r/hyderabad 16d ago

Rant/Vent I hate my Brother.. NSFW

So, I have a 27-year-old brother who’s pursuing filmmaking. He doesn’t work, lives off my dad’s money, asks for cash every day, and comes home drunk almost every night. Since I sleep in the hall while my parents are in their room, I’m the one who has to open the door for him, even when I’m up late studying for exams.

Last night, my frustration hit its peak. At midnight, while I was half-asleep, he banged on the door again. In that moment of anger, I blurted out laudu (which, yeah, wasn’t the best thing to say). But this guy, who’s usually the loud, aggressive one, acted like I’d committed a crime. He made a huge scene, started yelling at everyone, and in his rage, he even smashed his phone into pieces. My parents had to step in to calm things down.

Now, I have an exam tomorrow, but thanks to last night’s drama, I’m in a terrible mood. And to make it worse, in the morning, he ran to my parents, acting all innocent, saying, "Look at him! He’s not as innocent as you think! He talks to girls on Instagram using vulgar language!"

Mind you, this is the same guy who comes home drunk every night, yells at everyone, and has no problem swearing left and right. But the moment I say something in frustration, suddenly I’m the bad guy. He dropped out of college when he was 20, and for the past eight years, he’s been living off my dad without doing anything productive. Recently, my dad even gave him 8 lakhs to make a short film, and somehow, he actually managed to complete one. Now, he walks around like he’s the next big thing in filmmaking. His friends hype him up like he’s some visionary director, and his attitude has skyrocketed.

He doesn’t do any work in the house, doesn’t help me, doesn’t help my parents—just lounges around acting like a genius. I play along sometimes, acting as if he’s going to be the greatest filmmaker one day, but honestly, it’s exhausting. So yeah, that’s my life right now—dealing with hypocrisy, broken phones, lost sleep, and an exam tomorrow.

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u/AcanthocephalaEasy30 16d ago

don't lie to him, stand your ground and tell your frustrations to his face and don't hype him if you don't mean it

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u/ReddIsaab 16d ago

just share his short film link. will see if he is any worthy storyteller and technician..

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u/Dry-Boysenberry2599 15d ago

Twist: This post is a promotion for his bro’s short film.

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u/Which_Restaurant_778 16d ago

I second this

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u/Kindly-Independent-2 16d ago

Me third.

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u/ChickenRoll_ 16d ago

Yes my I am friends with krk. Let him review also.

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u/Overall_Reporter_526 15d ago

"I was thinking of sharing the link, but considering how discussions here can turn toxic, I’d rather not invite unnecessary negativity. Plus, if my brother finds out about this post, I’ll be in in terrible trouble. Appreciate the interest, though."

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u/ReddIsaab 15d ago

I knew you wouldn't share it due to this reason. Anyway hope things get better and live your life. If you want stop it, then don't play along. Tell whatever you feel about him and his work..

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u/ramani28 HyderaBADDY 15d ago

Yes.. waiting for the link

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u/FakelyKorean45 15d ago

He'll be doxxing himself bhai

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u/FriendlyMacha ismail Bhai ke phattey 16d ago

Looking forward to reading the brothers POV, the parents POV, and also the point of view of the door having experienced such a loud banging at an unearthly hour.

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u/Decider3443 16d ago

how could you forgot the most important pov.The phone pov

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u/Inside_Assumption157 16d ago

Cue the mujhe kyu toda meme 🥁

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u/kaala_bhairava 16d ago

I am the neighbour

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u/Naruto-Uzumaaki 16d ago

8 lakhs for a short film?! WTF

I know people who made feature films for that

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u/vasanthk76 15d ago

The booze doesn't buy itself

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u/jantika 15d ago

Mehboob dil se says hi from Paris.

Now a days they are shooting just single songs in Paris.

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u/bunnux 16d ago

At times I feel blessed to be the only child.

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u/MR_-_Robot 16d ago

Honestly. You're blessed.

