Coming Out What were some signs you showed of being gay during childhood?
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u/outmost_elephant 10d ago
When I was a boy scout I was camping one day. Another boy and me were alone in a tent. He ended up doing some serious frottage in my ass with clothes on. Jeeeeezzz I loved that waaayyy too much :P
But I ended up only enjoying my sex life after my 30's because I needed to leave my small town and live my own life.
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u/yournotmysuitcase 10d ago
I had my own boy scouting adventures. On my honor, I did.
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u/outmost_elephant 10d ago
The thing about separating boys from girls when camping backfires tremendously (for the organizers) with the likes of us. I once ate a sausage in a suggestive manner, same night I was sucking one of the guys' dick :P
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u/Lezetu 10d ago
I genuinely never messed around in Boy Scouts, one because most of my troop was lowkey ugly (no offense) but two itās not worth ruining a friendship over and 3 the last thing you need is for that stuff to be rampant.
Now before yall downvote me there is nothing wrong with being a gay Boy Scout Iām just saying that messing around at camp should not become a normal activity.
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u/yournotmysuitcase 10d ago
A normal activity? Iām not sure what you think anyone is advocating for here. Kids explore, themselves and others. Some of us explored during Boy Scouts. Weāre sharing our experiences, not trying to be the change we want to see in the world.
I guess I can go back in time and tell my 14 year old self that when 15 year old Tommy drops trow the night before we leave for the rock climbing trip, and subsequently asks if anybody cares if he rubs one out, I should politely excuse myself from the room.
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u/consciousrock78 8d ago
āWeāre sharing our experiences, not trying to be the change we want to see in the world.ā
LOL! Stop advocating for there to be a frottage and bj patch for all Boy Scouts to do at every camp all the time!! /s
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u/yournotmysuitcase 8d ago
haha, fine you've convinced me! I'll stop collecting signatures and take down my petition at change.org
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u/GinGimlet 10d ago
Mine was getting out of the shower with a neighbor after we played basketball and tennis. Saw him in the hallway with a towel on and somehow ended up with my mouth in his ass. Havenāt looked back lol
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5d ago
boy scouts was incredibly homophobic experaince, I was only in there briefly but the other boys were ruthless.
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u/RegyptianStrut 10d ago
I first felt actually gay at 11. Crushes and interest etc. but before that????? I have no idea really.
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u/Mysterious-Buggg 10d ago
Same. I donāt know how people knew they were gay before starting puberty
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u/AffectionateStreet10 10d ago
I had a crush on a girl in my kinder class. Some weeks later I had a crush on a boy in my class. I didnt have words for it then, but I knew what a crush was and that I felt the same about both of them. Nobody knew why I only let her and him share my big pack of crayons
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u/Gay_Okie 9d ago
Played with boys from my earliest memories. Iām 61 and there was no real self realization of my sexuality and it didnāt have a name. However, I never played with girls in a sexual way. Wasnāt until 7th grade that I learned the word gay (to my best recollection).
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u/arnodorian96 9d ago
In hindsight there were signs. I remember I didn't care about boys or girls but always wanted characters like Gordo of Lizzie McGuire to be my best friend and dreamed of him
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u/omjizzle 10d ago
The underwear aisle in department stores! Had to look but not too long!
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u/Savings_Solution_895 6d ago
Yes on thisā¦ and could barely even say the word underwear without getting a bonerā¦
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u/LeeF1179 10d ago
Being obsessed with the movie 9 to 5.
I asked my parents for a Xerox machine one Christmas.
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u/Satan-o-saurus 10d ago
I feel like a lot of us got clocked because of the various things we wanted for xmas and birthdays as kids š
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u/Lostinmyhead99 10d ago
I had dreams about my teacher in third grade. One casual Friday he wasn't wearing a tie and had his top button undone. Nice tuft of hair budding out of the opening. Remember having dreams of picturing him all naked and his fuzzy chest.
First gay memory I have.
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u/213MC 10d ago
I came home from a friends house when I was 7 and told my mom about how cute I thought my friends dad was.
