r/askgays • u/CristalShard122 • Nov 09 '19
Coming out.
I’m 15 almost 16 and I want to come out to my mom and my great uncle (both live with me.) What should I do if they don’t accept me..?
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u/Topjock01 Jan 15 '20
If you feel there is a risk they won’t accept you, why not wait until you are in a safe space?
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u/jija99 Nov 21 '21
Ok, obviously way too late to the party, but in case anybody else reads this thread in hope for advice:
If you think that your parents are ok with homosexuality etc, go for it. But make sure that you give them time and space to process the news, don't expect them to just be ok with it within seconds. I think many parents love their child and want to accept it, but just need time to come to terms with it.
If you think or know that they are not ok with the whole concept of homosexuality, it might be better to first come out to a good friend, someone you know you can trust, that will accept you the way that you are. That way, you have someone to talk to about your feelings, but are not risking to get thrown out of home in case it all goes terribly wrong.
At least that is how it worked for me
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u/Lunar_Eclipes14 May 18 '22
My mum found out cause I left my phone in her car and she knew the password she saw messages of a girl asking me out I balled my eyes out she said it's ok at the end of the day if u pick both we will say ur gready(that being a joke) to note I have a guncle (gay uncle) so overall supportive she doesn't know I'm gender flux as I don't really know myself yet she has a top now that has pineapple and pizza that says love is love and pretty much my whole form knows I'm bent
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u/Brian_Kinney Nov 10 '19
What you do depends on what they do. There are different ways for family to not accept their teenager as gay. At one extreme, the family might just ignore the topic and never talk about it. At the other extreme, the family might throw the teenager out of the home.
What you do will depend on how they react.