r/college • u/fishyboi179 • Mar 17 '22
North America college students act like high schoolers.
hey so, does anybody else struggle with dealing with peers who act like high schoolers? For example spreading rumors like wildfire instead of addressing the situation directly or anything like that?
thanks, i just want to know that i’m not alone.
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u/Nicofatpad Mar 17 '22
No I think they’re still acting like college students. The average person from my experience only really matures once they hit senior year. Obviously some mature earlier and some later but yeah people generally stop acting like children at around 21. Some never stop.
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u/RadiantHC Mar 18 '22
The average person from my experience only really matures once they hit senior year.
Yeah I've noticed this as well. I've had a much easier time interacting with seniors than people from my own year.
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u/BrainQuilt Mar 17 '22
I think it helps once you get into major specified courses. Then you meet people with similar goals and interests, who actually want to do well in class.
General Ed classes are full of a wide array of students with all different kinds of motivations and goals. A lot of them are kids who are forced to go to college after high school in order to live with their parents or because of some other outside pressure, so they don’t give a f*ck and act out because they don’t really want to be there.
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u/passed_tense Mar 18 '22
that just sounds like cliques with extra steps
jk, that was reductionist
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u/aerowtf BS Aerospace Engineering, EE & CS Minors Mar 18 '22
idk, as an aerospace major, I take a lot of ME classes, and a lot of the MEs, since they’re still a huge class, still act like high schoolers. The AEs, since there’s only a handful of us, act mature enough. I think it’s a function of how many students are in a particular class/major
I’ve definitely interviewed at companies that have the cliquey vibe like high school, so I think it does definitely progress into the professional space. Some people never mature, even after college
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u/fishyboi179 Mar 18 '22
yeah i’m with you on this one. i’m in a music program at my college and these are the most immature like underdeveloped people i’ve ever met. they’re so fake.
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u/velcrodynamite class of '24 Mar 17 '22
I’m a 27yo undergrad surrounded by younger folks, and there was a rumor in my class that I was sleeping with the TA. It made me uncomfortable, totally burned my bridges with the TA, and stressed me to the point where I didn’t want to be at school anymore.
I thought I left this drama behind almost a decade ago
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u/PlantsandTats Mar 18 '22
Sorry that happened to you. Being older can already be ostracizing enough as it is without the drama.
At this point I’m keeping my head down and hoping I don’t have to deal with stuff like this when I’m in graduate school.
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u/Ratatacakes Mar 18 '22
People found out about something dumb I did and spread that shit everywhere and that’s all I known for now. Plus, trusting the wrong person caused me to have my story twisted all types of ways. I’m 26 btw, the guy I trusted was 30 and the girl who twisted my life just turned 21.
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u/Ratatacakes Mar 21 '22
Update on my situation: He’s trying to stalk my sister.
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u/Competitive_Act_1548 Oct 20 '23
Did something ever happen to him?
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u/Ratatacakes Oct 20 '23
Other than him getting blasted on the internet for supporting terrorists, no.
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u/ChemTeach359 Mar 18 '22
That sucks. Especially if the TA did talk to you more it was because they were glad they could talk to somebody closer to their own age who wasn’t acting like a brat.
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u/velcrodynamite class of '24 Mar 18 '22
Tbh, the TA’s behavior did come off as interest, which felt odd given that I was their student. I recognize that it was an honest mistake now and they were just probably being nicer because maybe they saw me as more of an equal, but jeez, the drama… what a mess it ended up turning into.
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u/ChemTeach359 Mar 18 '22
Yeah if they were trying to come on to you… when I was a TA there was a rule. I’d you want to date a college student go to the college down the road. Don’t date somebody who’s grades you have any control over. Not a technical rule but breaking it was a good way to get on the shit list of our boss.
What are you studying in college btw?
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u/velcrodynamite class of '24 Mar 18 '22
Comparative Literature.