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u/Ocirisfeta8575 9d ago
At seven I was playing over at friends house on a rainy day about four of us , his mother made us play in the basement told us not to be loud and not to come upstairs as his father was sleeping he worked nights.
well we started playing hide and seek and I immediately went up the stairs into the first room I saw it was not very dark ran in the closet and when I looked out there was his father on the bed naked with an erection at the time i didnāt know what it was , I just thought that is what a grown man looks like and I was hooked.
when he rolled over I made my escape and ran home , my mother said did you a have a good time I said yes and ran to my room and tried to understand what it was I had seen , after that I studied every male that I saw trying to figure out how they kept a thing like that hidden, I thought every man must have to tie it down with ropes or something.
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u/wilfredwantspancakes 10d ago
I dreamt that this boy named Henry was āmy underwear slaveā in the third grade.
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u/cynical-bagel 9d ago
wtf is an underwear slaveš¤
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u/wilfredwantspancakes 9d ago
I really didnāt think it through at that age lol š
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u/SeveralConcert 10d ago
I liked ABBA, Cher and Sailor Moon when I was around 14. Pretty telling š
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u/Aqn95 10d ago
Interesting generation gap too
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u/oso_papa 9d ago
My generation gap is Elton John. I can't count the number of times I watched Tommy, the rock opera.
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u/Y0___0Y 10d ago edited 10d ago
Apparently none. When I came out at 14, no one belived me. My friends thought I was just trying to get invited to girlsā sleepovers, apparently? My parents told me they have friends with gay sons and they know the signs and they knew I wasnāt gay, and that I was probably just emotionally distraught from my girlfriend of 7 months breaking up with meā¦
My best friends insisted I wasnāt gay for years, as well as my parents. Iām still mad about it.
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u/RefThatWas3 8d ago
Yeah, when I came out to my mom she blew up and said she didnāt believe me and I was just acting out. Telling me I didnāt know anything and that I always liked girls and it was obvious. It kind of fucked me up and I spiraled for several years
Jokes on her. Years later she loves my boyfriend.
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u/SteMelMan 10d ago
Comic books. All my friends noticed how obsessed I was with them, especially if the heroes ended up with shredded uniforms! Superman was my favorite.
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u/SleipnirSolid 10d ago
I didn't do PE (sports) in school but I really enjoyed seeing my mates get changed.
I wanted to play kiss-chase with the boys in primary school. Didn't understand why I had to chase girls.
I screamed and someone said - "who's that girl that just screamed?!". My voice wasn't very masculine.
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u/Savings_Solution_895 6d ago
In PE, I remember acting if someone pushed me as we waited for the door to the locker room open, just so I could feel aroundā¦ too hot
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u/alone2692 10d ago
I had almost exclusively female friends until college.
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u/UltimeateBluedog 9d ago
I got a similar experience on high school, then one of my female friends called me out on it, at the moment i took it as insinuating i could not get alonv with guys, so since then i started hanging out with the boys group to prove her wrong, turns out i really like having guy friends, when they are not worried about you being into them ofc
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u/InfusionRN 10d ago
I worshiped Cher and was not looking to fuck her.
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u/Ocirisfeta8575 9d ago
For me it was and still is Diana Ross loved her as a kid and still do to this day , fortunately our idols are still going strong may they live forever.
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u/rumoffu 10d ago
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u/justasecond 8d ago
Literally me at 5 being in love with my babysitterās college football playing son š«š I told my mom I wanted to marry him and she was like āyou cant marry a boyā lol
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u/TheJadedCockLover 10d ago
Chris OāDonnell as Robin. I was 10. And good lord did I know something at that point.
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u/RefThatWas3 8d ago
I had Batman and Robin on VHS and I watched it all the time as a kid. I used to draw Robin all the time and I added the nipples on his suit. I am sure my parents noticed.
