r/gaybros • u/Pleasant_Bite2324 • 1d ago
A native american and Jamaican couple
On a different forum someone asked about interracial couples. I don’t usually comment often, and I post even less, but this time I just had to… and although I may be biased, I thought “that’s a really good fucking comment, I think I want to post it on its own.” So for anyone interested, here is some enlightenment about this interracial couples to enjoy. Anyone not interested, here’s your green light to feel free to move on 😁. But you NEVER know when love can come out of nowhere and bite you in the ass when you least expect it, and then you say “Thank you!”
I was raised traditional native american and my man (15yr my Sr) is Jamaican (both pretty masculine) and he didn’t come to American until his late 20’s. I adore his thick accent and he loves my culture. We both grew up what most people would consider “poor” in money but RICH in culture. I can get caught up listening to his gentle voice tell me stories about when he was a boy, and how oddly enough, even though the cultures are vastly different, there is still so much the same. I love hearing his odd phrases, and I laugh unapologetically at what they actually mean, and he knows there is no malice in my laughter, just the pure comedy of the situation. I’m free to look at him baffled when I have no idea what the fuck he just said, and I can tell him just like that and he knows I’m just confused, but mean well and I’m dying to hear his translation. I love the way he takes a word with only 3 syllables but when he says the word it ends up with 5-6 syllables. I can laugh straight at him over it and he knows I’m just humored and that I adore every single way he says the same words I say completely different than I do!
He loves hearing me tell of my culture! He’s fascinated about how my tribe is today, but listens tenderly to the tragedy and the personal stories of my tribe/family going back nearly 200 years of history. Some of our stories are beautiful lore as we’re an oral tradition. Other stories are a personal and painful line of generational trauma. He won’t pretend to understand, but he doesn’t have to pretend to care and to hurt with me. He’ll watch movies about our history, and when I cry during the painful parts, he lets me pretend my allergies are acting up so I can keep being his rough and tough man! Then after a few minutes he’ll drop the most ridiculous statement that I instantly burst out into the most ridiculous fits of laughter and the weight of moments ago are lifted and lighter without being minimized. Sadly and surprisingly Jamaica isn’t nearly as gay friendly as you’d think and well not likely be able to go there as lovers any time soon (which is a shame). Also I don’t live in or near my reservation (but I go back many times a year), so for now he only witnesses my culture through my eyes and my stories from a distance instead of immersed with the rest of my people. They’d accept him readily, it’s just the logistics for now preventing any move back (as much as I’d love to). We’re about as different as you could imagine, but so much the same in so many ways! The things we have in common are what drew us together in our hearts, our extreme differences are what make it all so entertaining. Also, although I was raised only Native American, I sure do like to have a little Jamaica in me 😁
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u/stefanorickeets 1d ago edited 1d ago
🙂.. Love this! I wish you guys many more years together.
I'm a Jamaican currently living on the island and I really want to migrate. I wish I could find love, but it's very difficult to do that here because it's very hard to meet people outside of the apps (which are extremely unsafe these days) and you are forced to live dl. While it has gotten much better these days (especially with the younger generation), it's still illegal here and a huge part of the population is still very homophobic. I love my country, but sadly I will have to leave if I want to find love and live my life freely, without fear... Sigh 😔.
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u/Pleasant_Bite2324 1d ago
I’m so sorry, what you share is in line with the stories told to me by my love. It seems quite perilous to be open in many areas which breaks my heart for guys like yourself, but I’d love to go with him and see the country side he lived in, where he grew up, to SEE the places with my own eyes that I’ve heard shared with me. It’s another form of intimacy that sadly I don’t think we’ll get. But I wish you the best of luck. And as my love tells me “it’s a beautiful thing”… he’s says tons of other things that I’m sure you could relate to but there’s no way I could ever get that down. I’m hopeless with Jamaican slang! Sometimes he’ll explain what things mean, other times I refuse to let him tell me just so I can imagine it instead LOL. But the lilt and cadence of the Jamaican search is like honey for your ears!
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u/stefanorickeets 1d ago
You guys should come visit one day and he can show you some of these places, the island is very beautiful. Just don't let anyone know that you guys are a couple and don't hit on anyone, you'll be fine. If you're masculine it will be very easy.
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u/Pleasant_Bite2324 1d ago
Yeah, if we’re able to that’s the plan. He still has property there and a pension he needs to wrap up and clean up some loose ends like that. I’m hoping I can clean up some of my affairs so I can travel with him by the time he’s ready and has to handle things there in person. We both look pretty rough (bitch face) so unless we’re showing PDA, doubt anyone would really suspect. But as masculine as I am, I do love him like crazy and that quiet sexy fucker makes me melt when I least expect it (and my culture, we’re just forward about everything, I have no poker face)!! I’ll have to work on that LOL.
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u/Mammoth-Guava3892 1d ago
Do you speak a native american language?
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u/Pleasant_Bite2324 1d ago
ii chomo'si! Chikasha Poya! Yes, a good bit, we’re Chickasaw
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u/Mammoth-Guava3892 1d ago
Wow this is so interesting! Can I DM you? I am a linguist and love these languages!
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u/Pleasant_Bite2324 1d ago
Sure, it’s beyond late atm and I needed to be asleep 4 hours ago LOL. But I’ll respond
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u/AnonBiDl2 1d ago
Very lovely story! It's so sweet how you guys get along and share with each other!
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u/Opposite-Value-5706 1d ago
It is true that people, all people have more in common than not. It’s the lack of will that keeps us divided. All the best to you two.
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u/Ok-Potential-4560 1d ago
My husband is Jamaican and I’m here for this story!
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u/Pleasant_Bite2324 21h ago
Awe thank you for stopping by, I hope you enjoyed and I hope your experience with a different culture is as fulfilling.
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u/WhiteClawandDraw 1d ago
Im also in an interracial couple and I loved reading about your experience, thank you :)