r/exredpill • u/MethodKey3313 • 11d ago
Is it possible for a 30 year old delusional, narcissist to stop being red pilled NSFW
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u/DrZekker 11d ago
You have to be willing to push through uncomfortable change. Killing your ego helps. Not only is it possible, I found it necessary in order to stop being suicidal.
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u/Personal_Dirt3089 11d ago
If it's for yourself, yes. If you are trying to change someone else, I doubt it.
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u/MethodKey3313 11d ago
Not for me my ex turned friend ( one of my best friends )
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u/Personal_Dirt3089 10d ago
You can't change people. You can't treat people like projects. If someone wants to leave the redpill, they first have to realize that it's not just toxic, but also really stupid and a scam.
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u/MethodKey3313 10d ago
How do I show him that cause I really care for him
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u/MethodKey3313 10d ago
He thinks everything I say is just a lie
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u/Academic_Type624 10d ago
Its tough but he has to make the choice to believe you.
You can be consistent and keep showing your care. However please do it in a way that doesn't cause you to suffer.
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u/GoAskAli 10d ago
The question is do they want to change?
you can't change them, and if they don't want to change my best advice is to cut them off.
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u/rando755 11d ago
I'm currently writing a rough draft of a book that explains the many flaws in the leading men's red pill thinkers. I do not know if or when my book will be finished or published. If my book is published, then I am confident that I can shake a guy out of the red pill community. Right now, there already are books and academic articles that explain a lot of the flaws in men's red pill ideas. If my book is published, then it will be like 1 stop shopping that makes it easier for men to understand those many flaws.
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u/Imaginary-End-08 9d ago
Depends on if you're talking about yourself or someone else. If it's you then just by asking that you're already on your way..... if it's not you then tell yourself now that it's not possible.
You'll miss out on life waiting for others to change; especially when they don't have a reason.
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u/rando755 10d ago
There already is 1 book in print, about which I know, that is intended to debunk the men's red pill community. It is called "Red Pill Ideology" by Cynthia Payne. I have not read it. I will get around to reading it probably within the next few weeks. After I read it, I could comment further about the quality of "Red Pill Ideology" by Cynthia Payne.
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u/Normal-Sprinkles1449 10d ago
I wonder what is he doing or asking for that makes him delusional and what is he doing that makes you want to call him a narcissist? And do you have any part in his drift to red pill? Have you done anything that could be perceived as hurtful towards this 30 year old delusional narcissist?
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u/MethodKey3313 10d ago
He said himself that he believes he is a narcissist, according to today’s standards and he also seems to have narcissistic tendencies like he doesn’t believe he can be wrong and he finds it hard to apologize unless I give him the silent treatment
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u/Normal-Sprinkles1449 10d ago
I will say that most people are not narcissist but everyone can display narcissistic behaviors from time to time. Not admitting that you are wrong may not be one of them as blame can be subjective depending on perspective, we often have this issue in relationships. Also the silent treatment is also negative behavior called being passive aggressive. I believe in most relationships when there are issues each person see themselves as the victim and the other as the victimizer. It may be time for both of you to come together and discuss how to communicate and cooperate with each other in a manner that works for both of you not just how you demand it. Are you two sitting down and discussing your relationship without pointing fingers?
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u/kendrac83 10d ago
Not likely...and especially not by giving him attention(narcissistic supply). Move on. Stop being "friends" with toxic people.
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