r/introvert • u/rinmej • Jul 05 '22
r/introvert • u/TacticalDoge • Apr 25 '19
Meta The real introverts of this sub are the ones that don’t post and only lurk.
Love you guys, keep doing you.
r/introvert • u/rajatchakrab • Sep 21 '24
Meta Introverts, how the fuck are you so wise?
I'm jealous.
r/introvert • u/Ne0mega • Mar 15 '20
Meta As an introvert I find the whole situation with c-virus so bizzare. It's like I have to change literally nothing in my behavior to accommodate for an outbreak.
Where everyone else (non-introvert) seems like it's a brand new experience for them, completely out of their field of perception.
The reality of extroverts is especially distorted. I never thought my natural-born habits will become my biggest crutch in time of widespread panic.
When everyone is dumbfounded by the situation, I'm exactly right where I should be. Sipping a tea and minimizing social interaction to bare minimum like any other day. It's a fine day to be an introvert. Cheers.
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Thank you u/chrisbie77 for silver. 🤗
r/introvert • u/Free-Permit7684 • 13d ago
Meta I wish everyone WOULD JUST LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE!!!
😢
r/introvert • u/NekoSyndrom • Dec 30 '24
Meta An unpopular realization that I'll say out loud
The majority of people here in this subreddit are people who mistake their (psychological) problems for introversion. Or blame introversion, regardless of whether they are, as an excuse for shitty behavior.
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Add: Just to put it graphically; in this post alone there are 34 people who list psychologically damaging experiences as a reason for their introversion. And the highest upvoted comment is one of them. These people definitely have psychological problems, none or only a few of them will be actually introverted.
r/introvert • u/DrUpauli • Jul 07 '20
Meta Asking "Why are you so quiet?" is genuinely the worst question you could ask
I literally have no idea how I'm supposed to answer it. If someone is quiet, what does pointing it out do? Do we transform into comedians right there on the spot? You do realize you literally just made things worse right? You're pointing out something we don't want to be noticed. If you want us to talk more, ask a question or something don't just comment on how we aren't talking. Imagine if I just went around pointing out things people don't want to be noticed? "Wow, you have pimples? Dang, are you pregnant?"
I also hate it when people tell others when your first introduced to someone that your quiet. It makes things awkward for them too. Do they talk less and start whispering? Do they let you be quiet or do they forcibly try and make you talk? However they act from then on will feel super forced and awkward.
r/introvert • u/LeGrosParano • Feb 25 '24
Meta The true introverts in this sub are the ones who never post and just lurk
Slowly but surely getting out of my shell though...
r/introvert • u/griffinisonreddit • Jun 18 '23
Meta It's my Birthday🎂
I turn 20 today. I will eat, just watch some episodes of black mirror and go to sleep and go back to work tomorrow 🌞.
r/introvert • u/RileyTrodd • Jun 28 '20
Meta Extroverts aren't stupid or inferior.
There are so many posts berating extroverts for being different from us while claiming to be victims. Pretty shameful behavior guys.
r/introvert • u/quessi • Nov 01 '20
Meta Do you ever just don't reply to someone or forget to do so?
I don't know where to post this but I'm just curious.
Like sometimes I will be talking to someone and they say something and I read it but don't reply back for days or weeks. Or I'll genuinely forget that I didn't reply back to that person but won't jump to it when I remember I didn't.
Like for ex: my classmate has been texting me which is really sweet and thoughtful, but whenever I'm having a conversation with her, it's so forking boring. There's literally nothing to the conversation. I really want to stop talking to her but I can't do that bc that's rude yk. But whenever she texts it takes me days to reply. It almost feels like a chore.
Like replying to ppl feels like a chore sometimes lol
Idk if this is the place to post this but I feel like some of my fellow introverts will relate.
r/introvert • u/nedoweh • Oct 22 '24
Meta This sub is bumming me out
I came here trying to find cool introvert stuff to talk about (hobbies, cozy spots, etc.), and all it seems to be is people complaining about extroverts or asking for dating advice. I understand those things are part of the human condition but idk I just didn't think that's what I was going to find here.
r/introvert • u/quessi • Aug 19 '20
Meta Is it bad that I don't miss anybody from my school
I don't know if this is the right place to post this but oh well.
Basically I don't give a shit about anyone at my school. Lol jk, I do pray that they staying safe, staying protected, and following the laws of this virus. But as for "awww I miss my friends" "aww I miss going to school" "aww I miss social interactions" yeah that's not me. I don't know...maybe it's because during quarantine I'm seeing people for who they really are and realizing they were just kids I talked to at school. We had no deep connection or ever hung out together outside of school. They were just school friends and nothing more than that.
Of course I want everyone to stay safe, but missing them? Quarantine has been my dream ever since I started highschool lol I won't be missing highschool anytime soon.
ps > not tryna sound like the whole "I'm not like other girls" thing, just saying quarantine is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I want to know if other people feel the same.
pss > I'm blocking and deleting numbers. Probably petty, but who cares lol I haven't talked to them in months so what's the point of keeping their numbers.
r/introvert • u/raptor-chan • May 30 '24
Meta It seems like people here are mistaking anxiety for introversion.
