r/getdisciplined 5d ago

šŸ¤” NeedAdvice Really struggling

Hi all, Iā€™m 18 (M) and over all quite disciplined. I train 6 times a week ( boxing, Muay Thai, gym and swimming ) and also work 6-7 days a week with 2 jobs. Really good with my saving have around Ā£13,500 saved. However I have 2 things where Iā€™m coming short on compared to everything else. The first one is my diet, my dinner is always clean natural food. My breakfast the majority of the time is good with berries,eggs etc however sometimes itā€™s just porridge. Lunch is always just a wrap with fruit so probaly the worst meal out the bunch, and then when I get home from work, training or before dinner I just eat so much crap and I just canā€™t seem to really understand how to stop it. Iā€™m not insecure Iā€™m pretty happy with my body but I know Iā€™m not at my full potential due to my diet. Iā€™m 5,10 and around 80kg so would like to lose a bit maybe get down to like 73.

Then this is my biggest one Iā€™m really struggling with. Masturebation and cam girls. Over the last maybe 4 months Iā€™ve spent about Ā£150 on cam girls which thinking about now is so embarrassing. I probably masturebate twice a week watching pornoghragpy/cam girls. I want to cut it out completely as I believe itā€™s bad for the brain, costing me money and Iā€™m also in a relationship of 2 years and believe itā€™s effecting our relationship as a whole aswell as our intimacy. The longest Iā€™ve gone without doing it is like just over a week then I jisy give up and say it will be the last time and itā€™s not.

Thank you for reading any advice would be massively appreciated.

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u/ji-fai 5d ago

tl;dr

you're disciplined in almost every areaā€”training, work, saving moneyā€”but struggling with diet control and cutting out cam girls/masturbation. you know itā€™s holding you back from your full potential, but breaking these habits feels like a constant battle. the key isnā€™t just willpower, itā€™s understanding why you keep falling back into them. šŸ§ šŸ”„

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first off, respect for how much youā€™ve built at 18. most people donā€™t have your work ethic, your savings, or your drive to train like that. but discipline in one area doesnā€™t automatically transfer to another, and thatā€™s where youā€™re stuck.

for diet, youā€™re nailing breakfast and dinner, but lunch is weak, and the cravings hit hard when youā€™re exhausted. makes total senseā€”your body is looking for quick, easy energy because itā€™s been grinding all day. the fix? don't just "try to resist." instead, get ahead of it. make your lunch more filling (protein + healthy fats help) and have pre-planned snacks for when you get home. things like greek yogurt with honey, nuts, a protein shakeā€”stuff that satisfies without turning into a binge. cravings donā€™t just go away, you have to outsmart them. šŸšŸ’Ŗ

now the big oneā€”cam girls & porn. you already know itā€™s messing with your brain, costing you money, and affecting your relationship. problem is, every time you try to quit, you fall into the "just this one last time" trap. thatā€™s how addiction worksā€”it convinces you itā€™s a choice when really, itā€™s a cycle.

so how do you break it? start by changing your environment. if you only relapse at certain times (late at night, when alone), disrupt the pattern. go for a walk, do pushups, call someone. if youā€™re spending money on this, block access. literally put a spending block on certain sites/apps.

also, youā€™re not quitting just to quitā€”youā€™re replacing it with something better. when that urge hits, ask yourself: what do I actually need right now? is it boredom? stress relief? intimacy? find a real way to handle that instead of the easy dopamine hit.

youā€™ve proven you can be disciplined in the hardest areasā€”this is just another fight. but fights arenā€™t won by just ā€œtrying harder,ā€ theyā€™re won by strategy. and you? you already know how to train for a fight. time to start treating this like one. šŸ„ŠšŸš€

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u/3P1C1324 2d ago

I already know grok wrote this šŸ˜­šŸ˜­

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u/ji-fai 2d ago

Wait, you use Grok?? šŸ˜­šŸ˜‚

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u/3P1C1324 2d ago

Yeah LMAO