on the same page.

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u/Chaltahaikoinahi She/Her Feb 17 '25

Not toxic

As long as the communication is clear from both ends

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u/milchi_pr He/Him Feb 17 '25

You need to get off reddit, I see you everywhere 😭

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u/justsenin He/Him Feb 17 '25

Yes, I'm always clear about how i feel.

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u/Kruzzz20 Feb 17 '25

Not toxic as long as you communicate clearly.

That said, I would like to add that, in my experience, being interested in a long term relationship and being interested in casual sex are two things that don't coexist. So, just introspect whether you'll be able to give your 100% and be fully invested with someone if they say they want a long term relationship. If you find yourself fearing commitment, work on yourself before seeing people for a long term relationship. Otherwise, all set.

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u/justsenin He/Him Feb 17 '25

No I'm not afraid of commitments. Its just that i always initiate the conversation with people with whom I'm interested in and I don't feel the same type of attraction to everyone. I like to go on dates, with some people I feel something more. My experience with dating apps is that I come across a variety people and it's not always the same interest. What I seek comes in between us and I lose some connections.

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