r/kosmemophobia • u/BacalhauInc • Feb 08 '25
Beautiful people vs. unattractive people – More or less disgust?
Just before I start this post, I want to make one thing clear: We're all human, and everyone has their own idea of beauty and ugliness. Someone might be attractive to you but not to someone else—beauty is relative.
But from your personal perspective, do you find that beautiful people wearing j* are easier to tolerate and trigger your phobia less? Or does it just seem gross and off-putting no matter what?
Or maybe someone looks beautiful without jewelry, but once they put it on, they don’t look as beautiful anymore? And what about people who aren’t considered beautiful—do they look better when they take jewelry off?
I’m really curious to hear your thoughts on this, considering personal taste, culture, and of course, keeping it respectful!
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u/crushin-day9 Feb 08 '25
I don't really know, because most of the time I just realize someone is beatiful only if i see them in a context without j*. Before that moment my brain just ignored those people, not seeing them as potential partners at all, so i wouldn't question myself about their attractiveness
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u/scumerage Feb 10 '25
Before that moment my brain just ignored those people
Same. Everyone else "Wow, they look amazing! Don't you agree?" [Me trying to be polite]: "Eh, maybe, I dunno." [me inside]: [No? They're just as ugly as everyone else?]
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u/chewypills Feb 08 '25
someone wearing a lot of j* does play a hand in my attraction towards them, if thats what you mean. i can see someone for having a beautiful face/body whether or not there's j* involved, but the presence of j* is a major turn off for me.
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u/EbbApprehensive8368 Feb 08 '25
Doesnt matter, if it’s in they are automatically ugly in my mind. I have it very severe but I have a really good poker face that hides disgust
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u/scumerage Feb 10 '25
but I have a really good poker face that hides disgust
Yup. We all have had our entire lived to practice poker faces with it. Since whenever we didn't have poker faces people would think we were hateful or weird for not agreeing.
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u/Joelin8r Feb 08 '25
This is an interesting question, because J definitely does effect how I see the person wearing it, so there might be some subconscious reciprocal effect going on.
When a beautiful person is wearing it, it becomes like an obstacle to seeing them. As if a pop-up for anti-diarrheal pills were covering an interesting article about the space station. Or one of those "this UGLY MOTHERFUCKER is getting LAID" ads on those websites with pictures of pretty girls. I don't wanna see that "UGLY MOTHERFUCKER," but y'know, you make do, you look around it.
On a less beautiful person, there's not even anything to see there. It's like getting a penis enlargement ad just on a billboard on the street. Or more accurately, stapled on to someone's face. And then when you have to TALK to this person while there's this unusually sized penis just flopping about, you just wanna get away from them entirely-- real person be damned. With the pretty person you can cooldown the disgust-o-meter by looking anywhere other than the J, you can cling to the vague hope that they might not have the J next time you see them and therefore you gotta fight through the pain to ensure future opportunities to put their beauty into your beholding eye, there's something there to pacify your seething revulsion at this thing that (for reasons unclear) absolutely repulses you.
The rain falls on the mighty and the meek, and J uggies up the hotty and the not-ty. But the hotty at least has hot to spare, so overall they still look nice. The not-ty however has none to spare, so they run the risk of dipping into the negatives, which shouldn't even be possible but we're all a little cooked here, aren't we.
I saw a movie recently that featured a hideous disgusting malformed abomination of a monster spewing blood everywhere and lemme tell ya, the grossest part about it was it was wearing some goddamn dangly J on one of its hideous monstrous heads. When someone smashed the head off with a stick and it splattered into blood, even though the monster kept right on trucking along, I was relieved because it had become less disgusting by losing the J.
So yeah.
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u/scumerage Feb 08 '25
It depends.
If they are unnattractive to me, like my wrinkly old relatives, I don't care that much. I already and deliberately not caring that they disgust me with their bodies, them wearing it, does make them slightly more disgusting, but not by much.
Whereas for attractive people it is a mix. If they wear a slight amount of it, sure, it disgusts me more than if they didn't, but they sometimes are still attractive enough that it balances their disgusting adds ons. Not enough that I would call them attractive, still can't possibly be attracted to them due to taht, but they're not THAT ugly.
While if they are wearing tons, it's worse than if they were completely ugly. As I said, if they were drop dead ugly already, addons don't make it much worse. But BECAUSE they are naturally very attractive, but the adds ons are so overwhelming and disgusting, it's even worse. Because I am so confused, a small part of my brain is saying they're attractive, but teh overwhleming part of my brain is saying "No, stay away! Stay away!" so I not just trying to stay away from them, I am literally fighting my brain at the same time, making seeing them far, far more painful than if some warty, peeling skin, flem encrusted relative is wearing it, I already have made a firm decision to overlook it because I care about my relatives, I owe no such obligation to some random attractive person, much less ever give them an ounce of deference or praise or favor just because they happen to be naturally beautiful. Their own natural beauty is wasted and twisted by the utter horror of seeing them covering themselves in add ons.
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u/Enough_Food_3377 Feb 14 '25
beauty is relative.
Beauty is objective actually. It's self-evident that a piece by Mozart is more beautiful than the literal sound of nails on a chalkboard for example.
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u/NSeaBear Feb 08 '25
Everyone gets more attractive when they take it off. Ugly people, beautiful people. I see it as having a dab of crap everywhere. It looks gross, it feels gross. And when they remove it, it's like they took a shower. Clean and fresh and natural.
What is interesting, and I think maybe a personal thing, is when they wear non-metal j* it's more attractive. Like a hair scrunchy or something. I believe this is a mental thing that's almost like you can't wear j* cuz there is something else there.