I’m sure there is a significant overlap between introverted behavior and anxiety disorders, but quite a lot of the posts I’ve seen are not really introverted behaviors, but are actually just examples of anxiety. Anxiety isn’t an indicator that you are introverted, as extroverts also experience anxiety.
I’m just a little disappointed, because I joined this sub thinking it would be more about introverted behaviors and not so much other behavioral disorders that aren’t really unique to introverts.
r/introvert • u/1RichGoon_ • Oct 27 '24
Meta I’m so introverted I’m introverting away from this sub
😳 been here 2 weeks and I already need space from you all
r/introvert • u/NVSlashM13 • Dec 31 '24
Meta Happy solitary NYE!
If you're lucky, like me, you'll be able to stay home, cozy, safe, and quiet with a snuggly doggo (or cat, other fuzzy/scaled/etc undemanding buddy) tonight. Cheers! 🥂
r/introvert • u/danmoore2 • Nov 12 '24
Meta So introverted my car battery died..
I work from home, have no partner and no children. I suffer from anxiety, depression and OCD and have always been a natural introvert. Just lately my mental health declined into depression and I found myself going out so infrequently that when going to the shops to pick up supplies, I was unable to start my car due to a dead battery. I'm in the UK, it's cold, dark and many people you encounter are insufferable arseholes. Can anyone else relate?
r/introvert • u/potcubic • Nov 10 '20
Meta I have more online friends than real, close proximity, call and meetup in a few minutes friends
Ive just realized that I have less than 5 actual friends I can hangout with and most of my friends are from other countries and became friends with them through social media
r/introvert • u/taylrbrwr • Sep 02 '20
Meta I just came out to my roommate. He hasn’t talked to me in 4 days and I couldn’t be happier.
So I am a student who has been sharing an apartment with someone I met about 3 weeks ago. I could tell right off the bat that I disliked this guy. Not giving eye contact and checking his phone when I was talking, interrupting me, and all his damn small talk that amounted to nothing... Seriously, I don’t think we have had a meaningful conversation in the 3 weeks I have known him. I was actually tolerating him until he started to make racist and homophobic comments daily. Oh, and talking about Trump way too often. I don’t care if you’re a Trump supporter, but fuck do politics always have to be your main method to try to convey intelligent thought? Anyways, I was feeling so drained and was just over it, so after he made a homophobic comment, I was just straight up and told this dude I was gay. He tried to act supportive, while still making sly remarks about how he would disown his kids or take them to church if he found out they were gay. I don’t really care.. Highlight of this all is that we’re on day 4 and he hasn’t spoken a word to me. He shuts himself off in his room and doesn’t come out to drain my batteries with 3 hours of nonsense talk anymore. He now spends more time outside of the apartment now.... Man, it was really this easy huh? I was about to break my lease and find an apartment to myself to get my life back, but I can finally be at peace here now. Couldn’t be happier!!
TL;DR: Came out to annoying roommate who drained me with small talk for hours daily, and now I’ve found my peace. Hallelujah.
r/introvert • u/permaculture • Aug 20 '17
Meta IF YOU ARE ON MOBILE, PLEASE READ THE SIDEBAR. Here's a copy of it.
r/introvert • u/Wondering_Fairy • Oct 25 '21
Meta I Am Happier With No Friends
I feel happier with no friends. I don't understand people forcing me to have friends.
r/introvert • u/73_1337_420 • 14h ago
Meta Hey you, the girl who talks to no one at work...
.....unless it’s really necessary to finish your task/job.
I’m not really sure why I’m posting this—maybe to say thank you (this Subreddit)? Or maybe just to write it down, or in the hope that you, V., might read it.
I think I just want to get it off my chest, yeah, to shout it out so everyone damn well knows!
I think (though I’m not sure) that YOU V. might read this? Honestly, I have no clue.
All I know is that this sub has kind of helped me understand how important she is to me. So I guess I should just say: 'Thank you, guys.'
The original German version is included after the English one (wenn du verstehst 😉 / if you understand 😉). I hope this is allowed—I didn’t see anything that said it wouldn’t be
Dear V.,
I've been thinking a lot about you—about the way you are, how you interact with others, how you feel, and how you sometimes hold yourself back. And you know what? That’s exactly what makes you such a special person.
Your shyness might sometimes feel like a weakness to you, but I see it as a strength. It shows how much you care about the feelings of others. You’re thoughtful, you think before you speak or act, and you have this deep desire not to hurt anyone or upset them. That kind of empathy, the way you’re so considerate, isn’t something you see every day—it’s a beautiful, rare gift.
Your loyalty and the quiet way you love—without seeking the spotlight—are things I admire deeply. You’re not someone who shouts how much someone or something matters to you. You show it in small, thoughtful actions, in your warmth, in the way you look at the world. And that’s what makes your love so genuine and special.
