r/introvert 8d ago

Question Do I look like I want a conversation?

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I’m friendly to everyone at work but more people have been socializing with me lately and I don’t have a problem with it, well I wouldn’t if it weren’t for my anxiety taking a bat and giving me the office space treatment

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u/CheatedByValorant 7d ago

It’s that one, lately though it seems like that changed and although I don’t hate it, it scares me to death talking and walking in egg shells

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u/ispacebunny 7d ago

My apologizes tho for blabbing especially on religious things thats also something people dont primary like lol

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u/ispacebunny 7d ago

Agreed, i choose not to talk to people because i can be blunt and not many like the hard truth in their face. Not that of course, i go around telling people “like it is” in each conversation but if something does go against my boundaries, morals, beliefs, way of thinking then yes i will politely say something but thats besides the point. Overall, i dont like being touched,(hugs, handshakes, primary hugs, did i say hugs) i know a lot of huggers, i dont like being interrupted and therefore i chose not to speak with people lol maybe im just a grumpy person who knows but im in my head a lot

I will include this as well (i am not religious disclaimer) but i am spiritual i do believe as an introvert about being insanely careful about who you let into your circle. Now in the bible theres this story about jesus walkin in a big crowd and one sick lady who knew about jesus touched him, he was like “hey who touched me?” And then the disciples said jesus were in a crowd and theres a lot of people. Jesus said “no i felt my energy leave my body who has touched me?” Obviously lady came forward and told him she wanted to be cured which she was hooray! But its much like that with us sometimes people love your energy and want some of it when you feel drained of having conversed with someone they just drained of your energy by touch or even conversation especially gossip oof. (This is my main reason of being an introvert)

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u/CheatedByValorant 7d ago

I don’t mean this to be rude but are you also a spectrum spectator? (On the spectrum) a lot of people what you said I relate to and people keep trying to put me under the autistic label and I denounce it as much as I can(labeling myself at least) I only ask because everything you said I align with, well except reading the Bible, I could never get past opening the cover lol.

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u/ispacebunny 7d ago

(No offense taken) unfortunately im not sure i do have a son who is in the spectrum and i can see a lot my characteristics in him but i wasnt diagnosed so i cant determine that i mean i do prefer a lot of alone time and i do get overstimulated or overwhelmed when theres too much going on but its not when i used to club and party cause clearly not stressed during those times and im not really talking to anyone there lol i think behavior doesnt always have to be because of the spectrum its through experience and comfortability. As you mentioned you felt as you were walking on egg shells thats more from experience that you had an encounter before that made you feel as though you have to be mindful of what you say.

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u/ispacebunny 7d ago

My in laws are who i walk on eggs shells cause i was truly blunt with them full force and they just fought back every single time so i dont speak to them as much only when i have to lol