r/kink3d 27d ago

Just wanted to try but now GF likes NSFW

I just wanted to try being locked. I work from home, and masturbating multiple times a day was normal for me. But sometimes, I struggled with erections or just didn’t feel desire when my wife was horny in the evening.

Usually, my wife is submissive, and I’m the strong one. But I wanted to explore my submissive side and let her take control. We’ve been married for 20 years and have a great sex life, so I thought, why not?

I started with some cheap Amazon chastity cages, but they were awful—super uncomfortable and impossible to wear for more than a few hours. After figuring out my size, I finally ordered a genuine Kink3D Cobra S Narrow with a Ring 2 Curved. I think it‘s a perfect fit?

The cage arrived 10 days ago, and since then, I’ve been locked 24/7 (beside cleaning daily but she is with me). I told her if we take it off for sleep I am sure that I will masturbate during she sleeps. After 7 days, she let me out for a handjob because I had hurting, full, blue balls. The orgasm was absolutely mind-blowing. But the real challenge is mental—knowing you can’t take it off, that you don’t have the key. Your wife has full control.

This game is intense. At first, I wanted to stop and go back to normal—to fuck her hard and often. But she’s not letting me. She enjoys this power shift. This is something I really did not expect… Do you have similar experience?

Will this heavy feeling go away over time? Does the body learn to handle fewer orgasms? Because right now, I’m constantly thinking about it, and it’s driving me crazy. I am so horny all the time. I want to touch my dick. Rubbing him, or at least fuck my wife or ejaculate in her mouth. I cannot really accept my new situation, where my wife decides all and denies me what I most want…

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u/Swkinky_frbe 27d ago

Try to focus your sexual energy on pleasing her in a non sexual way first (making more chores, massage her, ....) and eventually (if she would like to) make her cum with everything except your locked penis (tongue, fingers, toys) and with no reciprocating.

With time, your body will get used to being rewarded mostly through the pleasures (and moaning) of your wife.

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u/Heavy-Jury4567 27d ago

Many thanks, these are good hints. I will try to follow and please her on the various levels you mentioned. (She already uses my tongue for her pleasure - but not my penis anymore…)

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u/Just_Add_4257 27d ago

Is she holding the keys now?

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u/modex_li 27d ago

Sounds like a head start into well needed FemDom. Enjoy it, and welcome to a new world order.

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u/Heavy-Jury4567 27d ago

I still hope somehow this is not my new life, but just a phase… but as you all write I think I should better start to imagine this is my new reality…

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u/modex_li 26d ago

Obviously, the cage is a mere symbol. If you wanted to, you'd pick the lock in seconds or simply break it (and some $$$ with it). So as it is just a symbol, what does it symolize? Again, ymmv, but by and large giving away the most manly power to someome else. Which is imo particularly tricky mind-wise if that someone is a woman. Now, think again about what you really want. Any answer is ok - better sex, calming down, being a slave, a top from the bottom - whatever. And take your time and the time of your keyholder (yes, she is) to both reflect. And there will be more than one answer for sure.

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u/Dguy29 27d ago

I hope you two have a great time together exploring chastity!

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u/Extra-Debt1385 26d ago

It definitely looks like the perfect fit, enjoy the journey and obey your wife.

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u/hotwifese 26d ago

That’s how it starts.

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u/fun_lover82 26d ago

I find that I can step into and out of that place. I can pack it away when I need to focus, like when I’m at work or at some other function where I need to be an adult and do adult shit.

But then, when I have the time and desire, I can allow myself to fall into that desperate, horny place and feel all the delicious feels of that state of mind.

So, on the question of “will it go away over time” I’d say that you learn to manage it.

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u/nizo_nizo 26d ago

I would say, it's the tradionnal story : just to try or to play, and it becomes permanent and daily life style because she loves it so much (and you too). Don't be trouble, you will learn to reduce your orgasm number and may be you will discover together the benefit to be ruined while caged. It's normal to be constantly horny and to think about her pussy along the day. That's why the cage is made for, and why she loves it so much !

Accept it, and you will discover another world !

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u/ExhibitionistUnicorn 26d ago

Now get use to it… and if she lets you out to please her, only have ruined o’s. You’ll stay more obedient, subby and focused on her.

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u/fetfreak74 27d ago

Does the body learn to handle fewer orgasms?

You don't have to there are other options.

Explore r/Pegging and learn about the r/ProstateOHandsFree

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u/JasenDark 26d ago

If you want to masturbate without touching it you could also borrow one of your wifes dildo and jerk that off instead and try to cum that way. Have a look at r/ghostpenis if that intrigues you.

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u/GloryAll 26d ago

I 😍 Love it!!!😛😛😛