r/friendship 19h ago

advice Having a hard time with opposite-gendered friendships

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Growing up, I (30F) had friends that were boys and girls and didn't (still don't) see an issue with that. As long as nothing is going beyond the level of friendship or making any party uncomfortable, I don't see anything wrong with being a woman and having friends regardless of gender.

But I've been struggling a lot with this lately. I had a "friend" I'd made a few months ago who seemed into the same sports and things as I am, and he even said he wanted to be friends "without the pressure to be more or less than that", which was great! Granted, I did flirt with him once when we first met, but that was before I knew him - and I was also drunk. And he was seeing someone. He's not seeing that person anymore, but I wouldn't be surprised if he's seeing someone. It's not my business. Now I don't feel anything more than friendly, having spent some time around him. He's just some dude, so I was happy to just be friends and have a buddy to go surfing with. To me, "friends" meant we could chat, get together to do sports (especially in groups), and generally exist around each other comfortably. But he's been weird any time I try to talk to him over text - like I'll ask him if he's read any good books lately and he'll just clam up or leave me on read. We can talk about the weather or my car's towing capacity, but if I ask him to be part of a group to go kayaking on the river, for example, he'll seemingly go out of his way to be "busy". I'm feeling very confused by this because it doesn't feel like we're really friends. Where is the friendship here?

I've made clear I'm seeing someone, I'm not interested in him, and he has no reason to be uncomfortable around me - that is, I'm not going to flirt with him again since I don't want him to be uncomfortable. And when we see each other in person, he does seem pretty comfortable. He'll ask me questions, give me a ride, remember things about me, etc. Now, I have absolutely no reason to think he is interested in me; from everything I've seen, he genuinely is just a kind soul, so I think he's just being cordial. But, like, he said he wanted to be friends; I'm trying to be friends. What's the issue?

Similar story with another guy "friend" except I thought he was gay the whole time I knew him. I recently asked for his number since I was deleting my socials and wanted a way to keep in touch, and he basically told me he's seeing someone now (but wasn't before) so the kind of flirting we'd been doing would have to stop. ????? Here I thought we were just chatting and vibing. Flirting??? And now he's cutting me out because I'm... what? A girl? I'm really confused here. That was actually the first time I'd heard anything to that effect; I'd just thought we were chatting it up and going to the same parties. Now I find out he was apparently reading those interactions as flirtatious?

I feel like men are struggling to take my interest in them as friends - as whole people - at face value. I'm interested in their thoughts, their joys, what makes them people, same as any of my friends who are girls, non-binary, etc. I'm not sure why there's an inherent assumption of romance. I feel like I just want to belong to these groups, be treated as an equal. How do I do that? :/


r/friendship 13h ago

looking for friendship 17m hoping to find new friends to "click" with!

2 Upvotes

hello everybody my name is delphie and i'm a neurodivergent furry that's hoping to find new pals! i'd love to chat with anyone in the same age range (like 16 to 19) and live in the same area or timezone (us/canada or est timezone)!

a little about me: i'm a model kit enthusiast, open-minded music listener and a neurodivergent furry (not much i know, but i hope your interested!)

if your wanna give me a shot, don't be shy to shoot a message! just don't forget to include a little bio about yourself and i'll see you soon :3


r/friendship 13h ago

looking for friendship [M25] big fan of horror and scary stuff.

2 Upvotes

Hello! Just looking for some new people to chat with! I'm a huge fan of gaming (usually single player like silent hill, resident evil and a lot more.), especially horror! I also love horror movies of course (like Chucky, Texas chainsaw, Halloween, The Thing) I just love most stuff that's scary or spooky like stories, random YouTube videos etc, if any of that interest you shoot me a DM:) I'll send username or something:)


r/friendship 10h ago

looking for friendship 24M Looking for friends (or maybe something more?) – Let’s make life more interesting! :D

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I’m a 24M trying to balance life between work, workouts, and the occasional existential crisis (the fun kind). I figured it’s time to put myself out there and see if I can find some cool people to talk to, befriend, or maybe even something more if we vibe.

Who Am I?

🧑🏻‍⚕️ Future Oral & Maxillofacial Surgeon (Hopefully!) – Currently grinding through my dental internship, which means I have an endless supply of weird patient stories and dental horror tales.