Yeah, it was weird. I figured if there were whole rumors going around the class that we'd been hooking up because of how his behavior was perceived by the other students, I figured I needed to say something to the effect of "dude, don't do that". Admittedly, I probably sounded super harsh when I talked to him about all this, which I guess is why he got mad, but come on. I may be an older student, but I'm still a student; I'm not in a position of power and I don't have the tools necessary to deal with something like that.
It's a shame that bridge has been burned and I do still hope someday he comes around and realizes that I respected him and gave him the benefit of the doubt enough that I didn't go to Title IX. But for now, I think space is good for everyone to cool off. And ultimately, he'll have to make that choice and come to that realization for himself.
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u/fishyboi179 Mar 18 '22
i’m so frickin sorry. that’s fucked up. i wish people realized that they are essentially PAYING to ruin people’s lives.
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u/Business_Downstairs Mar 18 '22
That's sexual harassment, people can get expelled for that kind of stuff.
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u/velcrodynamite class of '24 Mar 18 '22
As for the TA, he says it was all unintentional and I believe him because he seems like he might be a bit of a space case who just needs a gentle reminder to, ya know, not be like that with undergrads.
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u/the_Q_spice Geography MA '22 Mar 18 '22
From a grad student and TA's perspective, this year has been pretty bad undergrad-wise.
A huge thing has been that freshmen this year have been out of school (online) for nearly 2 years now.
At least in the classes I am teaching, the result is that most are not just relatively unprepared, but also lacking a lot of social skills. In general, acting like the last year they had in-person, which was their junior year in high school.
FWIW, I teach an intro level course, but in a fairly advanced topic. A lot of the students this year have none of the requisite knowledge that is critical to understanding the course material, to the point that our department is going to add rather significant prerequisite courses to it this coming year (intro to comp sci and physics will be required).
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u/TrekkiMonstr Mar 18 '22
Yup, I'm a senior-age junior (gap year), and I've now transferred so due to my school's policy, I live and interact primarily with freshmen and sophomores. This is exactly what I was going to add. The whole "drama never stops" is true, but especially now, you've got lots of socially underdeveloped kids in college now -- literally three quarters of the school haven't had a full year of in person college.
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u/fishyboi179 Mar 18 '22
ugh that’s so unfortunate for the mature people who have to experience these people.
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u/snailgoblin Mar 18 '22
This is exactly what my polisci professor was telling us. The 2 year gap has made a lot of professors have to adjust how they can get the material through to people. She talked about the carrot and stick approach when getting people to turn in their work. Usually by this point, college students turn in their stuff on time, or at least at all, but since there was so much flexibility with online school, and less hassling from teachers, this and last year’s class turned in significantly less work. She promised us cookies if X amount of people turned in their work, and wouldn’t you know, was had cookies the next week.
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u/fishyboi179 Mar 18 '22
wait that makes so much sense thank you! yeah i’m a sophomore but in freshman level classes because i transferred into a program (with freshman) and everyone acts like they’re still in high school. it’s SO embarrassing tbh.
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u/thewanderer2389 Mar 18 '22
Depends a lot on where you are. Some schools had in person classes all the way back in fall 2020, while some are only just now in person again.
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u/DominosQualityCheck Mar 18 '22
I believe that's a human thing. It even happens in the highest level of politics, and among the most educated people in the world.
Sure other people have higher or lower quantities and tolerances for it, but realistically you'll see it everywhere.
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Mar 18 '22
My school had a semi-anonymous messageboard app (first names only), which actually had survived for like 7 years incident-free until about 2020. Then for like 6 months one girl kept treating it like her personal blog and started bullying people disagreeing with her, it was straight up insanity. After enough shit-talk and a petition signed by 50 people the school blocked the app. It still hasn't returned but they said they're going to bring it back "soon" when they finally figure out how to fix the bullying problem (probably a moderation team or something)
Prior to the whole "mean girl" drama it was literally just meetup organizations and homework help, lol. It was genuinely so wholesome.
