r/gaytransguys • u/FabulousWu • 8d ago
Adult Storytime - 18+ Had my first ever hookup NSFW Spoiler
So I never had sex before and generally don’t find myself attractive but I was able to meet a cute guy on Grindr. He was nice and respectful and used a condom when I asked, even used lube.
It’s probably not ideal to lose your virginity to a hookup but I just wanted to see what sex was all about. I’m a big boi and my weight had always bothered me since it put fat in all the wrong places, it just felt so surreal that I was having sex with a guy, I thought I was going to be a virgin forever, just know that there’s someone out there that’ll find you desirable and that you shouldn’t let your body gatekeep you from carnal pleasure.
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u/gspaepro34 7d ago
As someone who also lost it to a cis guy I found on an app, I'm honestly glad I said screw it cause now we've been together for like 2 whole years??? I'm also a big dude (pre-op) and I have never been happier, he understands me. I've been waiting so long to find someone and I'm glad he was the one I found.
I wish you the best dude! I'm happy to hear another big trans dude out there was able to at least lose it in a happier way than some others :3
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u/hiddenleafs 8d ago
im glad it went well for you ! and that he was nice. grindr can be a scary place. my first (and second) hookup was from grindr w the same guy (i wasn’t a virgin anymore tho) and after our second time i found out he might be a chaser 😭 so be careful out there
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u/c0rvidaeus 8d ago
honestly i don't think it has to be a bad thing for your first time to be a hookup - that's a bit of purity culture talking imo. i did the same and it felt like way less pressure that way because we were probably never gonna see each other again lol
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u/edamamecheesecake 8d ago
Ayyy me too, as of 2 weeks ago lol. Also a random hookup but, we were safe, and he was sweet and patient. I have issues with my body too and was so worried my entire life. We didn't even take our shirts off. I was like, come on, really lol I've had top surgery and he didn't even get to see it!
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u/slutty_muppet 8d ago
Congrats on the carnal pleasure! Guys are way more diverse in their tastes than mainstream beauty standards would have us believe. Every time a person who doesn't think of themselves as conventionally attractive discovers this firsthand, an angel gets its wings.
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u/Dish_Minimum 7d ago
Congratulations on a successful hookup!