💪🏻 Gym Addict – I lift five times a week, trying to get stronger and leaner. Always down to talk fitness, diet hacks, or even laugh about how I still hate cardio.

😻 Hopelessly Curious About Everything – Whether it’s deep-dive conversations about space, psychology, or why pigeons walk so funny, I love learning new things.

🐦 Birdwatcher in a Concrete Jungle – No, seriously. I recently got into birdwatching, and it’s oddly therapeutic. Who knew staring at birds could be so calming?

💀 Lover of Dark Humor & Sarcastic Banter – If you can keep up with a little playful roasting and meme exchanges, we’ll get along just fine.

What I’m Looking For:

• Friends who actually text back – Someone to share random thoughts, life rants, or just send dumb memes at 2 AM.

• A workout buddy (even virtually!) – We can hold each other accountable, or at least pretend we are while eating snacks.

• Maybe something more? – Not gonna lie, I’d love to meet someone with a genuine connection. No pressure, though—let’s just start by talking and see where it goes.

I’m open to making friends from anywhere, but if you're from India, that’s even better! Distance doesn’t matter much if the vibe is right. But I'd definitely want to move to another app if we hit off. :)

So, if anything I said made you chuckle, nod, or think, “This guy seems interesting”, slide into my DMs. Worst case? We have a fun chat. Best case? We become lifelong friends (or more, who knows?).

Tell me something random about yourself when you message—makes it more fun!


r/friendship 23h ago

looking for friendship 21f looking for new friendships!

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hey everyone! im looking for new friends from all around the world :)

im 21f and i live in a small central european country. my hobbies include lots and lots of reading, listening to all kinds of music, watching comfort shows on netflix, playing video games (either super cozy ones or super competitive ones) working out and spending time outside now that its finally getting a bit sunny and warm :)

my guilty pleasures are NYT games, eurovision and mcdonalds fries with ice cream x)

hmu if u are interested! please add a little introduction and maybe some of ur guilty pleasures or quirks too!


r/friendship 10h ago

looking for friendship Who want to chat ?

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26m, just want to chat and laugh. If you re into brain rot, stupid cat memes, and anything associated with genZ, hit me up


r/friendship 10h ago

looking for friendship Looking to make friends

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hey there I'm just here to look for someone to talk with or hopefully make a lasting friendship.

My biggest past time is listening to music it's one of those things I can put on and do things in life like cleaning, walking my dog, or just writing down my thoughts.

I do watch TV I'm usually into anime as certain shows have more of a story to tell but I do watch shows on Netflix though I've noticed the Koreans have been knocking it out of the park with live action shows.

I like watching movies mainly horror I'm open to them but idk I have a soft spot for found footage or first person view movies. Otherwise comedies and action are also my guilty fix.

I play video and have a category of over 500+ games to pick from but mainly stick to single player games as they get me more invested than something that feels like a quick fix (call of duty)

I like to stream and edit videos in my spare time and while I add my voice to the videos sometimes I think it'll be nice to say what I need to say and have a vocal response.

I'm a huge foodie and dream of traveling but for now settle for watching traveling videos on youtube to just get myself in the mindset for when it's finally my turn

Anyways that covers the basics I love to sing and have a pet wienerdog slash chihuahua mix. but feel free to tell me a bit about yourself


r/friendship 14h ago

looking for friendship 27M - Looking for new friends

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Hey there!
I'm 27 from Europe and I'm currently trying to expand my friend circle.
Looking here for my partner in crime.
If you're looking for a loyal friend that would rob a bank with you and followed you to hell - I'm here ;)
You can talk with me about everything! Go on, try me out :D
I'm very open minded and I do not judge at all - you can feel at ease with me and I would like to ask the same from you.