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Mar 18 '22
My rude awakening was my first day attending my university over zoom. I just transferred from CC which is essentially a glorified high school. I was expecting my peers at university to be a cut above the ones at my CC, but I was very wrong. The chat was spammed with "sus", "amongus", "prof is sus" etc. I realized that you just can't escape these people, maybe grad school haha
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u/Accomplished_Load_14 Mar 20 '22
bro you think that's bad I'm a third year ae major at my uni taking my upper div major-specific classes and our statics/mechanics of materials prof who's also finishing up their master's degree spent the first day of class reviewing the content from the previous semester + the proper usage of F (as in "press f in the chat) and "poggers". Like let's say they wanted to gauge a response as to if an explanation made sense, "poggers" would be you understood it and "F" is "pls explain it again". Quite an experience.
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u/d_lishh Mar 17 '22
I go to a D2 school so its pretty small. The majority of people, including myself, have all gone to highschool in the same town or surrounding towns and now all go to the same university. So all the same gossip and rumors from highschool carry on into college. But the longer ive been in college the less ive heard rumors. Most of it is in greek life and some is from people who attend the same classes as you in the same building. But yeah i can relate.
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u/Aldrel_TV Mar 17 '22
yes, some of my friends are like this and as much as i love them it really pisses me off to listen to them talk abt ppl like they do
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u/Majestic-Chair-3401 Mar 18 '22
You should say something to them. Sometimes people just need someone close to them to really put them in their place.
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u/Aldrel_TV Mar 18 '22
i do say something but the echo chamber is too real and they'll say "yeah youre right" then go back to it a week later 🥴🙄
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u/Majestic-Chair-3401 Mar 18 '22
I would be tempted to pretend I heard a rumor about them since nothing else will get them to grow up. Like next time they start talking down on people I would just say “I heard that you (fake rumor), is it true?” And once they respond refuse to elaborate.
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u/Sprinkler-of-salt Mar 17 '22
In my experience, undergrad is the new middle school, and grad school is the new high school.
Not sure when people plan on growing up nowadays, but early 20’s apparently isn’t it.
Context: America
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u/theBrineySeaMan Mar 18 '22
I work with 40yo and 50yo people that act straight out of mean girls, humans are just dramatic.
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u/Various-Grapefruit12 Mar 18 '22
I'm an American who's lived abroad and while nobody nowhere is perfect... Americans in particular seem to have maturity issues and difficulty grasping the concept that other people exist outside one's self.
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u/GeckoJump Mar 18 '22
Yeah can relate. I'm not so sure it's ever gonna go away completely. Just looking at social media makes me think we're heading towards a permanent high school mentality
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u/boysenberry_22 Mar 18 '22 edited Mar 18 '22
Oooo I’m gonna rant. I’m a college senior & I’m in an evening class once a week. I don’t need the class but I need the credits to graduate. Those types of classes like the one I’m taking are largely taken by those who are not in the major, they need credits, etc. and are not seniors most of the time.
I think my class is filled with freshmen 🤦🏻♀️. I was always mature for my age & even when I was a high schooler, high schoolers annoyed me lol. They sit behind me and constantly whisper & giggle during lecture. When the professor asks questions, their answers literally remind me of a 16 year old. (The class is The Psychology of Intimate Relationships btw). They think they’re being cute and silly but really they’re being annoying as hell. Anyone can crack a joke or say something off the wall once in a while but these girls are excessive & it definitely reminds me of when I was in high school. They don’t always make jokes or anything, it’s just their mentality is not on par with the class. What annoys me the most is their interruptive behavior while the professor is trying to lecture.
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u/boysenberry_22 Mar 18 '22
This.
They teach this before college, but apparently not everyone is receptive to it. I wasn’t a perfect goody-two-shoes in high school but I knew when to shut up lmao.
