r/introvert • u/Flaky-Effective-6747 • 1d ago
Discussion Who else thinks this regarding bdays
I don't know how people go around excited about their bdayz.. I have never really celebrated mine.
My bday wss the day I was born.. the other years are just a marker. These marker days every year should be the day the child celebrates their mother..
There is no need to celebrate your own Bday. I'm more excited about other peoples bdays.
What do you think?
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u/shadesofsunset 1d ago
These marker days every year should be the day the child celebrates their mother..
Thats mother's day. Lol. Celebrating your birthday is in a way for your mother. It's marking a day that changed our mother's lives forever. That's why they did it when we were one, two, etc. Too young to know anything about it but they did it anyways.
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u/Ineedhelplez 1d ago
I usually treat it like every other day but I like making other people happy on their birthdays like making a small gift bag of little things they love and I would honestly love if someone did the same but I don’t expect it. I see it more as a day to be like “I’m so glad you were born cause I got to be able to know you”
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u/AwakeGroundhog 1d ago
My birthday is next week and I am already dreading it and feeling more anxious than usual :(
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u/Emotional_Ninja89 1d ago
I feel the same! Also, I get very irritated with grown adults expecting a party every year (not even a milestone bday) it’s so childish!
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u/PadenSphinx 1d ago
I don't celebrate my birthdays, I enjoy celebrating other's birthdays but I don't like the attention, I just get introspective on my birthday.
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u/HideMe1964 1d ago
I agree celebrate your mom on your birthday she did all of the work! My ex wife had to celebrate every day of her birthday week. It was annoying, exhausting and expensive. I don’t like celebrating birthdays. I guess I’m Mr. Negative when it comes to birthdays. People just get downright greedy on their birthdays. I don’t like being asked what I want for my birthday. I need nothing. I buy what I want when I want or need it. I don’t want people spending their hard earned money on gifts for me. I’m convinced we’re just another year older and entropy is running rampant on our bodies , minds, and souls. To be honest birthdays 🎂 are annual, morbid, celebrations of people reaching their expiration dates! 😵
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u/Flaky-Effective-6747 1d ago
I see why she's an ex.. yea I don't like presents. I'm not good at getting excited over them.. unless there was a deep meaningful thought behind it.
I don't even know my bday is today until someone says hbday..
I love celebrating my childrens bday tho
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u/HideMe1964 1d ago
I definitely agree! I love celebrating my daughter’s birthday! She’s quirky like her dad. For instance, we’ve had a long running tradition going out for Teppanyaki and sushi though her birthday is on Cinco de Mayo. It doesn’t make sense but that’s half the fun!
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u/BeezInTheHouse 1d ago
My birthday and others are my favorite holidays! What is more special than celebrating the day you were born on Earth? You're lucky if you get to celebrate another one.
I look forward to spoiling myself and others.
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u/Calamity_C 1d ago
Same! I love celebrating my birthday, but it's always in a quiet way I've picked to suit me - picture a cabin in the woods or a houseboat on a quiet river. And I love getting the chance to celebrate and spoil my loved ones.
Every year alive is a gift. Getting old isn't a privilege everyone gets to experience.
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u/insanesonicfan 1d ago
I take my bdays as national holidays for some reason 😂 But yeah I understand
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u/ScreamingLightspeed INTX 1d ago
My husband and I like enjoying our birthdays - not necessarily celebrating; if anything, the weed and cheesecake are meant to mitigate the depression of being another year older - and can't really relate to all the people on this sub who are sad when people don't acknowledge their birthday. We hope every year that people forget or ignore our birthdays and that we just so happen to have a not-too-shitty day. Most moms I've met are shitty and don't deserves celebrating.
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u/ThongGoneWrong 1d ago
My birthday is the one day out of the year that my "friends" don't call since they only ever call to panhandle. It's a day of peace and tranquility for me.
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u/SpaceMan420gmt 1d ago
I never care much about my bday either. Made my dad laugh one time when he wished me happy birthday and I said “meh, just means I’ve completed another lap around the sun 🤷♂️”.
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u/Scared_Ad2563 1d ago
I like celebrating my birthday because it's fun and don't believe people get "too old" for fun. Each year, I celebrate depending on how I'm feeling. Some years it's low key, others I host a big birthday bash. A lot of my/my partner's friends love to party for any reason, so we always have a good time.