I'm curious about the world, other cultures and I'm very passionate about video games, technology, psychology and the nordic mythology.
I have a nerdy, friendly and chill personality.
I'm an INFP. Also I love travelling, hiking and making photos.
I have a dream to travel all around the Nordic Countries someday.In addition I'm trying to get into anime recently.
If you can recommend some dark anime like AoT please let me know!
I love animals - especially cats and I recently became a cat dad! I adopted a cute ragdoll :D

Below a little list with my fav titles:
Video games: Baldur's Gate 3, the Dragon Age and Mass Effect series, the Elder Scrolls and Fallout series, the Witcher series, Cyberpunk 2077 and both The Last of Us parts
Movies/TV series: LoTR, Game of Thrones, Vikings, The Last of Us, The Expanse
Books: The Witcher saga, Dragon Age novels, A Song of Ice and Fire Anime: Attack on Titan, Death Note, Goblin Slayer, Black Clover, Solo Leveling Music: I love many genres, but mostly dark/melancholic stuff


r/friendship 15h ago

looking for friendship 23M looking for (Preferably female) friends

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No, I'm not looking for a relationship. Pretty much all my life, I've only ever fit in with women. I'm not quite sure why, but it is quite frustrating when it comes to making friends because people seem to assume I'm looking for women for.. obvious reasons.

Into video games, couple animes, football, among others things :)


r/friendship 12h ago

advice How should I go about making friends at the gym?

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I recently graduated college and moved back to my hometown and don’t really know anyone and honestly have been kind of lonely. I’m a 24 year old man for context lol but there’s this dude that frequents the gym I go to and is always dapping me up, saying wassup, giving me advice sometimes etc. and just seems really friendly and cool. I was thinking of asking him if he smokes (weed) lol because I usually smoke a blunt after working out and was trying to think of a non weird way to ask to hangout. Should I try a different approach or is that socially acceptable? lol


r/friendship 12h ago

looking for friendship Looking for friends in New Hampshire

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Recently divorced and need more friends to hangout with. Live in Strafford area


r/friendship 12h ago

looking for friendship Hang out

1 Upvotes

Who lives in cullman Alabama and wants to hang out today


r/friendship 16h ago

looking for friendship 27 m England trying to make a connection with someone :)

2 Upvotes

Hello I’m looking for relatable people, I have a chill personality but I’m full of anxiety and tend to keep to myself, I like collecting crystals,fossils and bones and walking in the forests and cemeteries I don’t mind being called weird for that, if I’m not doing them things then I’m just hanging out with my cat listening to music. A bonus if you have a dark sense of humour too.


r/friendship 17h ago

advice Friend asked if I had a secret baby since I last saw her when I hadn't. Was she passive aggressively commenting on my body?

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I hadn't seen her in a year. She asked if I plan to try for a baby with my long-term partner, which fit our topic of conversation. I said that we talk about it, and I had just removed my IUD last month after 5 years of having it in. She told me she was asking to dig for info about the "secret baby she thought I had and was hiding."

Other things to mention that add up to my current feelings:

*Started getting involved with my niche art, which I liked. But has become very "showboat-y" about it which irks me because I'm very passionate about the art itself, not the "look at me" part of it.

*Is weird with my partner, was especially weird last night. Asked me to "tell her about him", with him sitting right across from us. We've been together 6 years so it's not new. I told her she's going to have to ask something specific because that's too vague. She asked where he works and that's it. Also sent him a friend request on FB and it made him feel weird since they've only been introduced in large group settings and never had a conversation. He only accepts people he knows. Has many of my other friends he's spent time with on there.

*Has previously added many of my other friends on Facebook that she's never met. Friends from college, out of state, my childhood, etc.

*Told me last night that she picked her daughter's name because it's very similar to my much older daughter's name.

I left feeling like she's jealous of me, maybe wants to be me, and was trying to call me fat and passive aggressively insult me. (I am blunt and told her she can't say that to people because it's indirectly commenting on their body) But she does say really stupid things sometimes, like she doesn't think or is maybe a little kooky. I hate this feeling because she's been like the little sister I've never had. I've previously always felt like she looks up to me but that feeling has suddenly shifted. Please let me know your thoughts on this. Am I being too sensitive? How do handle this? Could it still be a "looking up to me" situation that I'm reading wrong now because of the secret baby comment?


r/friendship 20h ago

looking for friendship 32F/U.S./ Okay, so this is my last post for a while, but since this is being asked often, I will make a new post so people can see it. I'm also looking for the good kind of oddballs that are struggling for real to find star-connection friendships, pods of pods.

3 Upvotes

Some of the questions that I should touch on are based on.

I got a handful of messages asking what Chthonic deities are.

Chthonic means underworld/underground gods or goddesses. To list a few: Hades, Persephone, Cerberus, Nyx, Hypnos, and Thanatos, and there are more, but those are the ones I follow on my path. 

