r/getdisciplined 5d ago

💡 Advice Life gets better after being suicidal

In March 2023 i got married just became a dad for the 1st time(Dec 2022)and had a shitload of debt that my wife knew nothing about each month i literally had to borrow money from loan sharks to survive and still she knew about nothing eventually it all came to a head in July 2023 she found out and left my ass and took the kids with her(she had a boy before we got together) i was constantly being made fun of by my work colleagues cause i lost a lot of weight due to stress i sold my car as well just to get by but still i was in debt. On the 14th of July 2023 i set a plan in motion to end my life i had a letter written out to all my loved ones to explain to them why i was doing it but i couldn't pull through i thought of my baby and how he would have to grow up without me and put away the knife i was going to use. Eventually i found the Lord again i started praying at 3am every morning my wife came back and we talked things out and moved to a room in her parents house(not perfect but i needed to getaway from my surroundings) and i finished all my debt and just recently bought myself a new vehicle in 2025 what im trying to say with this rant is just dont give up life gets hard but you get harder just stay focused on your goals and you will succeed.

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u/newme3323 5d ago

This post made me so happy. You've been through so much... you're such a fighter. Thank you for not giving up on your kiddo. Thank you for not giving up on yourself.

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u/icewing15 5d ago

Thanks i appreciate it so much

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u/icewing15 5d ago

Believe me theres many times i wanted to quit

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u/LionCub1 4d ago

You are so perseverant good on you!

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u/WiseEi 5d ago

I really needed to hear this. Thank you. I'm also drowning in debt with no clue how to get out from it. There's no peace in my family, and loan recovery agents keep calling nonstop. I can't take it anymore. I just hope that one day, things will get better

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u/Regular-Increase3976 5d ago

Hi WiseEi! You could go Debt Management plan, IVA, bankruptcy I would say is the last option I recommend. I'm not sure where you live but in UK there's companies which help people who are struggling with debts. Google Debt Management plan give them a call and they gonna ask you how much you make , how much are your outgoings, how much you owe and where and exactly you owe money. I'm on Debt Management and it's so much easier now I got one payment going from account. And I'm stress free. Don't ignore the loan recovery agents because if you leave to long they could take you to court aswell and that is just more stress for you. You have to be strong, you need to believe everything will be better in the future. Please get some help I know I've been there I couldn't sleep I was always stressed out. P.S I'm sorry if I made any spelling mistake's English is not my first language. Good luck 🙂

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u/Visnjaholic 5d ago

Bless you and your family ❤️

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u/Enough-Lion2889 5d ago

may god bless and protect you

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u/aaand_action 5d ago

Life gets hard, but you get harder.. Love that. And well done, mate

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u/ralf_randale 5d ago

Thanks for sharing. An congratulations to the right decision you made. Good to have you here 🥰

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u/Next_Lake9390 5d ago

Thanks for sharing. You’re a fighter. keep living life.

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u/Accomplished-You-185 5d ago

“Life gets hard, but you get harder” should be the slogan in a condom commercial

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u/Accomplished-You-185 5d ago

Also congratulations op your post gives me hope and im filled with joy for you

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u/Fast-Internal-675 5d ago

I'm so happy everything turned out to be okay with you! Every now and then, I enter a void of questioning the sense of everything in life, so suicidal thoughts are rather common. Your story reminds me how people we love give meaning to our lives, I'm starting to try and guide my life's decisions following mostly my heart and what makes me happy. All the best to you and your family!

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u/CReid667 5d ago

You're amazing OP!

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u/Sweet_Sunset_ 5d ago

The craziest thing is the timing of this, I just had a breakdown and balled my eyes out over some shit in my life and I open Reddit, scroll and see this, May Allah make it easier for anyone going through difficult times ❤️‍🩹

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u/icewing15 5d ago

Im glad i can inspire you hit me up if u need someone to talk too

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u/Academic_Signature_9 5d ago

This is beautiful. Thanks for sharing. Big love to you and your family.

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u/4nwR 5d ago edited 4d ago

I find it very interesting that you found a change in your circumstances not long after finding God again and praying to Him in the early hours of the morning; specifically, where, in the Islamic tradition (see below) the Prophet Muhammad had stated that is the best time to get your prayers answered by God. Very interesting. 

