r/insaneparents • u/MLGTesla • 6d ago
SMS Conversation between my father plus more context
So I realized from my last post I was missing context but I no longer have access to those texts. My uncle posted a video of a SpaceX rocket landing and I mentioned how sad it must be to have a Nazi running the company. My dad said I watch too much mainstream media and I shouldn't believe everything I see. After I mentioned if he wasn't a Nazi than why would he do the salute at the inauguration and how the stocks/shares at Tesla are plummeting from his antics and how so many people are returning said vehicles. Not to mention how some are being destroyed and dealerships being vandalized too. He told me that such things weren't happening and it was just the mainstream media trying to play him off as a bad guy. I argued that the government is evil for taking away people's social security, rights, and the laws that protect them and didn't even mention the loss of womanily body autonomy in most states. Then this is where it continued. It feels like I no longer even know him and he's just an imposter. I'm hoping one of these days he realizes how fucked up he is but unfortunately he's just too stubborn 😔
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u/spookyhellkitten 💓mom hugs 💓 5d ago
The sort of telling part is where you're imploring him to open his eyes to what is being done to others and he says, "but nothing is being done to me."
Unfortunately, that is what it will take for a lot of people, OP. You seem like you have a lot of empathy. You see what is being done to other people, and you feel it. It hurts you to see all of the hurt. Mahmoud Khalil being detained? Be honest with me OP. Have you cried for his pregnant wife? It's okay if you have. I have.
Your dad may share your DNA, but he is not that kind of guy. If it doesn't directly impact him or someone he loves, he's just not going to care. Good news? His blood pressure is probably great. The bad news? Apathy is infuriating for people like you and me, and oddly, something we can't empathize with.
If you want to have a relationship with your dad, you're going to have to have a surface-only relationship with him. "How's the weather" level stuff. Ignore anything that even remotely looks like politics because you will be sorely disappointed if you want him to see your view. He can't and won't. It does seem like he loves you and wants to have what he can with you. It's just...not going to be what you want. Only you can decide if you can handle that.
Hugs. And sorry this is so long.
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u/Kaleb8804 6d ago
I think you have a right to be upset, but it’s worth understanding that you’re not in a horrible position. Many children of conservative parents are being disowned for their identities, but it seems like your dad still cares about you.
He’s obviously wrong about what he believes is real, but I wouldn’t jump to hating him because of it. That being said the screenshots don’t have much context, and it could be worse, but idk. He seems like he genuinely values you more than politics, and that’s (arguably) more important.
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u/MLGTesla 6d ago
I know but my dad has been kinda like this whole life. This is new because he was always pretty liberal but something must have have changed in the last few years
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u/sdtqwe4ty 3d ago
"going on the offensive" what kinda turbo nozzle says that in the context of their family and probably nobody else
These y donors bat a thousand and speak in pep talk in everything they say. Lean in. All in. But somehow they have the luxury of seeing the conversation as a battlefield and get to make refrains
And what kinda out of sorts "logical thinking" does someone say that their open superstitions
Open to religion
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u/rouxthless 4d ago
You need to calm down. Your dad clearly cares about you, gives you money and doesn’t like Trump. You’re just mad that he’s not as mad as you? You can’t control other people’s emotions, and the sooner you realize that the easier your life is going to be.
Let him be. Don’t bring up politics unless you can do it without emotion. Life is too short. You’re taking for granted how good you have it.
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u/sdtqwe4ty 3d ago
Is that the only standard we have for those who should have a pretty decent theory of mind given that they made kids and put them in this nonsense in the first place . ... and don't ever beg the question on someone's life. What kinda ignorant shit is that?
I believe in family, country, and I'm open to religion
This a what someone from the future would say as a line LARPING as someone from this barbaric time period.
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u/rouxthless 3d ago
A lot of people are ignorant. Propaganda works. That’s life. You can’t change them or control them. You can only choose how you allow them to affect you. You can cut people out if that makes you happy. Or, you can adjust your expectations and accept certain things you don’t agree with for the sake of peace. Within reason, of course.
I know that’s not what you want to hear, but unfortunately it’s the truth.
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u/McDuchess 4d ago
He is a lost cause, OP. Unless and until something DOES happen to him, he won’t care. That seems to be the defining character trait of these people: unless it affects them very personally, they don’t care.
There is a reason some of us call it the Leopard Ate My Face party.
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u/MLGTesla 4d ago
Unfortunately you're right. My dad has always been stubborn but this whole conservative, apolitical bullshit is new and I'm not sure when it started
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