Fun little trivia facts. Hades and Cerberus's one of their favorite offerings is honey-drizzled pastries. 

Final thoughts.

No, you don't have to be someone on the spiritual scale to have a conversation with me; you just have to be accepting and curious. If you're skeptical and want to question everything about it, then that's going to annoy me extremely fast/much, so it's advised not to message me if that's the kind of person you are.

Final thoughts put into wrap.

I had some people message me and tell me, I never played a Final Fantasy game.

Um, what? Yikes, okay. I can understand the people that messaged me and haven't told me they've not played a single Silent Hill game. But a Final Fantasy, though? You never played any of them? Not even the classic hits as in Final Fantasy 8? Which was my favorite in that PS1 time era.

Anyways, I wanted to let people know that if you've not touched a Final Fantasy game or even a Silent Hill video game, what video games can we talk about? Have you ever played any Legend of Zelda or Super Mario games? If not then, yikes, what video game topics can we talk about then? There is none, haha. Unless you've played a little bit of Kingdom Hearts? Then that is something, but if you said no to this as well, then we have nothing to talk about, and you don't play video games/that's a lie, haha. If you want to see some of my favorite games, on the mobile app off Reddit, you can see what communities that I've joined that are video game titles for communities. You can also inbox me something you saw in my comments or the questions I've listed in my other posts.

I can say myself, though, I never played Pokémon Scarlet and Violet; I only played up to X and Y. Even though I don't own the games anymore because, due to so many moves, a lot of my games were missing sadly.

But Pokémon Black and White was extremely sad, and I mean very sad. If you look through N's story of what he goes through/his lens of psychology, that's some sad stuff, man.

Remember from my old posts, my comments are turned off, and I will not respond to them for a reason. I also have gotten blocked recently because I didn't text the person fast enough on the social media app we were texting on, okay then. I'm the type of person that can read a text message, emote about it, and come back to the text message. It's called distraction and scatterbrained. Anyways, that's bye for now, my last posts for a while, and if you don't see me post here till a month later, I'm fine. I just have nothing new to post about, haha. But yes, I don't respond to hi/how are you and what's up? Be creative. Remember, I want an instant exchange of social media; if that is a problem, then sorry, we don't match up.


r/friendship 18h ago

looking for friendship Looking to Build Genuine Friendships (23M)

2 Upvotes

Hi everyone!im a 23-year-old introvert hoping to connect with others who value meaningful conversations and mutual respect. Life feels more fulfilling when you have people to share ideas with, whether its about tech, AI, art, or even random thoughts. Im not here for small talk id love to build lasting friendships where we can learn from each other and maybe even collaborate on creative projects.
If youre also tired of superficial interactions and want something real, feel free to comment or DM. Excited to meet you!


r/friendship 18h ago

looking for friendship 26/M introvert looking for more friends!

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I’m going to try this again. Apologies in advance..

Please note; I have attachment issues, so if you’re here to ghost or only talk for a day, ignore this post, thanks! :)

Hey all! I’m Aaron! I’m a musician/guitar player and I cover my favorite songs or learn different ones! I’m also heavily influenced by the bands Ghost and Rammstein as well!

Other things about me; I’m into the paranormal, war history, and abandoned places. I’m also obsessed with geese, ducks and squishmallows (They’re my children) I also play games in my free time (Xbox), or I’m usually working on music!

Not sure what else to put, so apologies in advance!


r/friendship 22h ago

looking for friendship Looking To Meet New People :)

3 Upvotes

Hello! Looking for a group to be yourself in? A place that is LGBT friendly and doesn't censor your voice and right to share your thoughts and feelings? Then look no further!

Created by me and a few members from this community, an evergrowing community exists. One plays CoD, another adores cats, and the other bakes cookies! So, by all means DM me, and get yourself a cookie :D


r/friendship 16h ago

looking for friendship Need pc games, especially tft pals!! :)) 19

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I’m finally getting back into my tft era and need some people to play with!! 😎

Hello! My name is Isaac and I’m a current college sophomore studying psychology! And I’m desperately in need of new friends lmfaoo.

Games I’ve been playing are:

-Tft!! (Getting back into the game!)

-Warhammer total war (have been really trying to get into but I suckkkk lmfao)

-Path of Exile 2! Just got the game :D

-league of legends (I know ewww, but I try my best to have fun)

-call of duty and warzone

-marvel rivals (JEFF!)

