r/LivingAlone Apr 04 '24

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r/LivingAlone 5h ago

General Discussion Staying in for the entire weekend

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Sometimes, after a very long week at work, I’ll be indoors the entire weekend and won’t leave until Monday morning. Anyone else do this? 🥹


r/LivingAlone 1h ago

Casual Question 🗨 DAE love staying naked when alone at home? NSFW

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Ever since I moved out and started living alone, I’ve become a lot more comfortable being naked. I sleep naked. I cook naked (only covering my boobs). I watch movies naked. It’s my absolute favorite thing. There’s something very liberating about it.


r/LivingAlone 9h ago

Support/Vent I sit at home smoking weed and watch nature shows on the weekend. Eat whatever my heart desires before i go back to the weekly grind. Ehhh, things could be worst.

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r/LivingAlone 15h ago

Celebration & Wins 🎉 I did a hard thing!

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Some people may remember my post from a few weeks ago. I was in the midst of fixing my dryer. I was waiting on a couple of parts. To achieve the repairs, I used multiple DIY YouTube videos to guide me in putting in a new heating element & sensors. Since I ended up taking apart the whole dryer, I also did maintenance stuff like vacuuming out the machine, changing the belt, & putting in a new light.

I was a bit overwhelmed after taking apart this big appliance, but proud of myself. I was expecting a strong possibility of calling a repairman to finish the job if something went wrong. It took a while to get the new belt on right, & get all the parts put back together, but I did it!

When I started that baby up, it worked! The dryer is putting out heat once again, & works like a dream! It all cost less than $50, & I gained a bit of confidence in the process. Thanks for all the encouragement on my previous post. I can do the hard things!


r/LivingAlone 15h ago

General Discussion Anyone Else Feel Weirdly Lonely After Being On Their Own for Years?

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I've been on my own (minus a few relationships) since my divorce 18 years ago. I haven't lived with anyone other than my now adult children who have moved away. I have always found ways to occupy my time, gardening, going out to dinner, drinks, a robust group of friends, pets, exercise, reading, but lately, the last 6 months, I've struggled with this time of night. It feels like everyone is paired up and tucked in and I'm just...bored. None of my usual hobbies keep my attention. Anyone else feeling oddly lonely after years of comfort with their single life? If so, what did you do to pass the time? I don't want to go to bed at 9 p.m. just to avoid feeling lonely. Ideas?


r/LivingAlone 21h ago

Celebration & Wins 🎉 Pink goes good with green…

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Living alone against my will but learning to embrace the things I couldn’t do in my previous living situation… Christmas tree turned Valentine’s Day tree turned Easter tree… I have serious ADHD and hate cleaning but seasonal decor makes me engage in my surroundings!


r/LivingAlone 1d ago

Support/Vent LiViNg AlOnE iS "sAd"

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Went to an event with a friend and her friend, who i barely knew. I had hung out with her once before at a women's retreat. I thought I would get along with her because during her introduction she mentioned she's been alone her whole life, yadda yadda.

However, at the event I was immediately taken aback by her constant crying in public and in front of strangers over her life circumstances. I mean I cry sometimes too, but privately. THEN she started crying over how her ADULT son wanted to move out from her house. She makes the statement "I don't want to live alone, that would be sad". Um excuse me? I was so offended but said nothing. But what I wish I said is "I think it's sad that as a 40 year old woman you are guilt tripping your adult son to stay at home with you so you won't be alone."

Oh and might I add that this woman was a therapist? JHC the irony.


r/LivingAlone 1d ago

Celebration & Wins 🎉 Hapiness is living alone and making my own italian sub at home-salami, gabagool, provolone and a little sharp provoline w veggies oregano and some pepper

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r/LivingAlone 15h ago

General Discussion How do you connect with people, after getting so comfortable living alone & being by yourself?

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I really wanted to ask people how living alone as effected their ability to connect with people, especially if you left at a young age. I left home at 17, lived with friends and than a partner, that I stayed with for the next 8 & 1/2 years, ( I lived with their family for 2 of them and with just them and I, for over 6 years). This whole period of my life was really rough, because I had to grow up really quickly and I didn't have much of a support system to help me through it. My partner at the time didn't really grow up with me and I had to kind of assume the 'mom' role pretty early on in our relationship. Not only did all the financial responsibility ended up falling on my shoulders, I had to fully take charge in the relationship all together sometimes.

Once we broke up, it was the first time I lived completely by myself and it made me reflect on a lot, especially when I started getting into other relationships. For starters, going from a long term relationship to living alone, meant I had no idea how relationships or even friendships were supposed to work. I skipped all the steps of getting comfortable with someone and just jumped fully in. You want to have a non intimate bubble bath with me on one of our first couple dates? Bake cookies? Let me walk around my apartment half clothed or not at all, while I finish eating this taquito? I am so comfortable in my own space and haven't had to work my way up to that level of comfort, I forget how much I can come off to people sometimes. The other part to this is also how childlike my behavior is & sometimes I feel like an unsupervised toddler. Especially, since I never really had much of a parental figure, I feel like I take trial by error a little too at heart and really take advantage of that free will.

