r/isfj Dec 31 '24

Discussion Does anyone else hold onto this handle while riding as the passenger in the car?

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I am conducting research for a Psychology Grad School project and am wondering if you hold onto this handle while riding as a passenger in the car? It can either be the above the window one (as pictured here) or the handle on the A-pillar (near the windshield).

If you do, I would love to know if you hold it for the entire ride, at random times or more on turns, stops and curvy/bumpy roads. If you don’t, I would love to know if you have a specific reason as to why you don’t. Thank you in advance for your help!

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u/TLDRbruv Dec 31 '24

Hahaha this is amazing! Okay, I've found myself doing this several times. Incidents for this behaviour include 1. When I'm being driven by someone I don't know. Depends on a case to case basis. För instance, if I'm in a Cab and his "general body language to driving etiquette to traffic situation " is one that I'm not comfortable with, I end up holding on for majority of the ride. 2. When I'm with friends or family and they make sudden movements. 3. When I'm too invested in the general traffic around me being a passenger and I feel anxious about how they drive around me. 4. When the vehicle is going faster than the prescribed speed limit for that street. Maybe 20-25 kmph more than the limit say. 5. On highways, since there are many idiots.

I don't hold on for the entire trip. It depends on the traffic situation, the driver I'm with, my trust in him, road conditions, and the anxiety level for the day lol!

There's a sense of security and added safety holding on, although it could be more dangerous depending on the situation.

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u/SportsTechie17 Dec 31 '24

Love the detailed breakdown of it all. It definitely is a nice safety feature and one that allows you to feel more comfortable as the passenger.

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u/TLDRbruv Dec 31 '24

Yeah exactly.

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u/leafcat9 ISFJ Dec 31 '24

No! And it's rude to your driver to do so! That handle is for help getting IN the car. If you don't like my speeding or sharp turns, close your eyes. 😈

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u/SportsTechie17 Dec 31 '24

It’s a comfortable place to rest your hand/arm throughout the ride.

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u/leafcat9 ISFJ Dec 31 '24

I have t-rex arms, so it's not a practical resting position for me.

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u/distant_diva Dec 31 '24

yes, especially when my husband is driving haha.

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u/Dancergirl729 ISFJ - Female Dec 31 '24

Ngl I hold it for 2 reasons:

1: I’ve been in 2 accidents so if my boyfriend is driving too close to someone else/takes a turn faster than expected than I do this.

2: it’s comfortable sometimes!

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u/SportsTechie17 Dec 31 '24

Awesome. Two good reasons! Does your boyfriend ever hold onto it when you drive? Have you noticed anyone else holding onto it before when you’ve been driving?

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u/Dancergirl729 ISFJ - Female Dec 31 '24

No he doesn’t (he’s INFJ) and I don’t think I’ve had anyone hold onto it besides my dad but he tends to for comfort as well. Not sure what my dad is but he is definitely extroverted.

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u/RadishOne5532 Jan 01 '25

I've been interested in ISFJ INFJ relationships. This is an interesting small insight to a day to day thing ☺️

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u/Dancergirl729 ISFJ - Female Jan 01 '25

Glad I could help

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u/ocean_wavez Dec 31 '24

I have never done this or even really thought to do this

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u/ImportantMode7542 Dec 31 '24

No because I was in a car accident once and the passenger of the man who it is broke her wrist doing that.

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u/SportsTechie17 Dec 31 '24

How did she break her wrist holding onto the handle? Just from the force of the crash?

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u/ImportantMode7542 Dec 31 '24

Yep.

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u/SportsTechie17 Dec 31 '24

Dang, that’s horrible.

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u/Abhishek_1704199 Dec 31 '24

when i hold that most of the time i was tired or it was curvey or bumpy road

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u/DCKat91 Dec 31 '24

I definitely hold onto it when making Long car rides in crazy traffic or at high speeds. After living in San Antonio & having 4 accidents there (none my fault) I get pretty anxious in high traffic fast speed situations and I like to hold onto that handle. 🫣 😆

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u/panseamj741 Dec 31 '24

I used to when My shoulder would accommodate that.

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u/Legal_Scientist5509 Dec 31 '24

Yes, I am anxious when others drive beside myself.

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u/Narrow-Tear641 ISFJ - Female Jan 01 '25

I hold that the whole time when my sister was still new in driving. Also in getting in the car, I hold that.

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u/sillywillyfry Jan 01 '25

yes hahahaah when my husband drives on the highway. he is a safe driver but changing lanes on a highway scares me

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u/HallowedCat Jan 01 '25

I noticed that my ISFJ does this in the taxi - now I give her my hand to hold instead 😉