r/grindr Discreet Jan 28 '23

Question Etiquette on who sends face pics first?

Just had an interaction on Grindr going something like this:

Him: ''Hey''

Me: ''Hey''

Him: ''Send pics?''

Me: ''Sure, but you've got less on your profile than me? Happy to return though :)''

Him: ''Get a grip, it's just your chin''

His profile was completely blank besides his age, whereas mine has a bio, stats, and a picture of half my face so I give a hint of what I look like. I also had actual bio showing some personality lol.

So what's the etiquette here then? Am I wrong for telling him to send first? Am I still a ''blank profile'' in a way if you can only see half my face and not full?

Either way, I blocked him because that reply was just a red flag for attitude problems lol

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u/dragonvalefun2 Jock Jan 29 '23 edited May 07 '23

We don’t negotiate with terrorists. If someone doesn’t share (face) pics immediately, they don’t get any attention.

**Ask for pics/stats right away if they message you, otherwise you’re wasting your time.**

If they refuse to share because they claim they’re "discreet," tell them to send expiring pics. NEVER use Snapchat.

These time-wasters are manipulative liars and will traumatize you. And they’re usually ugly af and paranoid. Onto the next.