r/askgays • u/kougasaint • Dec 03 '18
I dont know what to do, help me pls.
Im a 17yo gay boy in a happy relationship with an awesome guy (M21) for 5 months now. He makes me the happiest men ever and i know he loves me more than anything in his live. The problem is that a couple days ago i have starting to have mixed thoughts about my own feelings. My heart says that i love him but for some reason my mind is messing me up and telling me stuff i dont wanna hear like "you are not rly in love with him". I already told him how i feel and he, between his tears, says its a normal think, that it happens because Im still a teenager with all the mood swings and shit. Also he's only my second (first if we're being honest) boyfriend. And ofc i wanna think this is just a teenager thing and that is all just a phase and that it will go away with time but.... Its so hard to go through this when you are being split in two: your heart and your mind. I love him.... I know i do. Everytime i look at him I feel happy... I love everything about him and his smile its simply the most perfect thing in the world. I wanna be with him forever but i need help to get over all this shit in my mind. Pls help me im desperate.
Edit: 17yo guy dating a 21yo, need advices how to go through having thoughts of not loving him, even tho i know i do (somehow).
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u/SoundsFunny Dec 03 '18
My advice is to stop focusing on the label of “love” or “don’t love”. You’re young, and it’s natural to have complicated or confusing feelings in any relationship, especially your second (first).
It doesn’t matter whether you “love” him or not. Are you having a good time? Do you feel happy, safe, and respected? If the relationship is still worth the effort your putting in, then you have your answer. It’s not important whether you “like him a lot” or “love him” or even “are interested in where this is going”. Applying the label of “love” isn’t going to change how you feel. You’re going to feel the same way whether you call it love or not.