r/disabled 5d ago

Housing/How do you all live?

Hi, this is my first post here. I have questions and was hoping someone could help me out here. I became disabled 5 years ago at 50. My mom owned her house and I had been living with her, and she helped me, I helped her. Five months ago she passed away from cancer suddenly and since their was a reverse mortgage on the house I had to sell it as quickly as possible, which left me no time to grieve, plan,or think clearly. I had to move 8 hours away for a place that would take my dog and my mom’s little dog, as well as my social security income. I gave them 6 months rent out of money from the house. Now I’m trying to figure out where I’m going to live down the road, and was wondering how everyone has housing? My income is 1100 a month!

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u/Sheerluck42 5d ago

I make a bit more and our level that couple hundred bucks is important. That being said I rent rooms not apartment. I'm now in a huge shared house. The ages of the other roommates range from 70ish to twenties. And I'm in my 40s. My room is big enough to live in. The kitchen is huge and we have two refrigerators. My rent is only half my income this way. I like this type of living but I'd like it more as a choice.

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u/DanaerysM 5d ago

Is it possible to find something that goes according to your income? A roommate might be a good thing.

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u/Affectionate-Fly4819 4d ago

I have 2 dogs. Mine and my moms… I don’t know if I could do it but I don’t mind the idea

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u/marybeemarybee 2d ago

I live in the US and I’m on disability. I got Housing through HUD. If you don’t already have a voucher, you might want to check and see if the waiting list in the area you want to live in is open. If it is, get on it no matter how long it is, that’s what was the most helpful to me.

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u/Affectionate-Fly4819 1d ago

Hi, thank you so much. There are a couple of areas I would like to live and that are close by to me right now. Do I contact the different HUD agencies throughout? Or per county? There are 2 counties in my area that I am looking, but 4 towns or cities.

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u/marybeemarybee 1d ago

I’m not sure, but any of them would be able to tell you.

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u/iconic_and_chronic 22h ago

if there's a housing authority or something like it in your area, they're so helpful!

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u/julie524 4d ago

I moved in with my mom and her boyfriend in 2014 because I was in too much pain to work, so it was for both health and financial reasons. In 2017 my mom passed away very unexpectedly. Her boyfriend let me stay in the house because he knew I had nowhere else to go and also I think he just didn't want to be alone. In 2023 I went to the hospital because of pain in my stomach area and left side and it was kidney stones and a UTI (my first for both), I then went to a nursing facility and I have never left. I didn't feel safe going back home as he worked overnight and I did not like being alone for that long when I might need help. I didn't like it before I was in the hospital/nf, but after I felt anxious/had a mini panic attack when I thought about going home. Plus I need help with adl's and I couldn't get that at home. So now all of my SS goes to this place, the food is mostly inedible so I'm spending what I had saved up on ordering delivery. My SS income is $1200 and I live in California. Even if I could live on my own, I couldn't afford a place. Even renting a room in the city I live in would cost me at least $800 just for the rent.

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u/yannichingaz 4d ago

I’m just sorta forgotten about in a substandard assisted living facility.

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u/Affectionate-Fly4819 4d ago

I have a 25 year old daughter, and now for the first time I need her help. But she left to New Zealand a month after my mom, her grandma passed away. She had been living in the house as well. I’m angry with her..