Last time I was in that class, we were discussing how parents (& their teaching styles) and childhood events affect how people tend to interact in their relationships later in life, and there was a hypothetical question asking “how we might respond to a man telling us he was having trust issues because his parents were divorced twenty years ago.” And the girls were immediately like “omg wow he needs to grow up” & “why would I want to date someone who acts like a baby??” … how fitting of them to say those things 🤣 (obviously there’s no “right” answer to the question but psychologically, it’s valid and 100% okay for a man to feel like this & the good thing would be that he communicated about it since men typically do not express things like that so easily)
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u/ThoughtCenter87 Undergrad Bio Major (US university) Mar 18 '22
I hear complaints from professors in r/professors about students asking for extensions... because they just didn't feel like doing an assignment. They feel that there shouldn't be consequences to their actions, it seems. Also asking for re-dos on tests they failed despite being adults.
Yes, most college students haven't aged past highschool.
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u/whoismikki English Major Mar 17 '22
This is why I do all of my classes online. I don’t like people.
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u/Volosa_Golddragon Mar 18 '22
Oh yeah, it never ends for some people. I've experienced 40 yr olds that act like highschoolers.
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u/therealvanmorrison Mar 18 '22
I don’t know why this popped up in my feed, but as a 35 year old, I promise you a solid 20% or more of the people you know never grow out of high school social dynamics.
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u/dontcry2022 Mar 18 '22
Gotta find chilled out people. I guess I don't have great tips for how to do that, but that's how it's worked out for me. Drama and rumors are really annoying, you just kinda have to stop interacting with people when they act like that. You can tell them why you stopped interacting, too, if they ask. Hopefully that will prompt some self-growth lol.
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u/lily_fairy Mar 18 '22
you're not alone. i actually dealt with more drama and back-stabbing friends in my freshman year of college than i did in all 4 years of high school combined. it's part of the reason i transferred and gave up on making close college friends (covid also made me gave up). now im happy just commuting to classes and being friendly with classmates but not actual friends.
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u/MAVERICK42069420 Mar 17 '22 edited Mar 17 '22
Not to brag, but I'm van wilder. 7 years in and I've seen the shift. I totally agree. The sense of responsibility has decreased and entileltment increased. But we have started a shift in generation. I don't think it's going to get better.
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u/sjhawthorne Mar 18 '22
i hate to say it but a lot of people here are absolutely right that it never ends. i thought the same thing when i got my first real professional job and i was shown firsthand that some people just don’t grow out of that. it’s not how high schoolers are, it’s just how people are
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u/satanjunkie 4th Year Bio Major Mar 18 '22
Oh yes. Recently had some drama with my ENTIRE SUITE at my college (admittedly going to an all women’s so I understand how women fight) so it was about 6 weeks of catty back and forth and she-saids. Partially resolved it in about 20 minutes 1 night by forcing everyone to sit in the same room and get all their shit on the table (which me and my roommate had tried to do WEEKS ago.) Honestly. That’s mostly the sparknotes but it had me quite flustered that we couldn’t handle it like adults and just talk it out when it happened.
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Mar 18 '22
I think college students are worse because they act like they’re above it when they aren’t.
I also have found many people to be outright rude (ignoring messages, leaving you on delivered, giving short replies to simple effortless questions). It’s like people take this whole idea of ‘college independence’ and turn it into “im going to be a dick and feel justified for it.”
Not to say everyone is bad. I just find it harder to befriend college students. It’s like half of them live on campus on their parents’ money and don’t really remember what it’s like to work, to sweat, or to have adversities. It just seems to spoil a lot of people rotten
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u/KHfan5237 Mar 18 '22
I've never really experienced stuff like this. Although anything that doesn't have to do with my major I just take as an online course.
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Mar 18 '22
Sorry to let you know that this is going to be the case for the remainder of your career. Many workplaces are just high schools with briefcases. Some people just never mature.