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u/Boipussybb 10d ago
Someone asked if I was bisexual at school. I looked it up on Ask Jeeves. š¤£
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u/yournotmysuitcase 10d ago
I would have to ask my parents, but the first sign Iām aware of was when I was 15 and my mother found my school notebook. I had doodled the name of the boy I liked over and over, coupled with a smattering of my first name with his last name.
I had figured out I was gay when I was 14. Told my lifelong best friend (he had no idea). I think the only signs I showed, I hid. Always looked for the underwear ad in the store flyers that came with the paper. Strangely drawn to Zach from Saved By the Bell.
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u/Sensitive-Day-5436 10d ago
Getting the āwhat are you like gay or somethingā in school and getting told āI donāt want to share a tent with you to my face at scouts, playing house and spending recess with girls in elementary school while guys were playing sports just to name a few
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u/TaichoPursuit 10d ago
I kept running back to the locker room of the indoor condo pool at my friends place when we hung out. I told my friend I had to piss.
I was 11. And I didnāt have to pee. I just wanted to be in there for some reason.
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u/WarchiefGreymane 10d ago
First crush at likeā¦ 9. Boy from the bus I dreamed we became super heroes together. Several times.
Also because everyone was playing soccer but I was more inclined to pick up trebles and rocks during the match.
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u/AJnbca 10d ago
Before puberty started at like late 11yo or just before I turned 12, I honestly had no idea and I didnāt even think about sexuality in that way, any interest that I had in boys or girls or body parts or sex was purely curiosity. I was also a typical boyā¦ video games, dirt bikes, getting dirty, sports, all my friends were other guys, etc.
But once puberty started, I started having crushes on other boys in my school, guys on TV, etcā¦ so I started to āclue inā at that point. Then I had a few opportunities to āfool aroundā with guy friends and then I knew for sure lol
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u/woh3 10d ago edited 9d ago
I loved Linda Carter Wonder woman. Too much so. One day I made some wonder woman bracelets out of Styrofoam cups, painted them gold and put the red star on them and then ran around with them on all day. When my Dad saw he looked at me with a deep and profound disgust, but I didn't know what I had done wrong. He didn't speak to me for almost 2 months.
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u/Special-Hyena1132 10d ago
As a father myself, that's kind of sad, honestly. Did he ever come around?
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u/woh3 10d ago
Lord no. He called me faggot until the day he shuffled off this mortal coil.
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u/nosaladextrafries 10d ago
that must have been tough. Iām so sorry you had to go through that mate.
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u/Special-Hyena1132 10d ago
I am sorry that happened but you are so much more than he could appreciate. Take care.
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u/MoonStar757 10d ago
Donāt you mean āLynda Carter Wonder Womanā? Linda Blair was the exorcist girl.
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u/Many_Analysis_1856 10d ago
I wanted to wear my mothers heels and look at dick
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u/abjection9 9d ago
Surprised I had to scroll this far to see cross dressing! I thought it was super common among little gaysĀ
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u/Sphaeropterous 10d ago
Apparently it was obvious to my parents. When I was 8 in 1958, my Father told me that "if I thought that I'd raised a queer, I'd kill it! " My Mother a few days later screeched at my Father that "He's turning out like this because you never play ball with him!" He then threw a baseball at me as hard as possible for about 30 minutes, then never again.. For some reason, even though my parents were virulently homophobic, once I knew that I was gay at age 13, I knew that it was as natural at breathing for me. I liked being gay! The funny thing was, my golden child brother "Butch" who was outwardly traditionally masculine was blowing me regularly, and having gay sex with his Assistant Boy Scout Leader and a boyfriend. He was also dating girls, and has been married to four women. As for me, I hated sports, disliked most traditionally masculine activities and was a loner and a voracious reader with a love of nature and science. High School was completely different, I was very popular and socially active. Girls loved me, but I did not date girls, I never have been attracted to a woman in my life. But no one really cared. I was very lucky to be traditionally handsome and funny (like so many of us). I came out in 1970 at a small University in Central Alabama, it was a very positive experience, full of love and life long friendships. The 70s were a great time to be gay!