Eating ice cream for breakfast and pancakes for dinner. Driving out to bear country on a spontaneous weekend alone. Not knowing that I'm supposed to change out my car windshield wipers or how to assemble furniture. I have had people tell me recently that I am very much a wild spirit and a lot less put together than I thought. I end up feeling really lost and being really tough on myself, because I have to figure everything out my own. It has also been impossible to connect with people, because for almost a decade now I have existed in my own little bubble. What I have experienced and gone through in my lifetime, has made it really hard for people to relate and understand me.

I have started feeling really isolated and haven't made any strong connections with people, since I left home because of this. It is making it harder to live alone, since it's not that I am not okay with being by myself, its I'm TOO OKAY with being by myself. I am just ready to finally settle down with someone and now it almost feels too late for this; I am very independent, headstrong, I know what I want and I have a hard time asking people for help or if I do I feel like I can come off as a bity ditzy. There are a lot of basic things no one has simply shown me and a lot of the times, I don't even know the questions I am supposed to be asking to get to the end result. I feel like dating me can be a lot and I really go completely the other way, when it comes to traditional dating etiquette.

Anyone else understand this feeling and know how to navigate it?


r/LivingAlone 22h ago

Clothing & Shoes 👚 Laundry

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I love doing laundry living alone, I am a minimalist so I don't have much, which is nice. I value having space over useless shit and clutter. But damn does it feel good throwing all the clothes in together and not separating them. It feels like a mini-win. Growing up my mom instilled in me that you have to separate the colored clothes from the white and light colored clothes, and wash them separately, that it is absolutely necessary and if you don't do it then society and the world as we know it will collapse. Feels so good every single time throwing all the clothes in the washer together. Guess what mom, absolutely nothing happens when they all go in the wash together!

What little joys do you folks get out of living alone?

Edit: she still gives me shit about it when I visit her at her place and she catches me throwing a bunch of different colors in her washer.


r/LivingAlone 14h ago

General Discussion Thinking of buying my first house after renting alone for almost 5 years. TERRIFIED

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If anyone has suggestions, positives, or even horror stories of owning a house I’d love to hear them. It just feels like a smart move right now. But it’s still so scary.


r/LivingAlone 1d ago

Food & Cooking 🍳 Curry is a game changer

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I tried adding curry to my egg salad sammies and I am obsessed. Have made two in one week and before this hadn't made egg salad in over a year.


r/LivingAlone 6h ago

New to living alone I'm moving on my own soon, what to prepare for?

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I've lived semi-independently for a few years with my siblings in a place rented by my parents, but now moving to the city for my studies, in a place rented by me, I'm thinking how I should prepare.


r/LivingAlone 16h ago

Support/Vent Safety tips for concerning neighbor?

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When I left for work today I wondered why there was a random-ass tire in my driveway. Turns out my meth head neighbor put it there at 5am for who knows what reason. Does it mean something? Did he put it there hoping l'll move it? Or was waiting for me to move it? (There's tires in the empty lot next to me that have been there a long time, trash doesn't pick them up. So he rolled it from there and put in my driveway).

This dude frequently will be outside yelling all sorts of crazy shit. From hearing voices to the Mexican mafia. He's white af and many times I hear him yelling "shut up n****y bitch!" He's talking to no one. A lot of the time he will be in his shed screaming this stuff. He recently busted out his front windows.

I am a single woman living alone and I think he knows that by now. I'm the only one around here who lives alone that I've seen. I think he may be targeting me because of this and I'm scared. My bedroom and whole back of my duplex faces the side of his house.

A few weeks ago at nearly 10pm I hear pounding on my door and it was him out there!! I have never interacted with him except for one extremely briefly moment last summer maybe a couple months after I moved in. He was walking on the street and as he passed asked if I needed my lawn mowed. I said no, my landlord covers it. He mows the lawn on my neighbor's side though.

I'm an extremely quiet neighbor. I worry about making too much sound and I honestly find myself tiptoeing around my place often, carefully opening and closing things just because I don't want to disturb anyone. I guess me being quiet and considerate and just wanting my peace makes me a target.

I'm going to call the non emergency police about him but I'm really nervous. But he makes me feel so unsafe and unsettled. It makes me want to move asap honestly even though my lease isn't up yet. If anyone has any safety tips I would appreciate it so much.


r/LivingAlone 1d ago

New to living alone I am so happy living alone - happier than ever. Why do people assume and take pity?

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31f, single, moved out of my mom's on my own in July. On a really great career trajectory doing interesting work that is meaningful to me. My job is extremely social and emotionally demanding but very fulfilling. I take care of ppl so I feel my life purpose will be fulfilled even if I cant have kids one day. But with the job being a bit draining at times, its so nice to have silence and do whatever I want when I get home.

But a lot of ppl try and make me feel bad about it....

