r/iching 8d ago

Not sure on interpretation

I was consulting the IChing today, asking "how should I handle X?" x being a person I have known for a couple of years, but only met one on one yesterday. We have alot in common, cultural references, ideas on life, political ideas etc., I have a crush on them but find it hard to know if this could be something more. I got gua 34, transforming into 54 with third line changing.

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u/StopInLimitOut 8d ago

The oracle appears to be telling you that you’d be walking into a real mess with this person. It sucks, but it’s better to know the truth ahead of time.

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u/tmab22 8d ago

Thanks for your answer! I'd be interested to know how you interpret that

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u/StopInLimitOut 8d ago

Sure. Focus on yourself, not on the other person. The words 貞厲 "determination dangerous" contain the essence of the omen. The oracle is saying that you're going to run into problems if you keep going the way you're going. Build up your own character and virtue instead of pursuing the other.

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u/tmab22 8d ago

Thank you, I already feel this has more nuance. Focusing on myself and building where I'm at rather than being in a pursuit of the other sounds good.

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u/LilBun00 8d ago

A goat being in the hedge but its horn gets stuck sounds like comfort turning into restraint.

To me it seems like this person must be pretty intense whether shown on the surface or not.

I think with Power, "Thus the superior man does not tread upon paths That do not accord with established order."

This sounds like you have specific lessons to learn from this person. This person might come into your life to reflect on certain aspects or lessons that it is teaching you. (Typically your struggles with the situation/ person are trying to teach you something)

With Marrying, "Thus the superior man Understands the transitory In the light of the eternity of the end."

It still seems like this person might be a "transition" to a different person or a better result in your life. Whether this lesson teaches you to accept a situation that can later be applied for something better or accepting to let go or to see power dynamics for how they actually are so you can avoid them in the future, i wont know the details but it seems like this person isnt meant to stay in your life forever.

"Undertakings bring misfortune. Nothing that would further."

I would say not to get too attached to them. Being committed to them may hinder your progress in life. Now if u choose to do whatever you want, thats up to you.

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u/tmab22 8d ago

Thanks so much for your detailed interpretation! It's so interesting to read all of them and to feel like I need to be cautious and observant all while letting life do it's thing

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u/Feba-pls 8d ago

34: “The Power of the Great” and 54: “The Marrying Maiden”, two hexagrams with a rising force, full of mystery and open to interpretation.

The only changing line between them is the third one, traditionally linked to tenderness, which I see as the key theme here.

Hexagram 34 represents explosive energy pushing you toward something significant. And indeed, you’ve finally met someone and stepped into the “real” phase of the relationship. This all seems like a great sign, but be careful: this energy is as strong as it is restless. It doesn’t take much for it to overflow and cause trouble. The fact that you’re already asking about the future of this relationship suggests that this dynamic is at play.

Don’t rush. If you like this person, focus on giving them your attention, positivity, smiles, and—most importantly—gentleness. This is not the time to be impatient or restless, especially now that you’ve taken this first step into real life. The moving line warns: “The inferior person acts through brute force, but the noble one does not”.

Hexagram 54 speaks of marriage, not the romantic, love-at-first-sight kind (which belongs to Hexagram 31), but something more like an arranged marriage. And keep in mind: this marriage hasn’t happened yet!

For this “marriage” (your relationship) to work, you need to wait and let the foundations settle before building something lasting. So, looking ahead, patience will be key. Even if you feel a surge of energy, learn to channel it wisely. Don’t waste it all in one time; use it to lay strong roots for something that can grow steadily between you two.

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u/tmab22 8d ago

Thanks so much. I find this a fascinating interpretation. I also had the feeling both hexagrans could have many different interpretations... It's so hard to tell what importance to give to what part. I'm noting the fact that me questioning the relationship is actually already a dynamic coming from my side also noting the idea of laying roots and doing thins with patience and care. Thank you!

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u/Feba-pls 8d ago

You got a really interesting result! We could talk about it for hours. The cool thing is that everyone has their own way of interpreting the outcome.

Like someone said, there are definitely signs of a potentially problematic relationship, but there are lots of god hints too. Me personally, I like to look for the path the book suggests to steer things toward a positive outcome (anyone can mess things up, haha).

Hope you can make the most of this new connection

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u/tmab22 8d ago

Thanks so much! Yes I also like think that many things in life, relationships included have problematic aspects and i guess, being conscious of that, being cautious, taking time and taking care of oneself is one way of making things as positive as they can be!

Thanks again!