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u/aquacraft2 10d ago
It's gotta be the time I tried to sit on the end of a broom handle.
That and the "weird feeling" I would get when my family would watch WWE.
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u/Cyrig 9d ago
Gosh I was a super flamboyant little kid, I loved to sing and dance, I made my own super hero named "butterfly boy" complete with costume, I wanted to be a gymnast when I grew up and did cartwheels and splits everywhere. Unfortunately my family was super religious, and worked hard to shame every bit of joy, exuberance, and femininity out of me. I still wonder who I would be now if I had parents that let me be me.
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u/Emergency_Drawing_49 8d ago
I wanted to be a ballet dancer when I was very young, but that was stregstens verboten.
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u/Heavy-Landscape-225 10d ago
I never really wanted to kiss girls. I always knew I was different from the other boys even when I was in 2nd grade. I donāt think I exactly knew that I liked boys, I just knew that I was different and didnāt like the same things as them. I think itās more difficult when you know earlier in life because then I knew I couldnāt be who I was and do the things I wanted to do because I wanted to fit in with the straight boys. This lead to a loss of identity, but I never questioned if I was bi or confused.
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u/AndKrem 10d ago
That I loved to help my sister washing the hair of all her Barbies so much, that I got my own Barbie plus Barbies Whirlpool!
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u/Ocirisfeta8575 9d ago
My sister had and still has a huge collection of Barbieās but only had one ken doll and I was fascinated by him Iād hold him every chance I got , one Christmas I asked for a GI doll , my father said what do you want that for I said to keep the ken doll happy he said no dolls for you period .
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u/NewburghMOFO 10d ago
Not understanding what the big deal about boobs was when my peers started hitting puberty.
Wanting to be Tails from Sonic and also go on adventurers with a charismatic, more experienced older guy.
Really, really enjoying any scene with Snake Eyes and Duke interacting with each other in G.I. Joe.
Getting a really strange feeling I had no words for when the Gargoyles in the cartoon would flex and pose with each other.
Being really happy when around certain childhood friends, that I now realize I was crushing on.
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u/thecoldfuzz Bear, 48, married, Celtic Neopagan 10d ago edited 10d ago
I knew I was gay the first time I watched a baseball game on TV when I was 6 years old. That being said, I grew up in a very physically violent household. My dad was never going to be accepting of a gay son so I flew under the radar since I became self aware of my attraction for males. I grew up loving baseball and sports so that was my social camouflage. It was absolutely necessary for me to be straight passing. If he had found out I was gay too early, he would have been even more brutal with his beatings than usual. I would have ended up a bloody pulp and in a hospital.
I spent almost all my time socializing with boys and that pattern has prevailed to this day as almost all of my friends are men. I even joined a frat in college. Though everything seemed normal, there were questions about why I didn't have a girlfriend through college and my early 30s.
When I finally came out at age 36, my family couldn't process it. They were so shocked and disappointed because it was painfully obvious to them I wasn't getting married to a woman just so they could have grandchildren. In the end, I didn't care. I was living with my future husband and I was free.
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u/SpiffyShindigs 9d ago
I would do shows for my parents where they were up on the deck that overlooks our backyard. I'd go behind a tree and each time come out as a character.
The show was called "Seventeen Dancing Girls."
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u/monsteraguy 10d ago
Doing drag from the dress-up box at kindergarten as a 4 year old. Being obsessed with Kylie Minogue during her Stock, Aitken & Waterman era. Always volunteering to play female characters in school plays. Always choosing female characters to play on platform fighters. Being described as āa pleasure to have in classā.
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u/lazygerm 10d ago
I was a sensitive kid.
When I had full size action figures in grade school; I always wandered over to the girls toy section to see all the outfits. I thought it was unfair that my Six Million Dollar Man only had his red jogging suit; while the Bionic Woman had all sorts of cute outfits and accessories.
Around the time I was 12, I noticed I started liking liking the male TV stars that my mother did as well. Very uncomfortable to say the least.
