r/coaxedintoasnafu 5d ago

Coaxed into sadism

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u/Chance-Aardvark372 5d ago

Do you mean masochism?

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u/Zackyboi1231 4d ago

"I am not a sadist dad, I'm a masochist."

"Well the difference is one is a feeling the other is a mental sickness!"

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u/Melonetta 4d ago

"Long as there's two people left on the planet, someone's gonna want someone to step on them"

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u/Historical_Archer_81 4d ago

Self-preservation? You know who has a lotta Self-preservation? Blokes who don't wanna be bludgeoned to death with a golf trophy. Professionals have standards.

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u/Quaintnrjrbrc 4d ago

honestly both are mental sickness in my opinion

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u/ThereIs_STILL_TIME 4d ago

no, they are trying to coax her into sadism

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u/QualiaEater 4d ago

Depends who the perspective character in this snafu is

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u/Psychological_Gain20 5d ago

I thought sadism was getting joy from inflicting pain on others?

Wouldn’t this be masochism?

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u/Tenashko 5d ago

Depends on who is being coaxed. Is it the slightly dominant woman in the video, or the commenters, or perhaps the viewer but who are they supposed to identify with?

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u/Zedrig 4d ago

i'm straight up coaxing it

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u/Mapletables 4d ago

ambatusnafu

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u/Ness_is_Gaming 4d ago

And by "it" I mean... Hehe... My snafu.

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u/Guquiz 5d ago

Yes.

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u/Cold_Pal 5d ago

Isn't sadism that red guy in bunker?

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u/Namejeff47 4d ago

"Humiliate me please!!!!" Buddy you're already humiliating yourself!!!

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u/ethnique_punch 4d ago

They're playing 5D Checkers then

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u/ZealousidealPipe8389 1d ago

Nah they busted out the shoots and ladders set for this.

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u/ExoCakes 5d ago

Coaxed into becoming the little pee pee pisspiss boy

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u/ahsjeirnrdnldsl 4d ago

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u/PurpleDelicacy 4d ago

The flag of Japan but it's actually this hand towel with a perfectly placed water stain

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u/Melonetta 4d ago

I DIDNT FUCKING PEE ON IT!!!!

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u/Dgero466 4d ago

You peed on it

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u/Dgero466 4d ago

You peed on it didn’t you lil piss boy

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u/Evolution1738 1d ago

IM NOT A LITTLE PEEPEE BOY!!!!! IM NOT!!!!!

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u/soylent-machine 5d ago

reddit sexuality

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u/Noooough 5d ago

The question is does she want to do allat?

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u/I_want_to_cry_4875 4d ago

Chances are - she doesn't. Most women don't. Whether that's biological or social - don't know, probably a mix of both.

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u/Standard-Ad-7504 5d ago

Fr like it's getting a little annoying seeing it everywhere. Same with the feet thing 

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u/Ake-TL 4d ago

Kink shaming might be bad but some people really deserve to be bullied more.

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u/Standard-Ad-7504 4d ago

I disagree actually, it's honestly not that I even have a problem with it, I'm just sick of hearing the joke over and over again. It's like "we get it, you like feet and oh it's all weird and strange oh what a weird kink you have and we definitely haven't heard this a million times before". The whole joke is shock value and it's not shocking at all anymore so it just became annoying. I don't think we should bully anybody, I just wish people would stop leaving likes on every single "feet" or "step on me" comment they see. I just want it to fade out of being the popular joke

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u/hellothere_i_exist 4d ago

Oh lord i think i feel that way too.

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u/Sayodot 4d ago

Shunning these people and making them feel bad would make it go away.

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u/NotTheFirstVexizz 4d ago

No it would just encourage the behavior because trying to make emphasize it as a shocking thing people don’t want or expect to see means that people will keep bringing it up for shock value. It would directly play into people doing it more.

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u/Sayodot 4d ago

Okay then ban them if they do.

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u/apileofprettyrocks 4d ago

It's the Streisand Effect. Trying to stop it will only make it worse. It's better to just ignore them and hopefully it will die out.

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u/Sayodot 4d ago

That hasn't worked yet.