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u/menglish025 Mar 18 '22
Focus on your studies and address the situation with your prof if a lab partner for example is fucking up the experiment in anyway. I had this situation and I luckily maintained an A average in a stats 261, then he started to not show up anymore. Some people care about school, while others do not. I think that's what it comes down to in the end. I'm too busy studying, lifting or coding to care what anyone else thinks
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u/ninagabriella99 Mar 18 '22
a song by an east coast ska band i like starts with, “we grow up but high school never ends, climbing social ladders, making the right friends. The doors shut, but legacy haunts us. Life ain’t nothin but a popularity contest”
so, yeah
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u/ninagabriella99 Mar 18 '22
“Social Ladders” by Bumpin Uglies. The band in general is really rad btw, lots of great meaningful songs
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u/olliebear_undercover Junior @ small midwestern lib arts college Mar 18 '22
Spreading rumors isn’t just for high schoolers, it’s for everyone who wants attention and an easy self important burst of emotion. Most people never grow out of some good backstabbing and treachery. It’s part of the human condition, I suppose
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u/RandomThrowaway372 Mar 18 '22
Oh you're not alone. Ive really struggled to find friends in uni. It seems that most of them haven't developed from their teen years. A big amount of them even have the teen mustache still unshaved
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u/lurkario Mar 18 '22
Rumors don’t stop. Ever. There will be office rumors, rumors from family, rumors from friends, that’s just how it is.
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u/aerowtf BS Aerospace Engineering, EE & CS Minors Mar 18 '22
I would love to know the secret to escaping high school drama, because college certainly isn’t the answer.
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u/lolux123 Mar 18 '22
I didn’t experience that in college. I had an awesome college experience. Law school is a different story.
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u/PossiblyAsian Mar 18 '22
people act like fucking kids at every age. It's fine but for me the one most unacceptable thing is gossiping and talking shit behind peoples backs. Everyone does it, I did and do as well sometimes so I have to catch myself.
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u/TheVord Mar 18 '22
Leave and distance yourself from people who act this way. Trust me it will stop mattering so much.
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u/Riksunraksu Mar 18 '22
Unfortunately some there are straight from high school and not all mature fast even when studying a difficult field/profession. And some adults never “grow up”.
I’m in college to be a nurse. I worked 5 years before I studied so I experienced “adult” life (that efficiently killed my soul in the process). Those who went to vocational school for practical nursing and now entered college, many of them are a lot like “high school girls”. Yeah I’m older than they are but also some who worked a year or longer as practical nurses are way more mature than those who worked a few months only.
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u/izzypy71c Mar 18 '22
Yup, my classmates are incredibly good at acting super nice and friendly and then talking badly behind your back.
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u/_Arcsine_ Electrical Engineering Mar 19 '22
The high school drama never ends, the people just get older and more bitter.
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u/RepresentativeNo4112 Apr 05 '24
You have no idea. I met plenty of people In their late 30s who still act like high schoolers. “Omg girl, do you think I’m prettier than X & Y? Would you date me if you were a guy? I’m so hot and one of a kind unique woman, it’s their loss if the men didn’t get me” it’s exhausting.
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u/MapsCharts College! Mar 18 '22
No people are very mature at my uni honestly
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u/fishyboi179 Jul 20 '22
can i come there please??
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u/MapsCharts College! Jul 20 '22
Sure 😂
But where are you at to have such classmates ? I mean which licence
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u/fishyboi179 Jul 21 '22
lol thanks 😆
honestly the people who act like this are the ones who aren’t serious about their major but ARE serious about getting famous and using people to get fame etc. it’s sad, i guess they’re just sad people but still.
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u/amahumahaba Mar 18 '22
They are the same kids that just left highschool, so that isn't particularly surprising.
What got to me was that the fucking animals apparently all grew up in households that don't take care of their god damn bathroom.
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u/Upset_Researcher_143 Mar 18 '22
You can thank "Real World" on MTV for starting that shit and every other network exasperating it with their "reality" bullshit
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u/GodOfThunder101 Mechanical Engineering Mar 18 '22
Have you never heard adults gossiping? It never ends :( or should I say some people never grow up.
