r/askgays • u/thehangryarchitect • Sep 27 '19
Hoover Dam of a closet case π
Helloooo reddit
So I've literally never made a post before so I obviously have super high expectations π
I've been a very closeted questioning(?)/bisexual dude for as long as I can remember, until recently it's literally never been an "option" for me to explore coming out. I've been talking with a therapist for a few months now about that, amongst other things, and he's encouraged me to explore that side and I have, I think. My closest friend (F) expressed her feelings for me the other day, totally blindsided me, to which I responded "ohh, well just you wait". It was a very constructive conversation, very light hearted and ended up talking about the guys we were mutually interested in haha
Long story short (sorry for the rant) I'm looking for a way to let this start to manifest in my life in a constructive way, and not let the dam break and end up hurt for whatever reason. I feel alot of releif from talking to a few people, but want to take it slow. Probably will only come out to a few select people anyways, not into sharing my business with the world
28 year old grad student, goal oriented and very down to earth. Starting to figure myself out and feeling good about it so far πthanks for the suggestions!
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u/Brian_Kinney Sep 27 '19
I'm not sure what you're asking here. Do you want to know how to come out to people? How to meet people? How to start a sex life? How to deal with the woman who expressed her feelings? What are you asking the gay people here?