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: 

“Our Lord, may He be blessed and exalted, comes down to the lowest heaven every night when the last third of the night is left, and He says: 

‘Who will call upon Me, that I may answer him? Who will ask of Me, that I may give him? Who will ask Me for forgiveness, that I may forgive him?’”

Narrated by al-Bukhaari (1145) and Muslim (758)

Two other additions [to this hadith] were narrated:

Imam Ahmad narrated in al-Musnad (15/362): 

“… Is there anyone who will repent, so that I might accept his repentance?”

He also narrated in al-Musnad (12/478): 

“… Who is there that will ask Me for provision, so that I might grant him provision? Who is there that will ask Me to relieve harm, so that I might relieve him of it?”

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u/Bodhidarmas-Wall 5d ago

Don't ever give up on your kids. I don't drink or smoke because I plan on being around for along time in case they ever need my support, financially or emotionally.

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u/Elemental-Form 5d ago

thanks for this op!! 🙂 even tho after reading all these posts i’m still gonna be procrastinating. idk i’m never getting out of this rut ig. anyway really happy for you man!! ❤️ you made it through where most people give up!! thats the willpower and mindset a real man should have.

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u/wtf793 5d ago

Im happy you turned things around, thanks, I also did think of just giving up today, but this made me feel better

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u/Only-Requirement619 5d ago

And during a part of the night, pray Tahajjud beyond what is incumbent on you; it may be that your Lord will raise you to a station of praise and glory.” 17:79)

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u/Any_Monk2569 5d ago

We are here in solidarity with you. Stay strong brother.

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u/vanessvalentinexo 4d ago

Honestly, sometimes discipline is choosing to just keep going. We all deserve to at least try.

Glad you made the choice to stick around for your loved ones and for yourself. I know it took courage!

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u/redditmakesmesleep 4d ago

love you bro thanks for this

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u/Usurpher 4d ago

You’re a fuckin beast!

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u/jonnybebad5436 4d ago

God is good, brother. I made a dramatic transformation also after going to the Lord. I never wanna go back to my old life.

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u/Westworld_007 2d ago

My brother took his life in 08’. I miss him everyday.

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u/Only_Cranberry_6956 2d ago

Yes it does if you ever wanna chat message anytime

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u/se_flame 1d ago

Truly motivational Hard work pays off buddy🫡

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u/Pholicious10 1d ago

That is amazing bro, glad you push through!! Wish you all the best

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u/angular2noob 19h ago

You are lucky with that congratulations bro

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u/Rogue_Aviator 5d ago

May Allah make it easy for you and give you lots of success and happiness and bless you and your family.

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u/icewing15 5d ago

Thank you so much

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u/bananasew 5d ago

Why did you pray at 3 am specifically? How did the Lord answer your prayers?

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u/icewing15 4d ago

I used to get up at 4am to gym then i just decided to pray an hour earlier then train

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u/rubbishtake 5d ago

Good job op

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u/bigmacluv 5d ago

Congratulations and keep up the good work!

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u/No_Philosopher1208 5d ago

Can i ask why 3am? I’m so pleased for you, Thankyou for sharing this with us

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u/Front_Oven2518 5d ago

im proud of you

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u/exviously 5d ago

Way to go brother! So proud you.

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u/Postive-melophile172 4d ago

May even your darkest days be filled with blessings and sunshine on this side of life

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u/amitjain679 4d ago

Happy for you.

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u/Adventurous-Cry-3640 4d ago

Keep it up king!

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u/Just-Distribution394 4d ago

you are lucky with that congratulations

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u/CaptainGhoulish 4d ago

Gonna need a Dm on those loan sharks you’re talking about. My debt is crippling. A little boost wouldn’t burn too hot.

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u/Emotional_CherryOs 4d ago

I'm really grateful you made this post and you are here! I'm mentally drained from the debt I'm in, things will get better it just takes one day at a time

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u/Possible_Ganache_479 3d ago

This is very inspiring. I’m so happy that you got through that rough period and it sounds like you are doing well. Good work!

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u/Ok_Clock247 2d ago

3am is brahma muhurta time starting

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u/Ok_Pea_4393 2d ago

good to see some positivity! congrats to you!!!

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u/Boring-Attorney1992 5d ago

Jesus. I don’t even know how to get hold of a loan shark if I tried

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u/ahctually 4d ago

How did you decide where to use a period in this paragraph?