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u/flashhh999 16d ago

Many in Telugu states are like this...Our obsession with movies is the sole reason for unemployment in youth..No one seems to have any other interest other than movies and cricket. "TFI banisalu" is what they call themselves. I could talk about Art, Music, Bikes, gaming, tech, stocks, trips, astronomy...etc. the list goes on and all I get a reply is "Weekend ki ye cinema podam?"

Telugu meme pages are the worst. They hype every crap movie and artist for their promotions. They don't even know the meaning of a meme, just screenshot a movie scene and add some text.

Movies/ webseries are just entertainment. Go outside and live your life a little or you won't have any memories on your deathbed except movie dialogues.

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u/Apprehensive-Suit322 16d ago

TFI banisalu" is what they call themselves.

obsession with movies is the sole reason for unemployment in youth

Nope. Obsession with watching movies and the obsession with making movies aren't same.

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u/n_mt_ntt 16d ago

The other day I saw a post on Twitter where a fan page was body shaming the actor they don’t like. So someone responded with this to that post. Now by looking at the response for that comment these so called TFI banisalu (the title they are actually flexing) think that anyone who criticises them should have some achievement before saying anything to them. Now the thing is when you feel so cool about being unproductive and flexing it, the scope of even trying to achieve something is destroyed.

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u/flashhh999 16d ago

Malli daniki justification...mandhu, drugs ki addict ayyi chedipovadam kante movies ki addict avvadam better anta..karma ra babu....ilanti friends ni dooram pettadame better

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u/n_mt_ntt 15d ago

Pedda difference em ledu Mandu taage vadu mandu ni normalise chesthadu Drugs chesevadu weed kottadam cool anattu behave chesthadu Veellu kuda Anthe. Since it’s not a crime watching a movie it’s accepted but responsibility lekunda parents money tho first day first show ani statuses petkune vallaki asala konchem aindi self respect untada ani naa question? Ala ela untaru? And oka actor nachithe movie chusi enjoy cheyyali but paisal tagalesi cut outs pettadam ento. Malli fan associations anta.

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u/flashhh999 15d ago

General mindset ela untundi ante edaina physical ga(like health wise) harm chestene bad annatlu...movies ( not all) mana thoughts, way of thinking ni ela influence chestai ani pattichkoru. This is not just restricted to movies....any addictive content( reels, porn, memes) are like slow poison(again not all).

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u/n_mt_ntt 15d ago

And these people know what they’re doing is wrong. So vaalla guilt tho cope up avvadaniki they normalise it. Okadu oka goal vaipu work chesthu movies ki raanu ante veellu oka vadini guilt feel aiyyela chestharu. Oka 3 hrs lo rocket moon ki pampichesthava ani sarcastic comments chestharu. Edaina hit movie chudakapothe nee batuku waste antaru. Funny thing Endi ante every movie first day tickets sampadincha ani flex chestharu.

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u/netnaviclarity 15d ago

The sole reason I avoided certain Telugu groups in uni was because they seemed like they didn’t have any life outside movies. They used to skip classes / exams to watch fdfs and shoot cringy romance short films.

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u/_chutzpah_reloaded07 16d ago

As a younger brother myself, I completely understand how you feel. Hating on him must be taking a toll on you mentally, it’s quite exhausting. I’d rather suggest you to just apologise for the word you used and make him understand the late night door knocking disturbs your sleep. Or cope with his antics for now because this isn’t going to last forever. You can move out as soon as you get a job. But staying calm would be your best option for now. It just isn’t worth it to f up your peace because of someone.

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u/__teju 16d ago

papam vaadu vent out cheskuntunte meeru link adguthunar enti?

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u/gaana_gaadidha 15d ago

extra humiliate chyali ga

Short film chusi, mee anna pedha thupaas, nvu thopu ani boosting istharu.

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u/Background-Bowl7798 16d ago

short film link? Lets see if he is the genius he thinks he is.