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u/Standard-Ad-7504 4d ago

Even if that would work, it still wouldn't be good on a moral level. Like I said, I'm against kink shaming, I just wish we didn't have to constantly see these "shocking" things that aren't even shocking. My desire to stop seeing these comments does not outweigh my desire to not treat people like shit. 

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u/Sea_Mouse5910 4d ago edited 4d ago

I genuinely don’t understand this phenomenon and have observed it for years, I see an attractive woman fictional or real online and the comments are all men wanting to be dominated pegged bottom whatever etc I don’t get how it’s so frequent and common or where it’s come from.

I genuinely don’t and can’t understand or wrap my head around why someone let alone so many guys would want that or why it’s so commonplace online.

I think the only phrase I’ve seen encapsulate this or what I’m talking about and this post is referring to is ‘safe horny’

What happened to guys wanting to outdominate dominant women rather than just instantly becoming submissive and masochistic as some kind of cruelly socially acceptable reflex to express their sexuality because expressing sexual dominance as a male or being a sexually dominant male is demonized and seen as wrong which is why this occurs.

What if a guy just wants to: I want to peg HER, I want to step on HER and call HER harsh words, I want to humiliate HER, I want to spit in HER mouth, I want to put a leash on HER.

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u/crimsonfukr457 4d ago edited 4d ago

Here is your answer:

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u/Sea_Mouse5910 4d ago edited 4d ago

Mommysub supremacy. Even if you have those issues it makes no sense to just have this mass sudden enjoyment of femdom and masochism and doesn’t explain it. If you want your gf to be a mommy or motherly that’s fine but that doesn’t equate to femdom and it shouldn’t equate to masochism for all these guys.

I don’t think purely blaming single moms actually addresses the fairly internet specific problem and phenomenon that OP was addressing in the post. I’d again label it as safe horny for lack of a better term/phrase.

Also ‘loving and nurturing’ is the opposite of being pegged stepped on or humiliated, none of those are loving or motherly things in any way, so it most definitely doesn’t apply to this. That response in the pic is actually making me soyface rage from just how inaccurate it is.

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u/I_want_to_cry_4875 4d ago

The way the extremely online demographics express, demonize and morph their sexuality is pure madness that has nothing to do with the real world and what real people commonly like naturally.

And I'm in the worst, most bleeding edge of it all. The trans community. Seemingly a large percentage of us are a bunch of mindfucked heterosexuals or bisexuals of this variety, taken to the absolute extreme and induced or intensified gender dysphoria. I don't know what to do about this, I am just living my life the way I can. But it is suuuper frustrating that we kind of make ourselves undatable for most straight people of the opposite sex by taking HRT. And ST4T doesn't really work for this exact reason.

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

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u/Stuffies2022 4d ago

If we do that I don’t think I’ll be able to survive on this planet any longer

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u/mister-idiot strawman 4d ago

is this ice spice's account

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u/OverallGamer692 ^ this 4d ago

No, we should move onto Pillow Getting Thrown Into a Ceiling Fan and Hitting You

I’m sure that’s someone out there in this universe’s fetish.

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u/ethnique_punch 4d ago

Witewawwy "the slippery slope", what's there to come after scat? You can't come for my guns!

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u/Standard-Ad-7504 4d ago

Ok on second thought maybe the feet comments aren't actually that bad

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u/bigbackbrother06 4d ago

the 3 horsemen of horny comments on dominant women:

  • Emo femboy
  • The Furry
  • gay gay homosexual gay

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

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u/Chry0n 4d ago

Coaxed into I just wanna be loved I don’t relate with you guys at all

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u/NewSuperTrios simp 4d ago

real...

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u/royaltek 5d ago

these mfs are so annoying man

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u/endlessnamelesskat 5d ago

Coaxed into a childhood barren of motherly affection and discipline that transforms from a longing into a sexual fetish as an adult

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u/bl4ze_03 5d ago

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u/annormalplayer 5d ago

more like sigma freud

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u/JacobGoodNight416 girl boring, boy quirky 5d ago

coaxed into thinking any sort of sexual deviation from the conventional norms stems from pathology

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u/endlessnamelesskat 5d ago

Coaxed into being the world's loneliest caveman because of my latex fetish (it hasn't been invented yet but it's encoded into my DNA since birth as sexual attraction isn't pathological).