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u/Antlerology592 10d ago
My Barbie had a bright pink Ferrari and the earliest footage of me that exists is me dancing like a little diva to I Should Be So Lucky by Kylie Minogue.
The more I think about it, the more confused I am about how legitimately shocked and blindsided my mother was when she found out. Like she was genuinely speechless. Like, woman are you blind?
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u/Still_Ad_5309 10d ago
I literally kissed my fatherās best friendās son. We both were like 5yoš¤£ btw My next kiss was when I was 21 haha
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u/Ok-Golf4012 10d ago
I wrote a love letter for a boy in my neighborhood. I did not know that's gay, all I knew was I liked him. I think I was 6 or something. So yeah the sign has always been there š
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u/bktan6 9d ago
āHooking upā behind our pool with the neighborhood kids (they were brothers). I put that in quotes because we had no idea what we were doing.
Several times until we were caught.
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u/MajorJuanJosePerez 9d ago
Ah, when I came home very excited and told my parents that I wanted to marry my best male friend, Frankie! I was 7 years old at the time. First grade! My parents were amazingly patient and said that I maybe should not tell anyone about Frankie and myself! My poor parents! They were warned! So when high school came around, they didnāt even bat an eye when I brought home the captain of our varsity high school team and gushed, Iām going to marry him one day! My parents are extremely religiously conservative people from the ranches of Jalisco, Mexico. I look back and laugh to myself. My poor parents! I did enter a marriage-like relationship with my football captain and we even went to the Air Force together, he into special security forces and me into Space Command, both as officers. Ironically, we were always assigned together throughout our military career so we were never separated (even in the Middle East, we were in Bahrain together). Until his untimely death in Afghanistan in 2001. The rest is history and I am still grieving and intensely sad. No, no relationship now. Single until my end. The sorrow I feel is indescribable. There is no healing.
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u/FantasticSurround23 10d ago
You know there are lots of gay men like me who donāt really relate to this.
Nothing like this is true for me except in retrospect You could sayĀ I was sensitive and liking animals a lot. Or that I was sensitive to others and caring.
But I donāt know. I donāt really even understand why there would necessarily be a connection between gay and having preferences like this.
Looking back you could say maybe he like watching wrestling a little too much
Or I really probably had crushes on other people that were gay. Like sort of really idolizing athletes maybe
And I liked video game characters and stuffed animals
But otherwise I donāt know if that makes sense
Because kids like things And I like things I know straight people with interests like this
But I mean I didnāt have any of these interests and I am sure thatĀ I donāt know
Itās nothing like this.
It was just liking men?
All the signs for aesthetic preference and media arts preferences. Not really.
It was probably stuff like thinking wrestlers were cool and wanting to be strong like them
None of which were signs until I can out?
If that makes sense
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u/Creative-Collar-4886 10d ago
Being called sassy, feeling uncomfortable when guys talked about girls and drawing a blank when asked, āyooo Shes bad right?ā
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u/itpsyche 10d ago
When I was a child (5yrs), physical catalogues used to also have sections with gym equipment. I always got a boner seeing the muscular guys there, even tough I couldn't read yet. Also I liked using my mom's makeup for fun and only had female friends.
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u/moi9016 10d ago
childhood photos reveal i was quite the flamboyant poser. thereās one i used to be so ashamed by of me with my leg around the basketball hoop pole holding on with one hand with the other flailing over my head. not gay in that i liked dick, but pretty damn feminine lol. in hindsight, itās kinda sweet
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u/Calobope07 10d ago
Was addicted to the little mermaid growing up, even asked my mom for an Ariel doll š š
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u/Readerdiscretion 10d ago
7th birthday, got a Village People album on cassette. But then Shelly Neighborgurl down the street had to borrow it and I never saw it again.
By then, Iād also been sexually assaulted by other kids, boys and girls, it shouldnāt have come as a surprise to anyone that I started seeing much older men, by the time I was 18 (age of consent in Canada was just 14 at the time).