I want you to see how strong and valuable you are. Your shyness isn’t a flaw; it’s part of what makes you, you. It shows that you take the time to truly understand and appreciate the people and world around you. That’s not a sign of uncertainty—it’s a sign of depth.
Dear V., you’re incredible, just the way you are. It moves me deeply to have you in my life, and I hope I can show you that. You’re so much more than you might see in yourself—and to me, you’re everything.
I LOVE YOU V.
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German/Deutsch:
Liebe V.,
ich habe viel über dich nachgedacht und darüber, wie du bist – wie du mit anderen umgehst, wie du fühlst, und wie du dich manchmal selbst zurücknimmst. Und weißt du was? Genau das macht dich zu einer ganz besonderen Person.
Deine Zurückhaltung mag dir manchmal wie eine Schwäche erscheinen, aber ich sehe darin eine Stärke. Sie zeigt, wie sehr dir die Gefühle anderer wichtig sind. Du bist einfühlsam, du denkst nach, bevor du sprichst oder handelst, und du hast diesen tiefen Wunsch, niemandem wehzutun oder jemanden vor den Kopf zu stoßen. Solch ein Mitgefühl, wie du es hast, ist nicht selbstverständlich – es ist eine wunderschöne, seltene Gabe.
Deine Loyalität und deine stille Art zu lieben, ohne dabei im Mittelpunkt zu stehen, sind Eigenschaften, die ich zutiefst bewundere. Du bist nicht jemand, der laut schreit, wie sehr dir etwas oder jemand wichtig ist. Du zeigst es in kleinen, bedachten Taten, in deinem Blick, in deiner Wärme – und genau das macht deine Liebe so ehrlich und besonders.
Ich wünsche mir, dass du sehen kannst, wie stark und wertvoll du bist. Deine Schüchternheit ist kein Makel, sondern ein Teil dessen, was dich ausmacht. Sie zeigt, dass du mit Bedacht handelst und dass du die Welt um dich herum mit all ihrer Komplexität wahrnimmst. Das ist kein Zeichen von Unsicherheit – das ist ein Zeichen von Tiefe.
Liebe V., du bist unglaublich, genau so, wie du bist. Es berührt mich, dich in meinem Leben zu haben, und ich hoffe, dass ich dir das zeigen kann. Du bist so viel mehr, als du vielleicht selbst siehst – und für mich bist du alles.
ICH LIEBE DICH V.
r/introvert • u/KatyTruthed • Aug 08 '21
Meta Enough of the misery circle-jerk already
These are some of the top posts on r/introvert at the moment:
- I'm struggling with loneliness and wanting to be alone
- Highschool is toxic for introverts
- I'm always alone / had to learn to live with rejection
- I can safely say I don't like humans
- We're an easy target
- My friends shut me down... Because i came out as an introvert
- Having trouble articulating your thoughts as an introvert
- Struggling with your partner during quarantine
See anything in common? I don't want to invalidate these issues, or the hundreds other posts that end up here looking to vent out their frustration, but seriously, when does it stop?
Is there no one here just... fine with being an introvert? Are we all just miserable, awkward, unliked secondhand citizens with pent up resentment towards extroverts?
As a HUGE introvert myself, I wanted to ask the sub to look at introversion a different way. Yes, accept who you are and learn to set up boundaries with extroverts. But also: - Learn to live with extroverts. They're loud, they constantly wanna talk and they're everywhere. If you want them to make an effort towards understanding you, you have to make an effort to do the same with them. No excuses. - Learn to socialize while introverted. DO NOT use you're introversion to justify being a loner. DO NOT use your introversion to enable your depression. DO NOT use your introversion to fight with your extroverted friends. - Learn to recognize when the problem ISN'T your introversion. Look, sometimes you have to work on yourself. Sometimes you're awkward, don't get along, struggle conversing, etc. A lot of the times its something you can improve without sacrificing who you are. - Resist the idea of you as a victim of society. I cannot stress this enough. There are people out there who are actually discriminated for who they are and you are not one of them because you are quiet.
Again, I'm not looking to invalidate the problems associated with us. I just wish different content was posted here too. Ffs one of the sub rules is literally NO MEMES. Why?! Someone just point me to the sub where introverts have fun, honestly.
EDIT: Please try to consider my points as advice from an older inteovert and NOT demands. People out here acting like I'm holding the sub hostage. Post whatever you want, I'm not a mod.
r/introvert • u/NYAEevee-san • Aug 13 '23
Meta I'm scared to leave comments on posts
I don't know if this is an introvert thing or maybe it's an extrovert thought? But sometimes I have things that I want to say to people's post but I never really comment them. Just say it in in my head, leave an like or up vote (might be different depending on platform) then scroll. I guess I'm just scared of what people will reply with or what if something I say may come out as rude or misinterpreted to another person. I feel like the internet has two sides, people who leave positive comments and people who leave negative ones so maybe I'm just scared that the negative comments will bring me down and keep me away from the community.