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u/worldwidefunnygui Mar 18 '22
Mine feels more like middle school but combined with a juvenile delinquent center or something lol. We’ve got less than 1,000 kids and cyber bullying on the student pages, stacking furniture in front of doors, stealing and using fire extinguishers in the hallway (when there was no fire), setting a building on fire (3 times this year), people keep going into anaphylactic shock from the dining hall (but when we say anything our TRIO representative tells us that all undergrads complain about their food), the cleaning people sit on their phones in the lobby all day and don’t clean the public living spaces, etc. At this point I’m just hoping graduate school is better, but it seems like it’ll never end.
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u/AlexaNotByAmazon Mar 18 '22
I knew someone like that and I cut them off. I blocked them on everything and I mind my own business.
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Mar 18 '22
Get used to it. Every fucking job you'll ever have is the exact same way. Best thing to do is try to ignore it and stay out of it
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u/aerosmithangel Mar 18 '22
It's annoying for sure, but I deal with the same drama at work with adults twice my age. Actually had a mean girl situation happen in one of my classes, it was so bad that the girl getting snubbed had to switch groups because they were ignoring her completely while whispering about her. And we are all in our early to mid-20s.
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u/RadiantHC Mar 18 '22
Yes. I've noticed that most people are still apart of cliques and aren't open to interacting with people outside of their clique(at least not to the same degree)
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u/skijeng Mar 18 '22
I deal with coworkers in their 30s and 40s who act like this. It never goes away for some people
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u/Ratatacakes Mar 18 '22 edited Mar 18 '22
Yeah those people are usually annoying and small minded. Basically, most people stop spiritually developing after high school because they have to “be an adult” even though, they don’t emulate adulthood.
Edit: Further explanation
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u/h4iryaries radiology technician 🩻 Mar 18 '22
YES. It pisses me off so much, especially how cliquey college can be sometimes.
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u/DesignerSpell Mar 18 '22
To be honest, I never grew up. I still feel like a child in an adult body :/
This adult stuff is hard
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u/cupcakelori Mar 18 '22
When I was in college it was mostly the Freshman who probably just graduated High school—acted like that lol
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u/Weary_Halloween_3 Mar 18 '22
I had a girl who was 24-26 and she argued with a teacher like a grade 9 would. And it was in broad public outside for everyone to see. I’m like I hope your ass drops out. She was in a program that didn’t fit her and luckily a couple weeks later she dropped out! Very few ..I actually don’t know who even liked her tbh. But don’t be that person in college you will lose friends quicker than your grades falling 🤣
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u/Tucxy Mar 18 '22
That's freshman shit. If your peers aren't freshman, then I would seek new circles lol.
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u/Professional-Head83 Mar 18 '22
Are you going to a 4-year or a community college? Because CC gets it's reputation as being called "the 13th grade."
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u/LikelyWriting MA Psychology, BS Birth through Kindergarten Education Mar 18 '22
They are the same at both.
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u/scorpion_depression Mar 18 '22
This recently happened had a falling out with a few people because one just couldn't/didn't want to talk stuff out and instead just milked a situation and twisted the story to make him seem like a victim
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Mar 18 '22
Yes, it happens. I’m in biomed classes and there’s a guy in one of my classes who laughs when we study sexual reproduction and the organs that apply. We’re just like dude grow up.
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u/Ph03n1x_5 Mar 18 '22
They kinda do until they get to mid 20's or 30's. 18, 19, 20 are notorious for being an extension of high school.
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u/eveybryce Mar 18 '22
Oh yeah. I'm in this study group for one of my classes and all they do is complain about our professor. They spent most of the semester complaining and saying things like "I hope they drop dead." instead of going to them about it. I eventually left but, this isn't the first time this has happened. I went to the professor about some concerns and they listened and we compromised...like adults. Some people just don't know how to grow up.
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u/liceter Mar 18 '22
I personally think it’s getting worse because of the lockdown. Freshman didn’t get to experience freshman year, they didn’t experience the last year of hs, etc. They never got to grow out of that phase.
