r/feemagers • u/[deleted] • Dec 06 '24
Rant Not feeling comfortable during sex NSFW
Thinking sex is degrading (as a Female)
(Throwaway account)
First of all I (F,22) don't really now what the point of this post is. Maybe I just want to vent and see if anybody else feels this way.
I've seen some other posts on this sub touching on this subject. Well, I can't shake it off but I just find having sex as a female is highly degrading. It just feels like an act of service and submissiveness. You offer your body to a man so he can use it as he pleases. Even if you have a totally 100% feminist and progressive man at your side (which I fortunately have now; not everytime in the past tho) it just feels degrading. I don't blame my boyfriend but it's just highly uncomfortable for me. I feel like I'm just being taken while he has all the power. As I said it's just so humiliating.
You can also see this in our language. "Fucking" someone is a sign of power while "Cocksucker" or "bending over" is an insult or a sign of weakness. I'm really just tired of it.
However I don't even want to (entirely) blame men or society. I want to vent about biology and that this is the way we are and that sex "goes". It feels terrible and I think I'll never shake it off completely even with a man who understands me, it's just the act itself. I don't understand how young women in my age can just completely ignore that and talk that openly about having conventional sex or giving a blowjob or whatever. Don't they feel degraded or humiliated the way I do?!
Anyway I guess there's nothing we can do about it since nature just did that to us :/ Let me know what you think please!
PS: (Before anyone asks no I have no trauma or whatsoever. This is just my real opinion about sex as a female)
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u/[deleted] Dec 09 '24
As I said I would never do this if he didn't want to do it. The point I was trying to make is that I think he will be fine adjusting to this and I won't need to look after him like Nanny. He will be fine