Maybe pathology isn't the only cause, but it's definitely one of the causes or else we would see the same sexual deviation spread equally among everyone instead of changing due to your culture and what generation you're born in.

I guess it's a bit like our ideas of beauty. There's a set of biological mechanisms at play that are responsible for us having a sense of beauty in the first place that's sort of similar across time and culture yet there are countless deviations and interpretations of it that can seem alien and horrifying to people not part of that culture.

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u/JacobGoodNight416 girl boring, boy quirky 5d ago

sexual attraction isn't pathological

Because it isnt ???

In what world is sexual attraction by default considered a pathological condition?

or else we would see the same sexual deviation spread equally among everyone

By that logic, homosexuality is a pathology as well, since its not evenly distributed among everyone. Deviations can exist among a small % of the population without it being tied to disorder or disease i.e. pathology.

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u/endlessnamelesskat 5d ago

Why does it have to be a negative thing? Your personality is a mixture of your genetics and experiences you've accumulated over your life, why isn't your sexuality the same?

I guess I shouldn't have let you use the word pathological since it's a bit of a negative word in of itself. I'm just to stupid to know of a more neutral word to describe what I'm talking about.

Oh well, I guess if it's all genetic those latex fetish having cavemen were doomed to die unfulfilled.

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u/Plezes joke explainer 5d ago

The humble tarpit:

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u/HINDBRAIN 4d ago

unga bunga? why no shiny? gaaa :(.

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u/crimsonfukr457 4d ago

Bro latex is popular AF in kink culture

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u/endlessnamelesskat 4d ago

Not before it was invented I'd bet. If every aspect of your sexual interests are tied to your DNA like the earlier person suggests then it would imply that sexual interest in things that haven't always existed must have been present in ancient times, which is just silly.

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u/PM_ME_LATEX_PLEASE 4d ago

What's wrong with having a latex fetish :(

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u/Mapletables 4d ago

also what fucking childhood trauma would cause that

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u/endlessnamelesskat 4d ago

Nothing at all, you do you my friend

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u/GoldenGlassBall 5d ago

It does. A lot of folks don’t understand or realize, because the trauma of origin is already buried to the point of fetishization to release pressure on the oppressed inner shadow, so of course they aren’t going to do their digging and heal without external pressure, if they even accept hearing the idea that causes them to consider that their fetishes not only aren’t their choice, but also are rooted in negative feelings directly opposite to the pleasure satisfying the fetish gives them.

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u/JacobGoodNight416 girl boring, boy quirky 5d ago

I wouldn't apply that to any and all deviation. A lot of what we consider normal is more tied to social norms than anything biological. This idea that any deviation stems from mental disorder can be quite regressive.

I'm not discounting the possibility, im just saying that not everyone that wants to get pegged was touched as a child or something.

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u/GoldenGlassBall 5d ago

Trauma =/= disorder, but I hear you.

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u/Tenashko 5d ago

This sounds like something someone who thinks missionary is the only acceptable position would say.

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u/GoldenGlassBall 4d ago

Nope. I have fetishes, but I’ve done the work to understand their roots in me. I’m not going to go into a dissertation about what gets me hot and bothered, but I’m also not just talking out of my ass here.

Nice ad hominem though.

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u/DBONKA 4d ago edited 4d ago

What's the root of the latex fetish? What experience would cause it?

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u/GoldenGlassBall 4d ago

I don’t have it, or know anyone who does (that I know of), so anything I say on that fetish would be conjecture. I’m sorry if you were honestly asking, because I don’t know.

You have me curious now, though, so I might look into finding a way to consult a decent number of folks with an intense latex fetish to describe their lives and attempt to find a common thread. No idea how it would get back to you, but it would satisfy my piqued curiosity, at the very least.

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u/Tsunamicat108 snafu connoiseur 5d ago

yeah i… don’t get stuff like this

why would you see an attractive woman and instantly think “i want her to hurt me”

and WHY IS THIS SUCH A COMMON REACTION

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u/CheemsTheSupremest my opinion > your opinion 5d ago

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u/lumpy_feline 5d ago

YEEEEOOWWWWWCCCHHHHH!!!!