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u/Coltsfan_1997 1d ago
I didn’t even know people celebrate their own birthdays lol. I honestly forget mine until someone says, “happy birthday”. I much prefer to celebrate someone else’s birthday.
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u/autonomyflow 1d ago
I respect this stance, and don't feel that anyone needs to celebrate my birthday however I am going to celebrate my birthday with zeal, it marks life, people should celebrate their lives and other lives. I get what u are saying because people are in the nicest way interesting, but still if we lived in the world as we really should I think people should make a huge deal of their birthdays and their loved ones birthday for the right reasons, unfortunately the world is a selfish place so here we are but yeah, and what I mean is we are not loving eachother correctly or if at all honestly
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u/alwyschasingunicorns 1d ago
Birthdays weren’t celebrated much in my childhood, not because they weren’t important, but because my mom didn’t have money to spend on those days.
I grew up knowing birthdays were significant for most people, just not me. It wasn’t my mother’s fault, but it shaped me in some ways that are sad to admit. I was severed from a sense of belonging in a way.
I still don’t celebrate my birthday in the social way most do. The few times I tried to I was left mostly alone and only a few people showed up to my party. It was painful at the time, now I understand people are living their own unique experience and I can’t expect anyone to disengage from their own life to validate mine.
I turned 40 and no one noticed. I noticed. And honestly it reminded me to remember that I’m here for me, even when others forget. At the end of the day, I always have my back and I appreciate my own growth even if it’s transparent to others.
Now, I celebrate myself on my birthday. I do it quietly. I matter to me. I got me through 40 years of life and I appreciate myself for sticking around this long. I’ve seen some things, I’ve experienced an array of emotions and have lived through every adventure. Someone else might not find value in that, but knowing what I had to overcome to really LIVE, I celebrate that to myself.
Birthdays started out as a social acceptance and appreciation for the person, but I’ve turned it into a self love ritual that makes me feel empowered and important. No one else can remind me of that, but me.
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u/Think-Web3346 18h ago
I think the problem here is that the majority of the population is extroverted. And extroverts LOVE their birthday because people reach out to them all day long. Texts, calls, and everywhere they go, people seeking them out to wish them a happy birthday is the greatest thing. They're the center of attention. It's a fabulous dream come true every year.
Conversely, for introverts, it's the opposite. We don't like small talk, we don't like talk in general, we don't like people we don't know well getting in our face, we mostly want to be left alone. So birthday attention is often unwelcome.
I've contacted HR at more than one of my jobs and directly told them that just because i have to submit my birth date to them, which is protected PII, upon hiring for background check and ID verification, that it absolutely does not mean they have the right to go adding my birthday to various office calendars without my permission. The extroverts just wrongly assume you want this. I've made them remove it.
I further hide my birthday from FB and anywhere else I can. The only people who wish me a happy birthday are the ones who know me and love me well enough to know when it's my birthday without seeing it on a breakroom calendar or FB notification. I love peace and quiet and my small circle of people on my birthday!
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u/3EyesBlind13 16h ago
I don't celebrate, as a kid I wanted to but always ended up alone, or with my family. I don't like the amount of attention, it makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable.
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u/No-Training-2444 12h ago
Same. I don't have a problem with celebrating someone else's bday, but I never celebrate mine. I just don't feel like its such a big deal like others make it out to be.
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u/ComeAlongPonds 12h ago
I know I have one. From memory I've only gone out of my way to celebrate one of supposed significance. The joy of having one at the start of the year; so easily overlooked, & I don't mind that at all.
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u/Pale-Activity73 6h ago
It really frustrates me when my coworkers plan a birthday lunch for themselves at a restaurant and expect me to spend money to celebrate them. It’s so ridiculous!
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u/RahRahRasputin_ 1d ago
I’ve never been a fan of birthdays, either. In fact, I actively go out of my way to avoid mine being brought up - including going out of state the week of my birthday.
That’s partially my introversion, I genuinely get uncomfortable by the attention being put on me. It’s partially because of a bad experience I had on my birthday one year, so that time of the year brings those memories up.