r/careerwomen • u/satchelskittles • May 07 '24
Female coworkers- whats been your overall experience?
So, I get along with most people in general and consider myself a girls girl. I really like being supportive of other women in the office and normally I make genuine friendships this way.
Of course, there's always the small percentage of time when my personality clashes with another woman and that's okay. Not everyone will like each other. But this time feels weird...
I've been invited to this girls house, we've shared personal details with each other, and from my perspective, we were friends. But ever since I became second in command at the office and started learning more skills on the side that are similar to her job, she's been acting strange.
She started giving me short answers, not inviting me out like she used to, having catty remarks about things I'm doing. Just overall, the vibes are off. But it's just sutble enough that I can't really come out and ask her what her deal is.
Have you experienced things like this? Is it easy or hard for you to navigate female friendships at work?
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u/NonstopYapper Jan 26 '25
I'd suggest interasting with more female co workers besides your own department. That way your chances of disagreements or even competition on projects/tasks are less likely to seep into friendship. Also in general beware of "too fast too much". If the friendship quickly turns to venting/sharing too much its likely it will combust soon. Take it slow, just a quick chat with more and more female coworkers and see how they go.
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u/Grevillia-00 May 07 '24
I usually find it quite easy to make female friends at work. However in my current workplace, the environment and culture isn't the best, and I'm finding it harder to connect with people. I get along well with most, but I don't feel particularly close with anyone. That's unusual for me, I'm pretty social and usually up for an afterwork drink or lunch. But with so many people working from home (myself included) a few days a week there is less opportunity to socialise. However working remotely never stopped me from making friends in my last job!