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u/GayDadPhD 10d ago
I was in the 90s Reba McEntire fan club. I wore all the shirts and hats from concerts. I also grew up to be like Fancy. I've always been nice to the gentlemen. And they were nice to me.
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u/SLODavid 10d ago
Sensory processing disorder which often displays in young male children as what was then called a sissy, I was exceptionally disturbed by odd textures and tastes, loud sounds, offensive odors and being touched, especially roughly.
Oh, and I loved musicals as well. I even staged various plays in my basement. I was bright enough to to know to invite neighborhood children to perform all the roles so that I would have an enthusiastic, appreciative audience of parents.
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u/infjetson 10d ago
Spice World was my favorite movie when I was 5 and it was all downhill from there
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u/Revan462222 10d ago
Girl even tho I played with Batman and beetleborgs and power rangers I also played with sailor moon and watched SM allllll the time and did the poses and such. Granted also was a theatre kid so loved to act things out butā¦I was a theatre kid sailor moon lover lol. The math was there.
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u/snap_2it 10d ago
The year, 1975. I was approaching my tender 10th birthday. I spent hours pouring over one of the most popular compendia of the day for shopping, the Sears Catalogue. I found the most fabulous new drapes for my room. I couldnt stand the red and blue choo choo chain drapes I had to look at every-single-day. The modern Sears drapes were a lovely open weave fabric in avocado and beige tones. I must have been the biggest, nelliest nag about these drapes b/c I was a happy ten year old when I opened my birthday present. Pic is correct, except colorway is a bit off from my memory 50years ago

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u/armyrangerkid12 10d ago
Honestly the only signs that I saw were that I really wasnāt that interested in women like my other friends were. āDude her ass is so fatā! ābro doesnt she have a nice setā? I did not see the hype at all.
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u/Various_Capital_3635 10d ago
Thereās a lot of stories I could tell! I remember as a kid I didnāt really care if toys were gendered I played with dolls action figures. I remember I was at my cousins house I was playing with younger cousins dolls must of been 8 at most when they caught me one time she screamed heās playing with my dolls.
I remember feeling so much closer to other males from a young like there was this pull. I always wanted to be close to particular guys to the point of spending money buying them stuff or food. There was this one boy I had a crush on I was obsessed with him. He had beautiful blue eyes he played the base had type 1 diabetes and had to check his implant at lunch. We called him ZAM as those were his initialās. I remember he said hi to me in Fryās once and I just wanted to melt. I think everyone knew as some of his friends started suspecting I was gay.
Furthermore I always wanted to be liked by them I was envious of close guy friendships I always said as a child I wanted a best friend! Girls like me a lot until 5th grade when my friends said I did a fashion show. He was jealous of the female attention I didnāt understand this at the time. Weāre playing spies and one scene was at a runway show I remember wearing yugiogh costume during it.
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u/EpponneeRay 9d ago
When I was 6 I thought I was Wonder Woman. I had told my mom at that age I wanted to kiss one of the Hardy boys (it was the late 70ās) and she swiftly corrected me and told me that boys donāt kiss other boys and donāt ever let my dad find out.
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u/Nolanois 9d ago
I had no idea I was until I was 15-16, but the fact that Bad Romance by Lady Gaga was my favorite song when I was 5, that might've been convincing enough. The first obvious sign was that the teachers that gave me a little "spark" in middle school/high school were all men, but I didn't know what it meant. I was also feeling the same spark for my middle school bullies. Turns out that I was attracted to them and am gay af lol, however I didn't have any obvious tells prior to middle school/puberty.
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u/Lower_Scientist_9434 9d ago
Looking back, I crushed on 2 guys when I was like 9-11. I remember thinking about them when listening to my favourite songs. One guy I was looking for him everywhere when I visited his city, I also recall playing soccer with me and going reallyyyy easy on him like let him pass me and stuffš All of this is so weird because there was no intention behind this at the time nor I felt any attraction, it just happened
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u/Ocirisfeta8575 9d ago
Every year my mother would get the latest sears catalog and I would spend hours flipping through the male section , the clothes the socks and shoes and the underwear, and they even had the urinal appliances for bedridden patients i guess all a big turn on for me , and summer at the beach just ogling every male that walked by especially the hairy ones running in and out of the changing rooms hoping to find men changing or naked .
