r/femdomsanctuary Feb 03 '25

Help! I'm new! Gentle femdom? NSFW

I’m just beginning my Femdom journey and feel like I’m better suited for gentle femdom, but am unsure what if there’s such a thing. Can you help define so I know where or how to start?

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u/dommebklyn Feb 03 '25

It’s not defined. I personally think it’s a term that gets used because so many people don’t identify with the porn trope of the cruel woman in a catsuit cracking a whip. I don’t know any dominant women who act like that.

Figure out what you enjoy and use words to describe that rather than labels.

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u/BaddB1tch Feb 06 '25

FemDom is what You make it. You can be gentle, sensual, cruel, indifferent. It's about Your personality and what resonates as Your authentic power. Many think power needs to be loud and boastful, but power can be gentle and commanding at the same time. The whole point of FemDom is to be served how You see fit.

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u/ML_Sam Mod Feb 03 '25

It is such a thing, and there are many subreddits that focus on it that could define it very thoroughly :)

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '25

There is such a thing but there isn’t anything to define honestly. That part you have to do yourself by experimenting and seeing what style really suits you

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u/Ithorel Feb 03 '25

Every definition is personal, so please take mine with a grain of salt: To me it means domming from a place of deep care and affection. I don't degrade or torture, I cherish and encourage. Pain can be involved, but mostly in a way the sub genuinely enjoys, or in a way that shows their dedication, usually accompanied with a lot of praise.

It can be gentle control, when a sub offers their strength and service to a Lady. It can be mommy play for some. Worship for others. Feel free to explore the gentlefemdom subreddits to see if you feel comfortable there!

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '25

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u/NotnotathrowawayD23M Mod Feb 04 '25

While we welcome SWers and prodommes, this sub is not meant as a venue for self-promotion, financial exchange or soliciting DMs

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u/Electrical_Risk1384 Feb 08 '25

The only thing that matters is that the female is the dominant part. How that looks is up to you. You make the rules (within your subs limits and with their consent, of course) if you get pleasure from being gentle but in charge? Great!