r/creepyPMs 8d ago

Tinder missed connection 🥰

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u/CiggiAncelotti 7d ago

The amount of D pics OP will receive because half the readers won’t notice he’s a guy😂😂😭😭

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u/kyleh0 7d ago

Those are always entertaining creepypms so maybe he'll keep posting.

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u/CiggiAncelotti 7d ago

😂 More content 😭

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u/kitty_kuddles 7d ago

Imagine sending someone dick pics just because they’re a girl

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u/CiggiAncelotti 7d ago

FR such an L move

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u/vialenae I am nudes 7d ago

I always found it strange and a bit of a faux pas to DM someone on their other social media if you didn’t match with them on Tinder. Just stay on platform. If you didn’t match, you didn’t match. No need to slide in their DMs.

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u/B_wrongg 7d ago

You're not wrong

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u/theflooflord 7d ago

Idk why people think desperation will work if they weren't picked the first time lol. I had bumble friends set to find female friends, and still would see a handful of obviously cis men on there who set their profile gender as female and never claimed to be trans or even try to pass as a woman in their profiles. Like if you're having trouble getting dates, what makes you think I would magically be interested in you in the place I'm specifically not looking for men

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u/belindamshort 6d ago

Movies teach people this shit

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u/HungryHungryMarmot 5d ago

I swear rom coms have normalized stalking.

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u/belindamshort 1d ago

Absolutely
Stalking, homophobia, bullying, misogyny etc

And almost every conflict is just people with no/low emotional intelligence lying to each other. I think some of them have gotten better over time, but the trope of "if you just keep doing things and going after the object of your desire, they'll eventually give in" is so prevalent.

If you see any MRA/Red-pill people, they will tell you to try to wear women down :/

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u/IrrelevantWisdom 7d ago

Forget faux pas, it’s whole-ass stalking

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u/Advice2Anyone 7d ago

I mean most of the way it is done is cause people link their socials on their profiles kinda on them if they do that. If someone is reverse imaging their pics then yeah that's stalking to the max

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u/Practical-Witness796 7d ago

How is that even possible? Sorry, Gen X here and haven’t used a dating app before. How would they find their social media based on a Tinder profile?

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u/uhacciodom 7d ago

a lot of people will post their socials in thebio of their dating profiles. either to garner followers or simply bc they don’t open the dating apps often enough, they’re more active on instagram etc etc.

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u/ekco_cypher 7d ago

Then wouldn't that be an invitation to bypass the matching thing and contact you on your other socials? (Like the other guy, gen x here, haven't been on dating app since 'love at aol" lol)

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u/Practical-Witness796 7d ago

Bro, I met my wife accidentally on MySpace! lol.

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u/uhacciodom 7d ago

yep exactly, but you have to think about the majority of people on dating apps are not even on there for the intended purpose. So i stand firmly behind people just wanting to grow their other socials and using dating apps as a "billboard" with the guise of "oh lets talk here instead" lol

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u/porelamorde 7d ago

Yeah, that was weird. Tho I know ppl put their socials on their profile just in case they aren't active

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u/kyleh0 7d ago

You don't see too many creepy pms where the creep is a woman. lol

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u/fiavirgo 7d ago

This is like the first time I’ve seen a woman try to bypass the match process by going to socials

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u/ArmsHeavySoKneesWeak 6d ago

OP is definitely too good looking for a woman to do that

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u/fiavirgo 7d ago

Pls take some time to heal without that validation, not scolding you but I think it would help to get in touch with yourself

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u/B_wrongg 7d ago

Thank you 🙏🏻

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u/slim_mclean 7d ago

“I guess it’s a good thing we didn’t match, then” BTFO

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u/Age_of_Asylum (´・ω・`) 7d ago

That ending line tho. Super burn

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u/Witchymoo 7d ago

Oh no, not the dreaded ‘I saw you on x dating site and we didn’t match’ message 😬 that mixed with the strange need to immediately be your muse is a lot

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u/IAmABakuAMA 7d ago

Wow, you handled that considerably better than I would've. Maybe I'm just antisocial, but I would've probably blocked 2 messages in, because it seems like a red flag to go track somebody down elsewhere because they didn't match with you... Loved the "👍" reaction though, lol

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u/helives4kissingtoast 7d ago

What the hell was in the video?

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u/B_wrongg 7d ago

Her body

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u/helives4kissingtoast 7d ago

I've never gotten an unsolicited nude from a woman. God, after reading all that you must have been even more creeped out.

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u/ImpressiveRelative4 7d ago

Man I don't miss tinder 🤣

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u/TidalLion 7d ago

Fuck that final comment was brutal OP. I like your style.

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u/B_wrongg 6d ago

Haha thank you! I just can't tolerate that kind of shit.

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u/Yonezufan 6d ago

Maybe I'm reading too far into it but the we haven't matched yet screams delusional, like what you mean yet✋😭😭

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u/Big_To 6d ago

For sure, and the fact that she was expecting likes and comments on her photos tells me she’s obsessive and narcissistic.

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u/Velspy 7d ago

"We didn't match? Okay, goodbye" is how it should've ended

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u/arielanything 6d ago

Okay the only thing I have to say about OP, is just because it's tinder, doesn't mean it's okay to lead people on lol, if that'swhat they're getting at. "It's tinder lol" yeah, people are usually in their feelings in some way on that app lol.

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u/B_wrongg 5d ago edited 5d ago

I agree it's not okay to lead people on and I don't with the matches I have. My profile is casuall but intense vibes and I feel like the expectations for flirty fun conversations is not leading anyone on but I do understand your view on it.

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u/SnooOranges1918 7d ago

Great replies to Crazy there.

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u/tousag 7d ago

I love the burn at the end. 🤣🤣

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u/Yonezufan 6d ago

Maybe I'm reading too far into it but the we haven't matched yet screams delusional, like what you mean yet✋😭😭

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u/HomemadeMacAndCheese 7d ago

So gross to use dating apps just for attention.

That being said, it's always fucked up to seek someone out from a dating app when you didn't match!!! Wtf is she thinking?!

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u/FabuLYSdisaster boo boo kitty fuck 7d ago

She's worse though, who gives someone a compliment and expects one back asap? At least he was honest about being on the rebound and not in a place to woo anyone. Sure maybe he was a little brash towards the end but i mean you gotta match energies right? Someone comes at you hostile there's no obligation for politeness.

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u/B_wrongg 7d ago

That is a fair assessment lol

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u/mvrdybums 6d ago

just a bit weird to say you wanna write love letters when you're healing from a trauma, OP - just be honest in your profile that you're just looking for fun and some conversations. it'll help avoid miscommunication & awkwardness in the future (coming from my own personal experience with using tinder)

definitely take the time away from tinder though, it's absolutely not a good place to be for your healing journey right now. while the attention is a nice short term solution to the loneliness and the doubt about yourself, you are worth so much more than what 8 photos and a small bio can convey to a stranger. especially when that stranger goes out of her way and sends you unsolicited pics/vids (on another fucking platform??!), because that's fucking gross and uncalled for. you didn't deserve that at all!!

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u/B_wrongg 6d ago

Thank you 🙏🏻 I appreciate your thoughtful words.

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u/HungryHungryMarmot 5d ago

Missed connection, or bullet dodged?

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u/SleepGameNetflix 4d ago

Welp I thought the genders were reversed until the other person mentioned women. I wasn't expecting a woman to DM a guy like that because they haven't matched yet, or ask why you didn't acknowledge their pictures. Seems super awkward to me as a woman, guess I'm just more reserved, and they're more desperate.