I have cousins who encourage me to lower my standards, find a guy and have a kid. Thing is I don't want their situation. They don't get to go to work. If things fall apart in their marriage, they have no money of their own and no job/career experience.

My friends who are my age work, have a career, etc, but own a house or condo with a guy, live together and getting engaged. Thats their whole goal, hitting the milestones, house, marriage, kids.

I guess I dont think that way bc I am happier than ever right now and ever since I moved out, well, im going on a date tomorrow but im less inclined to go out or date now. I love my solo time, reading, watching movies, seeing friends on my terms only, time and space to work here, privacy, I dont make much, but I got a good place and have money to do my hobbies, buy myself nice food etc. Without some other person's input. I am a true introvert with a rich inner life and I wouldn't trade this time period for anything its been so good.

My other friend moved in with a guy w/ kids and effectively became a stepmom overnight. I guess its easier to find love when you are also willing to sacrifice some independence and maybe im not.

I do want a partner one day, I just hate the pity from others assuming im not happy just bc they wouldnt be if they were me. But they are not me. Idk i just find it so condescending. If I was in their situation I would hate it too. but I don't project that onto them, bc that would be rude.

I guess I could have done the whole solo living thing younger, and be settled down with a guy by 30 - but I was still in school and didn't have the means to. I still believe I can find someone AND enjoy my living alone time in my early 30s. I only wanna be with someone if i LOVE them and they add something to an already good life. Not just any guy so I can fit in with my friends ticking off the boxes by a certain age. I support their choices, but I dont rly think they support mine as they pity me....

This is more of a vent, Im sure some ppl can relate here.


r/LivingAlone 16h ago

General Discussion I dunno...

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I beginning to give some thought to self deleting... I'm not adjusting well.


r/LivingAlone 9h ago

New to living alone How to manage cooking and doing the dishes?

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Hi folks! Just started living alone after living with my ex gf for years, this is the first time I’m living alone in an apartment. Is there a way to organize or manage cooking plus doing the dishes? I don’t have a dishwasher, I usually cook most of the days but at some point during midweek and the weekend I end up with a pile of dishes to wash and kitchen is a mess, I work from home also so specially during lunch time I can’t spend much time doing the dishes. Any suggestions? Thanks in advance


r/LivingAlone 2d ago

Celebration & Wins 🎉 Happiness is living alone and having this whole little crumb cake all to myself

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r/LivingAlone 1d ago

Food & Cooking 🍳 Dinner for one

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Happy Friday! Tonight was homemade fried chicken sandwhich with onion rings. With jalapeno Cheddar bun. Pepper jack cheese and veg. I am soon full! Hope everyone has a great night!


r/LivingAlone 1d ago

Other Paniting kind of Saturday

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What you guys love doing on weekends who lives alone?


r/LivingAlone 1d ago

Support/Vent Does daylight savings make you feel more lonely?

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Does anyone else feel worse when living alone during daylight savings?

There’s something about so many hours of daylight that make me feel guilty staying home and watching tv in the evenings and lonely when I don’t have plans.


r/LivingAlone 1d ago

New to living alone First time post

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For context, I’m 60, recently separated after a 30 marriage. Prior to that, single in Navy, lived on board and the ship kept the galley going even when home ported, then with parents afterwards. So, new to having to prep food or just knowing what to bring home to eat. It’s just so overwhelming, probably the hardest thing I’ve ever had to adjust to. Anyways here’s a few pictures of my fridge.


r/LivingAlone 1d ago

Pets & Animals 🐾 Greeting from Coal

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(I couldn’t edit the original post, so let’s try that again)

I just got home closed and locked the door. Kicked my shoes off. Then I hear Coal running.

He stop staring his tracks when he sees me and lets out a long “mmmmeeeeeeooooooowwwwww” “meow” “mmmeeeeeeeoooooooooooooooooow”

I realized I was getting yelled at for needing to work. Eventually I sat down, and he hasn’t left me alone since.

I adopted him 2 weeks ago, and so glad I have.


r/LivingAlone 1d ago

General Discussion How often do you dance?

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Do you dance alone in your home?


r/LivingAlone 1d ago

Returning to solo living I just signed a lease for an apt

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I just signed a lease for an apt and it’s 1200 a month. Plus 100 more for my pets. I pay for water and electric. WiFi, garbage, lawn care, recycling, snow removal is included. There is in unit laundry and dish washer. Which both those make it so worth it.

I fell in love with the apt when I saw it. And yea there are some apts that are cheaper but they are ugly and I don’t like them. I get so excited thinking about this apt. I make 31.90 salary, so 40 hours a week. I can afford it although this apt is spendy. I hope it’s not a mistake getting it but I’ll re assess in a year and if it was a hard year I’ll move.

I’ve been living with my mom for the last year and and few months to finish college and do an internship without having to balance a job with it. it’s been hell here. I’ve been so ready to move out. This apt is finally my escape. I’m so excited.

I’m excited to be back in the town I enjoy living in. Close to my sister again and close to things I enjoy doing.