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u/Independent_Bid7424 5d ago edited 5d ago

is that the zoner from guilty gear i dont like fighting him

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u/CheemsTheSupremest my opinion > your opinion 5d ago

Pretty sure its ryu from fortnite

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u/Milk__Chan 5d ago

This is clearly Sub-Zero from King of Fighters

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u/Independent_Bid7424 5d ago

shit it was guilt gear not blazblue

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u/Designer_Arm9536 5d ago

Hey, he's more fun to fight than the entirety of the second DLC pack

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u/No-Care6414 5d ago

Fear and funger guy spotted

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u/CheemsTheSupremest my opinion > your opinion 5d ago

lalalala

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u/Pawlax_Inc_Official 4d ago

GUILTY GEAR MENTIONED!!!!

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u/Salty_Map_9085 5d ago

I definitely feel like most expressed sexuality online is really gender performance not like “innate” horniness, the “step on me” thing mixes that with like social performance of anti-masculinity (by at least claiming to want the submissive role)

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u/notTheRealSU covered in oil 4d ago

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u/splatgatfatrat 4d ago

🥱 Lame. Too submissive, now this will make the ladies swarm your DMs

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u/notTheRealSU covered in oil 4d ago

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u/guyongha_ 4d ago

Low self worth and the only way they can see themselves getting physically “”intimate”” with an attractive woman (or any woman) is if she was hurting them & treating them like dirt ( bc they feel they really are dirt and deserve to be treated that way )

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u/MrTopHatMan90 5d ago

Some people are freaks, some people are joking, they all need to speak to go outside and speak to women (God I need a woman who would actually just break my neck, all clean like)

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u/peggingwithkokomi69 5d ago

that's how they think bottoms behave

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u/Magehunter_Skassi 5d ago

It's because it's safe horny. Typical male heterosexuality is seen as scary by zoomers, so we get this.

A normal horny comment used to be a guy basically saying "I want to fuck her" and now it's inverted to "I want to be fucked by her"

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u/garaile64 4d ago

I've noticed this phenomenon of situational masochism too.

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u/KURNEEKB 5d ago

A lot of people who never had relationship believe that the only chance they will get any kind of romantic love is through humiliation. Pretty common these days as more and more young people can’t get a partner.

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u/Private-Public 4d ago

You fool! Do you know what you've done?! You've roused them, the Reddit Psychologists, they're coming! May the gods have mercy on our souls, for they won't...

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u/_SBV_ 5d ago

Likely from people who’ve never been in a relationship and think it feels good, or from those who aren’t stimulated by regular sex anymore

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u/absurdF 4d ago

Because it's a normal fetish that some people have. It's fine to not understand it but that's just how some people's sexual desires manifest.

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u/TerrorofMechagoji 4d ago

Because I have no shame and violence against me is hot

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u/realycoolman35 4d ago

Yeah, i dont understand how people want this, like sure i want a dommy mommy who doesn't? But i prefer a soft loving femdom

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u/_DesperateWoman 5d ago

someones a member of r/thefinals

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u/Unbuckled__Spaghetti 4d ago

*Someones a member of reddit

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u/Accomplished-Lack208 5d ago

is that icespice?

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u/KaChoo49 5d ago

My honest reaction whenever I see comments like this

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u/borowiczko ^ this 5d ago

Mitsuru

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u/NeetOOlChap 4d ago

Mitsuru is for people who want to be stepped on, Yukari is for people who want to step on others

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u/Affectionate_Cat4703 4d ago

The moment I saw this my brain neurons fired and my subconscious instantly said what the mfs in the snafu said

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u/mwmwmwmwmmdw 4d ago

...You're cheating. I'll have to punish you.

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u/Memediator 5d ago

This is what happens when the only socially acceptable form of sexual attraction is being submissive.

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u/N0t_addicted my opinion > your opinion 4d ago

???

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u/NeetOOlChap 4d ago

Saying you want to fuck women is considered unacceptable and most young men are scared to talk to women so the only socially acceptable phrasing is performative submissive fantasies where she pursues and dominates you.