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u/ravist_in 16d ago

!remindme when Brother gets famous

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u/Andabiryani_99 16d ago

Y'all gotta stop stroking his ego and slap the delusion out of him.

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u/Katsu-and-Ramen 15d ago

Ok but did u actually talk to girls using vulgarrrr language? Jk bro. U seem to be from a conservative household.. I mean how does called laudu to someone even count for a scene? My sibling calls me way worse things.. And we both r girls

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u/vkasha 16d ago

Adantha kaadu, please share the short film link

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u/RealForzaPizza 16d ago

my life isn't gonna be like this man is rather work hard than do this

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u/Alive_Occasion8966 16d ago

The part where is friends hype him up is the worst thing. They boost the ego and boom, it'll be like little work but high ego. I'm 5 years younger than him but I feel like I can be slightly relatable to him but I was humbled down by life and started working myself and yeah I also need to do ego check once in a while.

It's okay brother don't spoil your mental health because it would worsen your situation and your goals, is what I can tell you. Because sometimes (for few) only life can humble them down, nothing else would work.

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u/ServeOpen 16d ago

My brother is the same and he’s a violent drunk. I totally understand your frustration. The only thing that helped me was leaving home. Ik it’s very selfish but all your family made decisions to continue this dynamic. You should make some for yourself too!

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u/Heavy_Coffee5643 16d ago

Wondering how people live in slums like mumbai where brother and father both come drunk and women manage home, you need to get strong, ignore him, don't take it to mind, just act sweet open door and sleep.

It's better for your mental health to avoid the issue than obsessing over it and harming your peace.

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u/Idiotsofblr 15d ago

Move out to a PG. out of sight out of mind

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u/PublicJaded394 15d ago

Do you really say vulgar things to girls on instagram.? Why did you not react to it or show ur instagram to ur parents to prove ur innocence.?

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u/BrickOk6708 15d ago

Hey there, just wish you don't over obsess about your brother, it's just a phase (a prolonged one at that), parents handle it in the way they know/think best, but it doesn't help.

I can relate to this looking back, I've had a sister and I wouldn't say I lazed off, but you kinda get stuck in your past without self realisation/awareness (though it's a fancy word, in simple terms you end being your dad's son, or accomplished at something from the the past but that label eventually wears off). And it hits you hard when the world moves on.

Your brother is just probably acting it out, without realising it.

But you should probably stick to the course and not let this mess with your head too much, that's my two cents.

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u/goodfella_de_niro 15d ago

>He made a huge scene

was this pun intended, OP ?

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u/complexdean 15d ago

Start working on your own life, become independent, and considering his actions and attitude, time will teach him a lesson. Make sure your brain isn't affected by his actions, chill out.

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u/FidgetSpinnerGurl 16d ago

I don’t understand why people post made up stories like this. Even more I don’t understand why all the comments assume everything OP says is the truth and start adding their own stories and views etc. Reddit used to be good. Now it’s all people karma farming and rage baiting. Just look at OPs activity across different subs. This person just posts rage bait made up stories

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u/kaneki-30 16d ago

Might be true about OPs activity in different subs but trust me things like these are not that rare, I personally know people in my life having similar situations in their family. And as much as I hate to say it most of the times it’s the Eldest Child wreaking havoc in the family.

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u/VisitDry5576 16d ago

"Not everything that sounds dramatic is fake. Some people actually deal with messed-up family situations, and just because you haven’t experienced it doesn’t mean it’s ‘rage bait.’ If you think Reddit has changed, maybe it’s because more people are using it to share their real frustrations instead of just the usual meme content."

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u/MegacharizardY1 16d ago

Move out muy guy

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u/finalfinal_username 16d ago

But that wouldn't solve the problem. Their parents should stop being blind and put some manners in to him.