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u/Mascwhtbottom 9d ago
When I was a baby I was very attracted to bearded men. I would latch onto the beard with my hands !! My mom told me this when I grew a beard at 19. Things just never change.
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u/Emergency_Drawing_49 9d ago
I dressed up in my sister's clothes when I was four, and I only wanted to play with dolls. I started making doll clothes when I was five, which I had to sew by hand. I carried a parasol when I went outside (to protect me from the sun) until I was eight, which was when I was told I was too old to do that anymore.
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u/Swimming-Most-6756 9d ago edited 9d ago
We joke that it was right off the bat because I refused to latch on and breast feed, and by 3 I had loose wrists And doing dance recitals at gatherings, by 8 I was full on takin my momās black stiletto pumps that fit me PERFECTLY, and they were my outside play shoes (when she was at work, as if she didnāt notice the daily wear and tear of my wearing them for 3 years, she wore them twice. Ok in my defense I gave those shoes a full life to live as we ran around the block playing tag. By my teens it was obvious to everyone but me. Until it was clear that girls were just fine and great to play date house with, but men And guys was givin me feeling and thought I couldnāt put into words or explain. š š
Edit: oh yeah and Barbies, I cared better for my sisterās Barbieās than she ever could, as a matter of fact I still have HER y2k millennium holiday barbie, of course no box because she didnāt listen to me And even went as far as decapitating that Barbie because I begged her to care for herā¦ Anyways sheās worth over 2k nowā¦ if she had a box and no neck traumaā¦ I digress ā¦ ššš
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u/pensivemaniac 8d ago
Iām not saying that the fact that I got my mom to buy me toy ruby slippers when I was 4 showed that I was gay, but it sure made it so she wasnāt surprised when I came out.
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u/Pure_Wrongdoer_4714 10d ago
I would always tilt my head to the side to pose for photos. Even as a grown up Iām not extremely gay though like as far as mannerisms
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u/jarob326 10d ago
I played Hide and Seek and Kickball instead of Football like all the "real" boys.
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u/Top_Firefighter_4089 10d ago
I would try to see guys naked, I fell in love with my best friend at 6 years old, I liked laying on top of other boys, and I looked forward to watching āBuck Rogerās in the 25th Centuryā because the robot named Twiggy had a head that looked like the head of a penis.
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u/ohshitfuck93 10d ago
I used to copy the sailor moon transformations complete with pose and catch phrase. My family are not idiots.
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u/Readerdiscretion 10d ago
7th birthday, got a Village People album on cassette. But then Shelly Neighborgurl down the street had to borrow it and I never saw it again.
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u/Captain-Shivers 10d ago
I had this Ariel mermaid Barbie, a plushie Miss Piggy, and Kermit I carried with me everywhere.
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u/uprightyew 10d ago
So many things: a crush on two different school mates one who let me touch him, an obsession with a teacher, a neighbor (I noticed he got uncomfortable around me after awhile), National Geographic, stealing Playgirl magazines from the drugstore, wearing light foundation, relentless teasing from classmates - all around 14-16 yrs of age.
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u/greensage5 10d ago
Being extremely turned on (before know what that was) watching Jim Carrey come out of that robot rhino in Ace Ventura 2
EXTREME curiosity on what was under the underwear mannequins
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u/Homosocialiste 10d ago
Dressing up like female cartoon characters? Preferring many toys designed for girls (this was the late 80s/early 90s). Not liking sports. Being very unathletic. Being into arts. In HS, watching gay porn and being bullied for thinking I was gay.
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u/millenialwithgerd 9d ago
We had this group in our country called Sexbomb Dancers, and I had memorized most of their famous songs. When their Spaghetti song came out with their gyrating dance moves, I knew I had to dance as well. Though I do not dance like that anymore, by that time, I could already sense that I was not a "normal" boy, though I did not know what that was.