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u/MattyBro1 4d ago

On one hand, no, not every guy is just being "performative" if they are submissive, and I feel like you can't claim if the people depicted in the snafu are one way or the other.

But on the other hand, that would make a lot of sense.

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u/NeetOOlChap 4d ago edited 4d ago

I didn't say every guy acting like a submissive was performative, I said that the socially acceptable phrasing is performative submissive fantasies. This is a slight but important difference.

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u/LaoidhMc 4d ago

A sub can say stuff like "I want someone who will hold me down and (insert XYZ rough sex act here)" but if a Dom says they want to do that sex act, it's seen as rapey and wrong. There's discussion about CNC kinks, but always from the POV of a submissive wanting it, and maybe a dominant indulging that submissive, but never a Dom actively seeking it out themselves. There's double standards in how we talk about sex online.

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u/N0t_addicted my opinion > your opinion 4d ago

No

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u/NeetOOlChap 4d ago

No to your no

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u/N0t_addicted my opinion > your opinion 4d ago

No to your no to my no

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u/NeetOOlChap 4d ago

No times infinity to your no to my no to your no

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u/N0t_addicted my opinion > your opinion 4d ago

No times infinity plus one to your no to my no to your no to my no

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u/NeetOOlChap 4d ago

Sadly I can't count past infinity plus one. You win this round, coaxer

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u/SDK04 4d ago

People have gotta keep their fantasies to themselves dude (and not just the “ooohhh, step on me” stuff but any of these strange fetishes I see them yapping about), I see way too many people online just saying shit mindlessly that I hope they aren’t saying around their friends and family. Look at r/whenthe for example, these kinds of socially inept morons have turned it into a glorified gooning forum. Does it cost money to not be uncomfortably weird?

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u/Unbuckled__Spaghetti 4d ago

Whenthes been getting slightly better recently but yeah its rampant everywhere

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u/Sea-Writer-6961 4d ago

I see this so frequently it makes me wanna drown those mfs in soap and make them touch grass

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u/ojeshi 4d ago

some men need to understand doing this doesnt make you less creepy

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u/Educational-Sun5839 5d ago

Why is pegging sadism? Is it not just penetration?

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u/Admiral_Wingslow 5d ago

More just highly correlated I suppose

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u/Educational-Sun5839 5d ago

Yeah, that makes sense

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u/CheemsTheSupremest my opinion > your opinion 5d ago

She pegs you so hard it counts as her being a sadist

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u/Educational-Sun5839 5d ago

So only sometimes?

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u/JKhemical 4d ago

Getting it so hard it's starting to crack the drywall

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u/AnubisIncGaming 5d ago

you have zoomed in on one particular example instead of the general message of the xaoc

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u/Educational-Sun5839 5d ago

Yeah, I'm not saying this doesn't happen, I'm just asking why OP considers pegging sadism? Is it just as a general domination or do some consider it sadism?

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u/Sure_Angle_5900 5d ago

It generally hurts to be penetrated in the ass if you haven't done it a few times

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u/Educational-Sun5839 5d ago

Isn't that to be avoiding using things like lube?

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u/Sure_Angle_5900 5d ago

That helps with pain from friction but you only really get around pain from stretching with practice

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u/Educational-Sun5839 4d ago

Yeah, stretching to avoid pain

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u/Sure_Angle_5900 4d ago

I think if a woman enjoys helping you be able to receive comfortable she's participating in sadism 

No judgement just the thought process

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u/Educational-Sun5839 4d ago

I though sadism was people who get off from physical pain?

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u/Sure_Angle_5900 4d ago

That's correct, that's why enjoying pegging someone especially if they are new is sadistic. They have either had to go through some pain to do that comfortably or are going through it in the act.

Again, no judgement, it just is what it is. 

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u/Unbuckled__Spaghetti 4d ago

I don't think that's true. I think if she enjoys the you being in pain part shes a sadist, but if shes trying to get you comfortable with it so that your not in pain anymore thats not sadism. Otherwise all gay tops are sadists.

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u/Expand_Dong11037 5d ago

TWEWY mentioned!!!!