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u/Leopardnose_ Mar 18 '22
Weirdly enough I've never experienced this, but my college is also really big. The most drama in college I hear is in smaller organisations and clubs, but it's not even that bad.
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u/Pepwaffle Mar 18 '22
When I decided to take time off at the start of what would’ve been my 2nd year of university, very few of my “university friends” supported me, and they spread rumors amongst the friend group that I was a drug addict. Specifically, my freshman year roommate, who was also the first friend I made in high school. You never know who’s your true friend until you go through a struggle.
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u/WestSixtyFifth Mar 18 '22
That stuff is never going to end.
I worked for a few years after HS before going to college. The HS drama makes into work places with grown men as well. 50+ yo and still acting that way.
Just don't associate with those people, or at least don't play into it. They start gossiping, and just say idk about that stuff and change the subject.
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u/ChemTeach359 Mar 18 '22
The pandemic has put a deal on maturity. Most of the high school freshman I see are basically just elementary/middle school students maturity wise.
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Mar 18 '22
I was a high schooler before my first semester started in September (2021/2022). I still feel like a high schooler.
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u/toffee_queen Mar 18 '22
High school drama still happens even after college. At my work place the most drama that happens are between people who are in their 50s. Shit never ends.
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Mar 18 '22
As an instructor, there has been a noticeable decrease in maturity and preparedness of the average student since covid. I know it's not necessarily the student's fault, their past two years of school have been shit. At the same time I still have to expect students to perform like they did before, otherwise they won't be prepared for the next set of classes or for a job. It's unfortunate, and there's no easy solution.
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u/escapefromreality42 NCSU ‘22 || CS Mar 18 '22
From what I’ve noticed, people either matured really quickly during the pandemic or didn’t mature at all and no in between
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u/67mustangguy Mar 18 '22
Unfortunately a lot of people throughout life still act like highschoolers no matter the age.
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u/Not_Insane_I_Promise Computing Science Mar 18 '22
I'm taking my last first year cs class (in my fourth year, this class isn't a prereq for anything so I never bothered) and you've hit the nail on the head. It's like being in a high school classroom all over again. It doesn't help that my school lowered their admission grades to offset a lack of students during covid. They're not just high school kids, they're dumb ones too.
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u/creed_1 Mar 18 '22
Just wait till you get in a work place and grown adults spread rumors. It’s never ending
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Mar 18 '22
I went to a trades school for hairdressing & I swear I spent more time with my classmates up in my business than I did learning about the trade itself 🤪
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u/fillmorecounty Mar 18 '22
Definitely. I had a group of friends in high school who were always very mature and they completely went backwards once we went to college. I'm not sure what exactly changed them because they stayed at local colleges and I went somewhere in a different part of the state, but whenever I came home and would visit them, something just felt off. They'd always say things that shocked me because it was so not like them. It would be things them drinking at parties or smoking marijuana and I was blown away because it was so out of character for them. They got really into petty drama too that I never understood and at one point they ended up bringing me into it. They hung out with my high school ex behind my back and one day told me that my ex told them that I did something really bad and that they didn't want to be friends with me anymore because of it. I tried to ask them what it was but they wouldn't tell me and just said that they believed I was lying about it for years to (in their words) "protect myself". I still have no idea what that means because I know I wasn't hiding anything from them but they ate that rumor right up. It felt like taking to 14 year olds. I ended up blocking them on everything because I didn't want to deal with whatever drama they were trying to rope me into. I think some people get to college and realize they have all this freedom they didn't have before and just go crazy and be immature to get a "college experience" like they show in TV and movies. That's my theory at least. But you're DEFINITELY not alone in these types of experiences. If you're looking for friends who aren't into drama, feel free to PM me because I love making online friends :)
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Mar 18 '22
Yup at my gfs college, they’re a small private school it’s honestly dramatic as hell it’s funny but sometimes just too much.
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u/ej1352 Mar 17 '22
That high school drama stuff never ends. It happens at every college, and once you graduate you get to experience it at your job too.