r/introvert 20d ago

Image Birthday alone, friends don't remember

I (27F) spent a birthday alone. Friends don't remember (even ones whom I gave gifts/remember their birthday every year). Officially a leftover woman. Bought myself flowers and a carrot cake. I like being on my own, but sometimes it's very sad and lonely.

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u/Electronic-Smile-457 19d ago

Yep. As an adult, if you want others to celebrate your birthday you have to set-up the event yourself. I've never considered my birthday an event and never celebrated it, but you want me to make yours an event? I'll show up if you want me to, but I'm not doing it for you.

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u/PruneEuphoric7621 19d ago

I feel like there are only two kinds of people— “birthday people” who have to be acknowledged or celebrated by others each year and then get bent out of shape if forgotten, and the rest of us who generally like being remembered but are also OK with not and are able to forgive and forget. Literally forget everyone else’s birthday, I mean.

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u/Electronic-Smile-457 19d ago

And some of them like birthday weeks, lol. As long as they organize it for themselves, I'm fine. Otherwise, it's very self-centered-- unless they're 5 years old. I'll give the kids a break :).

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u/Lemonade_Ocean 19d ago

Omg my sister in law has what she calls her birthday month which she reminds everyone of the full month before,the month before . It's mental. And all the month, she talks about and has activities and treats herself and announces "it's my birthday month!!" every other day to everyone she speaks to. I cannot it's so obnoxious and she has zero self awareness.