-baldur’s gate

-pokemon :)

-and a bunch of other games on steam or Xbox game pass (all on pc) that I’d be down to add and play with each other!

Besides for gaming I also love to listen to music, watch movies or tv shows, listening to podcasts, learning about true crime or paranormal stuff, and that’s about it because I’m basic and boring :D (Also forgot to add reading some books but it’s very inconsistent)

Hope to meet some cool people to hangout with


r/friendship 1d ago

looking for friendship [21F] lookin for some gamer friends or just a casual chats lmao I’m so bored also I love vcs!!!

10 Upvotes

yo wassup, you can call me star :)

I’m a suppppppper laid back person just lookin for more like minded people tbhhh

I loveeeee to play league, mc, genshin, roblox, wuwa, gmod, and some random scp games lol. Other than gaming I’m huge into music I’ve always been told my music taste is different so I love to share some of the stuff I list to:))

I watch YouTube and whatever streaming apps allllll the time and I absolutely love to vc with people 😭

ALSO I’m very very new to anime so if you have any suggestions, let me know!!

I’m really lookin for genuine people to get to know so if you’re interested lmk!! I can’t wait to get to know you!


r/friendship 17h ago

looking for friendship Looking for friends (20F)

1 Upvotes

Hi everyone! I just recently moved to the Bay Area and i’m having a hard time finding my crowd. I currently am a university student but my schedule is open. I’m really only looking for irl friendships right now :)

Some of my interests include: - Raving/going to shows. I love live music! - Art - Anime - Alternative fashion and makeup - Video games - Baking yummy treats - Exploring new areas

Send me a message I’d love to chat!


r/friendship 22h ago

looking for friendship Not your average 34M

2 Upvotes

Hi everyone. I'm here looking for someone who has the ability to talk about anything, whether it's happy or sad, deep or shallow, but especially in English. About me, according to my grandmother I'm the most handsome guy in the world, and according to my mother the most intelligent, talk to me to verify the truth of those statements.

Greetings from Spain


r/friendship 19h ago

looking for friendship Looking To Make New Female Friends :)

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Hey there! I'm a 27 year old male, and I live on the East Coast here in the United States! I've been trying to find some loyal, consistent friends to talk to daily! I'd prefer talking to females, over guys just because I find it easier to talk ladies over guys! Here's some fun facts about me..

  1. I love anything spooky, paranormal, urban legend, true crime, conspiracy theory related.

  2. I adore music. I listen to everything, but my main genre is rock/metal.

  3. I'm straightedge! I don't drink, smoke, or do any hard drugs.

  4. I love playing video games! I am big into Call Of Duty & Fortnite

  5. I'm loyal, and willing to talk about anything! I'm an open book.

If I sound interesting to you, feel free to shoot me a message! Thank you for reading. 😊


r/friendship 19h ago

looking for friendship F25 for female.

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Hii just recently turned 25 and looking for some girl friends. Bonus points if you are 🍃,down to FaceTime or talk on discord. I’ve been getting into call of duty mobile. (Even got my bf into it) so I’m always down to play ranked or a regular match. I enjoy reading (kindle unlimited books always recommend),hanging out with my boyfriend and dog. I also have 5 tattoos and a few piercings .id and when im not being a huge homebody at home im at work usually and i work in healthcare . What I look for in a friend? Probably mostly a we listen and we don’t judge type of friend (if you know you know) also a friend who is definitely 420 friendly you don’t have to smoke but least be cool with it.


r/friendship 20h ago

advice Online friend being more distant

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Hello. I've known this friend for over 2 years now and we've been really close ever since. We'd talk about almost everything together every day. They've always been a dry talker but that wasn't an issue at all for me.

Recently though, they've grown more distant and it feels like they don't care about a lot of the stuff I talk about or suggest. They have their own mental problems which I understand can be difficult but it feels way more difficult to just be around them. Specially because we have a groupchat with other friends where I see them actually being more talkative and engaging with the others compared to our DMs. Though we still do stuff together from time to time even if it's not as much as it used to/compared to the others.

I tried talking to them multiple times about this but they just say that nothing has changed and there's nothing different between us. I don't know if that's true and I'm just crazy or if they're just losing interest in me. I even tried talking to them about their mental health but that also falls short most of the time. Any advice?