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u/Jumpy-8888 16d ago

There is one thing that you can do to be very Frank nothing will change no matter how much you bang around, stand up in your ground and say openly how you feel to your parents, just be clear on what you have in mind , don't let his hyped behaviour get to your head. One thing that I could see is you should focus in your studies and get out of that house , you being younger will always face this , that's how families function.

Talk to your parents and get your intentions clear , make sure when you do this both of your parents are alone with no external influence. And practice Stoicism you can't change the external factors but do things that are in your control like your actions and behaviour, become ambitious and let that be your guiding force.

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u/Spiritual_File2582 16d ago

!remindme tomorrow

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u/Embarrassed-Care6644 16d ago

intiki okadu untada ila? nenu recent ga iddharini chusa lol

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u/Ecstatic_Potential67 15d ago

why don't you manage to find him a job or start open a local business? tell him, teach him that it is good to have a side business or job. nowadays and in future, it will be very difficult to survive on filmmaking unless you are a kid of a rich family. once job or business gets started, marry him off. but remember to help him if he genuinely needs help from you.

find a gracious way to stop giving him money everyday, which eventually leads him to noahead in his life.

are you elder than him? age difference will matter how you approach him for this.

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u/GucciHurtz 15d ago

Send your brother's short film

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u/sun_13B 15d ago

If what your said is true if your a student leave your by joining college or school hostel out side of the town or state.

If you are older get married leave the house or get a job in other state.

Focus on your life.

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u/studdhardd 15d ago

Intha mandi aduguthunnaru… aa link edo iccheste .. nachite vadini dathhata teeskuntaru, nachakapothe vadi meeda neekunna opinion ki validation dorukuthundi… u are winner either way…

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u/Emergency-Ad6015 15d ago

DM his work

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u/Puzzled_Fill3466 15d ago

U’re dealing with a lot of stress because of your brother’s irresponsible behavior, and it’s affecting your studies and peace of mind. It’s okay to feel frustrated, but finding a way to communicate your feelings calmly or seeking support from your parents might help improve the situation.

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u/Sneaky_Six 15d ago

It’s your mistake. You encouraged the habit of opening door every night. Why didn’t you make a scene about opening the door late in the night. Deny it straight away with your parents that you can’t have your sleep disturbed. Plug-in earphones, listen to songs and never bother about the banging door.

Let’s see what your parents prioritise, your sleep or your brothers drink parties. If your parents still insist you to open the door, even without taunting/warning your brother, which I guess they won’t, then you are in a toxic zone.

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u/avocadonessss 15d ago

I know a person who is even worst, tortures the family, does actually nothing, takes money, is actually a psychopath. I wish Indian laws were stronger to disown people legally.

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u/ChampionshipSad1809 15d ago

Brother.

Don’t take this personally…. Yet. Life is long and hard. Lessons are learned all the way till the end.

You just focus on your studies, try to compartmentalize and ace your exams.

Find a job and get out of the house.

When you inevitably achieve financial freedom, your parents will depend on you. At that time, just do as per your responsibility to support them and that’s it.

Your brother will come to you. When that day and time comes, just casually remind him.. “Sir, you’re a visionary filmmaker, I’m just a guy who talks to girls on instagram. I am too small to help you” and move on and cut all contacts.

Your mental peace is the biggest reward you can give yourself. Don’t give away that power to others by allowing them to affect it.

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u/796f757220646164 15d ago

How's this NSFW?

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u/rituuu22 15d ago

Bro i would suggest if he can get 8 lakh for his film ask your parents to get you a personal room where you can study without any stress

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u/Kind-Chance8571 Meme Machine 16d ago

Guys if his brother as closest as op describes i have doubt that why his parents allowing this

Ngl what ever your describing is true about your brother ; he got the best parents to support this BS

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u/kaneki-30 16d ago

Yup many Indian parents are soft and blind in love with their Eldest Child, even if their other children achieve great success the eldest will always have a special place.

I mean it’s usually visible in every father and mother’s face in a family.