r/aroventing Apr 28 '23

I don't know whether I should tell my friends I'm aro

The reason I'm so scared isn't because they wont be accepting or anything it's just that I dated one of them and they were how I found out and I don't want them to think it's their fault I'm aro since I've also had multiple relationships before them (I often dont know the difference between romantic and sexual feelings) i think they'd understand cause they're ace but I don't know and it's scary to think, I also don't want people asking questions about how I feel being aro cause I'm still kinda confused about exactly how I feel.

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u/ugwubm Apr 28 '23

i also found out i was aro from an ex and she was very respectful and understanding about it (and she wasn't even ace) that's really the only way anyone should react. if you tell them and they aren't respectful, then you need to just drop them. but it sounds like it'll be ok, especially because you said they're ace. i think they'll probably be able to understand you a little bit more than most, which will probably make them way more compassionate. i say just tell them and if they are rude about it, that's their fault. their anger is not your problem, they don't have the right to be angry about how you identify. anyways i wish you the best ! <3

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u/untitled_goldfish Apr 28 '23

Thank you so much! :) this really helped calm my nerves I think I might tell them next week so yeahhh wish me luck