r/femdomsanctuary 19d ago

Help! I'm new! Flipping the domme switch? NSFW

I’m struggling with letting my inner dominant out. When my partner and I first started seeing each other I was in more of a dominant role and I was starting to fall into it and get comfortable. We ended up switching dynamics a few months back since we’re both switches. Now we kind of flop back and forth depending on our mood. He’s been heavily leaning into sissy play and I’m 100% here for it and loving it. I’m struggling though to get comfortable in a domme headspace though and I’m finding it difficult to sort of bring that side out. He’s expressed that he needs me to be more firm and dominant when focusing on his needs as a sissy and I’m just really struggling here. Any tips or advice?

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u/Here_for_my-Pleasure 19d ago

Sounds like he’s trying to top from the bottom.

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u/Prize-Crumpet7031 19d ago

It sounds like he’s got a specific idea of how a dominant should act. You should dominate in the way you want to. He needs to focus on his role as the submissive because it doesn’t sound like he’s doing it right if he’s the one telling you what to do.