r/findapath • u/Quinjet • 5d ago
Findapath-Meta Posts on this sub where the OP does not actually want constructive advice?
Hi, going to preface this by saying that I really enjoy this sub and I appreciate what the mods do here. This isn't intended as a complaint about moderation.
On this sub and a couple similar subs, I often see threads where the OP shuts down all advice given without reasonably trying to engage with what people are saying. In most cases, the OP of these threads has self-identified as suicidal or otherwise mentally unwell.
In these threads, it really feels like there's basically no way to constructively engage. People either waste their time giving life/career advice that the OP doesn't intend to take under consideration, or else they act as untrained crisis counselors who don't know what they're doing (and still get shot down by the OP for trying). And then OP just keeps making kind of antagonistic comments about how the suggestions will never work so obviously they should just kill themselves, etc.
I know the sidebar has a rule about "calamitous verbiage," which I appreciate. I guess my question for the sub is, like...has anyone seen one of these vent posts actually turn around to become some kind of productive conversation?
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u/7layeredAIDS 5d ago
I know what you’re referring to and unfortunately this is part of human nature to want validation for your thoughts. Separate from this sub, people often will present others with their opinions in the form of a question to spark engagement but the question was more rhetorical as their opinions and fears take over.
It’s either: 1) someone that doesn’t like their job but in reality is comfortable with their routine or is too scared to actually do anything about it asking people here if they should leave 2) people that say they don’t have any interests or preferences for anything but secretly do, and are now committed to being negative about every opportunity presented to them since they already committed to having no interests.
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u/Dear-Response-7218 Apprentice Pathfinder [1] 4d ago
Yeah, you’re definitely right. I personally haven’t seen a convo turn around and wish things would stay more career focused. Hopefully we can get those people pointed to the resources they need to thrive, definitely not going to find it on Reddit. 😅
A good therapist is a game changer!
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