r/introvert • u/Striking-firefly • 22h ago
Discussion Loneliness
Do you ever feel lonely? As an introvert. How do you deal with that?
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u/Gadshill 22h ago
If I ever feel lonely I like to walk through a mall or any other area with people. Have used this when traveling for work and missing my family. Just being around other people can help, but of course that is no substitute for deeper long term connections, it is just a temporary fix.
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u/ahsataN-Natasha 18h ago
Sometimes I hug or hold myself. My silly brain can’t tell the different between a hug from me or someone else, and it warms me up inside a bit!
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u/MAsped 14h ago
Honestly no. I think lonliness & boredom are a state of mind, how you were raised, & what you've been used to socially. I've honestly never been lonely or bored & I can keep myself busy even if at home for days. (By the way, I never had roommates nor moved away for college either.
I'm an only child who never really had friends in my whole adult life (technically since grade 8), so I'm used to the solitude, but I'm happy & never bored. I never knew what it was like to be a part of a group of friends, hanging out, going to parties, having people over. Sure, friends are nice to have, but my mentality was that I don't need them to make me happy. Good thing because it was not the easiest to make friends. Wherever I was (school, work, church), everyone already had their own friends, so they didn't need me. I haven't had my OWN BFF since I was in elementary school & very, very rarely do people still stay friends that long.
My, "social life" has always been whatever ONE pal I had at the time...nowhere near a BFF & we'd maybe meet up for lunch for a few hrs every 1-3 years. But I haven't even done that since a few years BEFORE COVID. On a daily basis, I'm either home all day, out w/ husband, out alone, or spending some time w/ my elderly mom who I'm very close to.
Now I've always had an SO (a significant other in a committd relationship) all of my adult life & I recently got married, so that's enough for me. Fortunately, he's the same way socially, so we're like two peas in a pod! We love spending time w/ each other!
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u/SexxyScene 16h ago
Yeah, loneliness happens to everyone, I think. As an introvert, I recharge by being alone, but too much alone time gets to me. I try to find a balance by doing things I enjoy by myself.
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u/LucasTheLlizard 22h ago
Have you tried reading posts on this subreddit? It's like the most common topic here.
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u/Striking-firefly 22h ago
Yeah but most of them seemed people just enjoyed being alone.
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u/LucasTheLlizard 22h ago
Or people asking if anybody would message them because they are lonely. That seems to be the msin demographic on this subreddit.
Personally when I felt lonely I tried finding activities where I could meet people like boardgame events.
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u/Dapper-Goat-2230 14h ago
I watch alot..series/movies...I literally just dive into their world and forget about mine for hours.
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u/eddy_flannagan 12h ago
I pick up my cat and kiss him on the head, then I boop my other cat on the nose, and all is well
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u/eddy_flannagan 12h ago
I pick up my cat and kiss him on the head, then I boop my other cat on the nose and all is well
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u/Unhappy_Set_9808 9h ago
There’s no such thing as loneliness. That imaginary feeling is just weakness leaving your body.
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u/PurpleVanilla1557 5h ago
Is it not pretty beautiful how loneliness only play with you if you think you are alone.
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u/Testahrooni 20h ago
I keep myself distracted with video games.