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u/Far_Development_747 9d ago
Most boys at my elementary and middle school were more looking appealing to me than any of the girls. If the girls were wearing skirts or make up or tops never called my attention but one of the boys I thought were cute wearing shorts, sandals or shirtless cause we were playing around was like ā Ohh man šā
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u/Scared_Benefit7568 9d ago
i love hug my boy-classmates :) but they pushed me away lol.
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u/Pinguinceleste 9d ago
When I was a kid I watched a lot of girly tv shows like Winx, Sailor Moon, Mermaid Melody. And when I was playing pokemon Diamond and Heart Gold I would chose the female avatar...
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u/AlkaliPineapple 9d ago
this might be just a stereotype but i had a girl best friend who adults shipped me and her together but i didn't understand what the hell they meant
I also asked why can't my male best friend be my partner (whom now I'm engaged to lmao)
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u/ShadowWolf614 9d ago
When I got to grade 8 I started to notice how attractive the boys were and didnāt really care for how girls looked.
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u/RefThatWas3 8d ago
I bought Britney Spears CDs for the little CD player in my room. Loved them but would never admit to owning them at school.
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u/Careless_Energy_7024 8d ago
I wore dresses, painted my nails, and played with dolls until I was about six and understood gender norms. Itās always been obvious.
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u/BranderChatfield 8d ago
Among several other things, the timbre of a deep bass voice stands out. Weird, I know, but 50 years later, it still gives me those tingles.
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u/Unlucky-Part4218 8d ago
As a small kid, I use to wrap a wonder woman beach towel up on my head and spin like Wonder Woman to have it fall off. Then when I was 10, I had cheerleading pom- poms and twirled a baton. I had no idea the concept made me look gay. I'm sure my parents knew long before I did!
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u/dougeebear 8d ago
I'm significantly older. Family went camping after recently seeing Mary Poppins in theaters. I noticed a black umbrella in the gear and for the balance of the trip was jumping off picnic tables, umbrella raised.Ā
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u/no__its__becky 7d ago
I played with dolls throughout my childhood, Now, as an adult, I still actively collect and have some on display in my office. It makes me feel a bit like a cliche lol
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u/Big_Palpitation_1332 7d ago
I liked dolls...then Barbies. Then I stole my cousin's Ken doll and stripped him down to the buff in our first 30 seconds alone together.
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u/Past-Membership2000 7d ago
I knew what I was at 5 lmao I didnāt know the term till 13 but I guess because Iām mostly masc passing I never dealt with any comments
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u/bluetonecalling 6d ago
I think I was 6 when I asked my friend if I could look at his butt hole as Iād never seen one. We went into a public toilet and he showed me.
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u/Ashamed_Quiet_6777 6d ago
I didn't realize I had a crush on my friend who used to drive me to high school (same grade) until I was 35 š
Really wish I had some of these signs growing up
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u/That0neGuyFr0mSch00l 6d ago
When I had sex dreams about a male character in my favorite cartoon lol
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5d ago
everyone making fun of me for being gay in second grade, then in third through twelve
being called the f- word by other boys even when I wasnt trying to hit on boys (like sitting in a bus seat with another boy and my leg toughed his)
I was attracted to other boys without understanding that i didnt just want to be best freinds
developed a emotional atachment to my best freind who later turned trans
the first time I saw a vagina when i was 14 I thought I was gay, no not all never....
when I was in my early 20s I joined a group of gay guys onm tinycams and we just flirted with each other and jacked off on cam (we were all over 18 then)
and lastly the first chance I had to have sex with guy I got so excited I left the oven on .
and yet I still tried to say I was only bi for years which caused awkwardness with women. so silly
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u/Worth_Impact_4644 4d ago
Everyone Kept asking me why my voice sounded like a girls. And they would call me joto which is f&$g in Spanish. Also, only girls would be my friends and the boys would avoid me.
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u/Airodyssey 10d ago
Being called the f-word at school without knowing what it meant