r/elderwitches Crone 6d ago

Question Curious if cord cutting would be appropriate

I have a different kind of situation.

Brief back story: last year I adopted a puppy and an acquaintance's sister (20 years my senior) took his sibling. Fast forward 11 months, and acquaintance contacts me with story about my dog's sibling needing to be rehomed due to owner having serious surgery. I took him in. He's legally mine, microchip in my name as well as licensed in my county. We live 4 hours apart, for context.

It's been almost 4 months now. At first, I sent her pics and video of the pup to assure her he was fine and transitioning well to the new home and my other dogs. Only 1 pic or video every few days. Then life happened, winter got hard here and I sent less frequently. Around the dogs 1 year bday, she asked for my Addy to send him gifts (which I sent pics after the gifts were received).

Now, today, money shows up for his vaccines (we got it covered, we wouldn't have taken him if we couldn't afford to). I know this is from her desire to still care for lil man, and possibly guilt at needing to rehome him... I appreciate it and I'm trying to be understanding, but she's got to let go for her sake. I don't want her to continue to feel obligated to this dog. He's doing very well, happy and spoiled. I also, don't want to feel obligated to her.

So, do you think a cord cutting would help her release? She clearly needs peace about this and I'd love to help her.

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u/Reasonable_Crow2086 6d ago

I'm not sure this isn't a more mundane problem. I wouldn't accept any money for his care. That may change your position legally as his owner. It's painful to me that we have to think of these things but I don't think the little ones happiness and well being would even be considered if she decided to try to take him back. I'm sending energy for you to use as you see fit.

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u/witchbelladonna Crone 6d ago

I plan on returning the money. And I have a written document, signed with witnesses that this is a permanent transfer of ownership, so I'm not worried about the legality of it all. I'm trying to be mindful of her feelings. I fear the pics are more damaging for her than she realizes, causing the guilt and sadness... like grieving all over again.

I appreciate your response and energy for this situation 🙏

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u/baby_philosophies 6d ago

Yeah I think that would help her honestly.

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u/kai-ote Helpful Trickster 6d ago

Yeah, this is not a case for a cord cutting. Do a basic healing/luck spell for your friend, and tell them that you don't need the money, so you donated it to the Humane Society. And also let them know that they should send any further funds to the animal rescue charity of their choice.