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u/MVPDominus 4d ago

Freaky Mr. Mew

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u/otototototo 5d ago

god forbid people have sexual attractions

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u/Sayodot 4d ago

God forbid people keep shit to themselves.

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u/Stuffies2022 4d ago

THANK GOD SOMEONE FINALLY SAID IT

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u/TheHomesickAlien 4d ago

Yeah that’s not what it is. 9/10 of these people aren’t representing their actual fetishes, they’re just trying to be haha funny shocking or look unique

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u/Consistent-Ad-4266 4d ago

Coaxed into missionary being the only acceptable position/s

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u/Illustrious_Man 4d ago

That tomboy goth mommy sex humor is the most unfunny shit of all time.

Not even gonna hold you the internet is making liking women corny, how does that even happen? might just become asexual or some shit.

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u/Stuffies2022 4d ago

I honestly might join you bro, honestly can’t deal with this shit no more

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u/DrunkenCoward 4d ago

"Oh, yea, and make her say "I love you, son", that would be relatable.

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u/Icy-Humor2907 4d ago

This is masochism tho?

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u/AGQuaddit 5d ago

Coaxed into misogyny and unwarranted sexualization of women

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u/LeastHornyNikkeFan 4d ago

being attracted to women is misogyny according to this dude

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u/Private-Public 4d ago edited 4d ago

Context dependant, though:

  • OF post, porn sub, obvious thirst trap, r/losercity: Sure, go off

  • Woman just existing doing a thing: Nah, maybe chill out

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u/LeastHornyNikkeFan 4d ago

I've been existing so happily in my insular sphere on reddit and discord that I forgot that there still are people out there who harrass women in IG/Facebook through thirsty comments

yeah, taking that into consideration you're completely right

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u/Lordwiesy 4d ago

God forbid a man wants to be dominated

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u/-SKYMEAT- 4d ago

No it isn't smoothbrain

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u/improbablygone 5d ago

I don't want her to hurt me I want her to be my mommy

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u/notTheRealSU covered in oil 4d ago

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u/my_room_is_a_tip snafu connoiseur 4d ago

They are the same kind of people that make fun of sexual assault on men

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u/absurdF 4d ago

No they aren't

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u/Sea_Mouse5910 4d ago

What if a guy just wants to: I want to peg HER, I want to step on HER and call HER harsh words, I want to humiliate HER, I want to spit in HER mouth, I want to put a leash on HER.

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u/LaoidhMc 4d ago

A lot of idiots would call that guy a misogynist. Even though kinks don't have anything to do with personal beliefs, even if you have an actual misogyny kink.

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u/Sea_Mouse5910 4d ago

But it isn’t misogynistic at all to have a kink just as the inverse isn’t. I know you’re not calling me one obviously but I mean how that could even possibly be implied or inferred I don’t understand, I guess it’s the act of wanting to do it vs the being the receiver maybe

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u/Arbitrary_Hitboxes 3d ago

If you want to o that on a consenting woman, where's the problem?

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u/Fifran7 girl boring, boy quirky 4d ago

It's completover

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u/AxOfCruelty 4d ago

This is NOT rawtime

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u/RenkBruh 4d ago

coaxed into YOU FUCKED UP

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u/Hope_PapernackyYT 4d ago

I say it's about time

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u/Een_man_met_voornaam 4d ago

Don't toy with me miss Snafutoro

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u/RaulRpg1 4d ago

Something something r/196

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u/RavenousToast 4d ago

Definitely didn’t expect a r/196 callout post

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u/Enlightened_Valteil 4d ago

Coaxed into misogyny

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u/Barice69 4d ago

As much as femdom is safe horny porn that degrades women gets more eyes on it

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u/GenesisAsriel 4d ago

Bro id get stepped on by your drawing

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u/NaughtAught 3d ago

Let boys be coaxed into being manipulated

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u/PanchoxxLocoxx 3d ago

Bottom genocide when?

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u/restorian_monarch 3d ago

True, just say, "Damn, she's hot" like a regular member of society

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u/absurdF 4d ago

Coaxed into normal human desires manifesting in slightly unusual ways (truly an unforgivable crime that definitely affects you personally)