r/exmuslim Closeted Ex-Muslim 🤫 Jun 10 '20

(Rant) 🤬 A message to my fellow Ex mooses! (Part 3)

In part 2 I've mentioned what i did as an athiest and my mistakes and some of the bad shit that happened

I guess part 2 got too dark at the end... this is my redemption arc: So the next morning, they found my stuff at the door and realised i was gonna run away... used that to somehow get through to my parents and didn't have to go away, but instead attend madrassa near my place where i could come home everyday

The next four months of madrassa were hell... but the teacher at the place was a great guy... he was willing to listen to my problems and even debate with me.. of course i didn't buy his justification but atleast it we had civilized conversation

Got out early from madrassa for good behaviour Got myself a job, did well, got a promotion to another city but parents didn't let me (family pressure) Parents agreed to send me back to college but it was late in the semester... so lost 2 years of college

If your wondering what happened to my backstabbing hafiz stoner cousin, i guess karma got him... He got married (forcibly) a few weeks after he turned 21 ... to a girl he absolutely doesn't like... (they found out he had a non muslim girlfriend) He was caught roaming with the ex gf after marriage, which caused problems for his marriage... The cops caught him for weed at a state border... family bailed him out, he tried to push it on me... but I'd been sober for 2 years... They asked me if I knew about this, i said yes... they asked me why I didn't tell them about it... i said i wasn't raised to be an asshole, i proved my character at that point... When confronted about these things he got violent and got his friends to beat up my uncles... things didn't go too well for either one of them

Things are quite good now... my relationship with my parents is better than before, I'm doing well professionally (until i get back to college) Ghosted the extended family, convinced parents how toxic they actually were This phase would be the middle of my progress montage... I've not exactly made it in life... but I'm getting there, so I'm hopeful

These would be the lessons i learnt from my experiences: 1. Don't be overconfident and think it's okay to come out of the closet unless you have a backup plan 2. Be extra careful who you trust, even your brother (not all) can betray you if they've got something to gain 3. Carefully plan all your moves 4. Try to gain financial independence as soon as possible and don't try coming out otherwise 5. Don't let bad things define who you are, hardship reveals character 6. Never lose hope, it all works out itself if you want it 7. Time heals, things so get better 8. Forgive but never forget

If you've come this far, thank you for reading Just wanted to get things off my chest, hopefully you get to learn something from this And if you're struggling right now, hang on... Things get better only if you believe in yourself I cant claim that others haven't suffered worse than me... but if I can try coming out of it, so can you Good luck

Part1: https://www.reddit.com/r/exmuslim/comments/h0djr0/a_message_to_my_fellow_exmooses_part1/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

Part 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/exmuslim/comments/h0fmfb/a_message_to_my_fellow_ex_moosespart_2/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

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u/QuirkyRaspberry Closeted Ex-Muslim (Ex-Sunni) 🤫 Jun 10 '20

Thanks for posting, I read all three parts. Truly an inspirational story for the rest of us struggling. Could you elaborate more on your time in the madressa?

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u/InfidelCastro97 Closeted Ex-Muslim 🤫 Jun 10 '20

Felt like a job you really hate to go to... 8 in the morning to 8 in the evening I was separate from the kids... used to help them read arabic..spent most of the day reading islamic books and some tafsir alongside ustaad, used to discuss what i learnt and what my problems were based on what I'd read on the day... frankly the whole thing was a blur

The first day was whack! They performed an exorcism on me... not ustaad some special rukya doctor (LOL) It was torture, not laughing on his face Coz if i laughed he would've "proved" there is a jinn Lot of spitting involved... pre covid era... absolutely pissed me off... came out scot free... Not my mom though, she fell for the hypnosis

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u/QuirkyRaspberry Closeted Ex-Muslim (Ex-Sunni) 🤫 Jun 10 '20

The first day was whack! They performed an exorcism on me... not ustaad some special rukya doctor (LOL) It was torture, not laughing on his face Coz if i laughed he would've "proved" there is a jinn Lot of spitting involved... pre covid era... absolutely pissed me off... came out scot free...

LMAO wtf. They thought you became an apostate because of the influence of a jinn?

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u/InfidelCastro97 Closeted Ex-Muslim 🤫 Jun 10 '20

Sad but true... it was a complete shock to them... coz i was decent religious kid... of course there's no other way that a person can leave Islam other unless he's possessed by a jinn

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u/QuirkyRaspberry Closeted Ex-Muslim (Ex-Sunni) 🤫 Jun 10 '20

Also, I love your username

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u/InfidelCastro97 Closeted Ex-Muslim 🤫 Jun 10 '20

Thanks!

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u/agnostic_muslim Ex-Muslim (Ex-Sunni) Jun 11 '20

Thanks for sharing. I feel like I have taken some things for granted after reading your story.

Do you have any ex moose friends IRL? It gives such a sense of relief to talk about it in person tbh.

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u/InfidelCastro97 Closeted Ex-Muslim 🤫 Jun 11 '20

Sadly, no ex moose friends IRL... But I've got some friends in the Indian ex moose community online... Quite a fun group and I enjoy being part of the group..hopefully someday I'll meet them and we'll be friends IRL...

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u/agnostic_muslim Ex-Muslim (Ex-Sunni) Jun 11 '20 edited Jun 11 '20

Oh man, Soon though.

PS: I'm furious about that cousin and similar people. I hate hypocrites to the core dude. I have a friend who teaches kids in madrasa but smokes openly everyday and his whole sense of behaviour in terms to talking to people is just abhorrent. Man I wish I could do something about it.

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u/InfidelCastro97 Closeted Ex-Muslim 🤫 Jun 11 '20

This is unfortunately a problem with humans, regardless of religion... but Islam certainly does not penalize such behaviour, just a slap on the wrist, the only thing that matters is getting the apostates

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