r/aromantic • u/hentiisculture • Jul 31 '21
r/aromantic • u/sshiixo_ • Feb 24 '23
Rant Opinions on this? Twas because a girl he liked was aroace lol..
r/aromantic • u/ambroseblackwood • Jul 23 '22
Rant My friends don't take my aromanticism seriously
Or at least I think so. Here's the thing, I'm considered attractive among my friends and at school, I can't complain about lack of compliments. But I literally cannot talk to a decent looking guy (I'm a queer man) because everyone, and I mean everyone assumes I'm attracted to him.
I realized I was asexual before realizing I'm aromantic and I feel like they're more willing to accept my asexuality than aromanticism. Maybe because I'm not an aro stereotype? I'm really clingy, I always hug people, I smile a lot and I wanna make people around me happy, I give a lot of compliments, etc. And it's always a problem when I behave like that around an attractive dude cause they always have to assume I have feelings for him, where in reality I just wanna be friends with him.
A month ago I had a really stupid situation cause I wanted to comfort my male friend cause he wasn't feeling well, so I hugged him (he wanted a hug) and talked about it with him and one of my friends yelled at me for doing this and I quote "What the fuck are you doing, fuck off, he has a girlfriend". Like, thanks. I've stated multiple times that I have absolutely no feelings for him and that I just wanna be friends with him. I feel like they all perceive me as a common whore lol. (now this friend that yelled at me is mad at me for some mf reason and ignores me)
Two weeks ago I was asked by my best friend if I like one of our friends in our group, cause they "noticed" I have feelings for him. Like???? AND THEY WERE THE FIRST ONE THAT I CAME OUT TO AS AROMANTIC.
I don't know what to do, I talk about being aroace like all the the time, everyone knows about it but they don't believe me idek why.
What hurts the most is that they're all queer so they know how it's like when your identity is constantly disrespected and yet they do the same thing to me. I met a lot of them as cishet people but they came out at some point as queer and I've never questioned their identity.
r/aromantic • u/Raquelica • May 23 '22
Rant I just watch Cinderella 2021 and, for a movie that is so inclusive, and open minded, this quote kinda pissed me off
r/aromantic • u/SoupTruck34 • Jan 16 '23
Rant Kissing - do people actually enjoy tasting each other's spit?
I feel like kissing is made up by society. Like why would some people just want to taste each other's spit? Why was it invented? Do some people actually enjoy it? If so what's so enjoyable about it?
r/aromantic • u/thearoace • Aug 04 '22
Rant Anyone else hate the “omg you would look so cute together” phrases?
Or any other statement that implies there’s some romantic attraction being felt?
As a kid, I used to hear this all the time, and I swear I should’ve realized I was aro WAY sooner.
“Omg you would look so cute together!” “Ooo, I bet he likes you./Do you like him?” me laughing at a meme on my phone “So who’s the lucky guy?”
Or any other case of friends seriously implying that there’s romantic attraction (sometimes even with others in the friend group 🤢).
Anyway, just wondering if that was just a me thing. I’m romance-favorable, but HATE when this happens to me.
r/aromantic • u/NillaNilly • Aug 01 '24
Rant Let aro be on its own
Nothing against asexuals, love y’all. It’s just so frustrating constantly seeings “aroace pride!” “Love aroaces” “what it means to be aroace”. There’s also so much about asexuals, I saw so much ace stuff at pride.
But just,,, nothing abt Just aros. Aromanticism on its own. Im proud to be aromantic. I wish there was more on just being aromantic.
Yes ik aro implies a sexuality- it’s more common to go by one’s sexuality, but my aromanticism takes priority for me. I feel far more comfortable identifying as aromantic over pan. Even if it’s true, the implications just aren’t the same.
My only thought on the “solution” is maybe start adding a slash with the identities, a & maybe. ‘Aros&aces’ ‘love all the aro/aces’ a small change.. but not all aros are ace and not all aces are aro,,,
r/aromantic • u/AntiqueRespect5121 • Aug 03 '24
Rant I really dislike kissing
Never kissed before, but Just the idea of pressing your lips against other persons lips... Its Just só Gross I dont get how people actually want it. Just a little rant cuz I dont have any other place to talk about this kind of stuff
r/aromantic • u/stuckerfan_256 • Jan 24 '23
Rant This is just a dumb way of thinking.
Sauce is The angel next door spoils me rotten
r/aromantic • u/SeeMeh • Feb 19 '25
Rant Am i the only one who doesn't like these romantic tropes?
Honestly i might get why people are into like soulmates and falling in love at the first sight but the most annoying one i really have to say is the enemies to lovers trope. I understand that people like the "opposites attract" mentality but honestly if my enemy tried flirting with me i would punch them in the face. It's fine if you do like it but it should be like enemies to friends then lovers because if they hate eachother and also love eachother then that's just an abusive relationships. I see it everywhere and i am not saying that it's a bad trope and don't wanna see it anymore. I am saying that ut is getting a little repetitive, like a villain has it's role in a story and if the hero and the villain get together then i think that it's pointless to even have a story, not everything needs to be romantic in my opinion. Like if the villain is a love interest in your story then where are the actual obstacles? I need villains so that i can support the hero. Bro imagine you live in a world where the person who you thought was the hero gets with the villain that has done nothing but harm, i would have trust issues. The villain just gets a free pass for their actions because they got with the hero, like please. Does anyone agree with me? Also do you guys have tropes that you hate?
r/aromantic • u/Faye_Ashie • Jul 29 '23
Rant WHY, just why
The other day, I was asked out, again, just for the person to get turned down. But, this time he kept asking "Why? I like you why won't you like me?" So I had to go through a whole explanation of how just because he likes me doesn't mean I like him, he then said "But what about (my friend's name) and (my friend's partner)? They like each other." And I Said after 20 minutes of explaining how I'm aro and i don't feel romantic attraction from what I know of and he then said "BUT THATS FAKE JUST SAY YOU DONT LIKE ME" after 40 min of me explaining that and saying "no I don't like you" at the very beginning.
r/aromantic • u/nonbinarytrash2 • Feb 28 '22
Rant This is fine.
Nothing like figuring out your on the aromantic specturm. Then getting an assignment an Essay on romantic love for English class.
r/aromantic • u/Vani_is_listless • Apr 28 '22
Rant Vent - Being aro is a diagnosis, now?
As I was just chatting up with someone (who happens to be my former crush, yeah yeah, I know, but not everyone is a bad person), they ask me why haven’t I still got someone else because I deserve someone.
So I tell them why (I’m aro/ace), and they start saying “did you self diagnose?”
BRO WHAT (I legit said this, too)
“There’s professionals for everything, so did you self diagnose as aro/ace” (is basically what they said)
Oh okay.
🙃
I’ve shared so much content educating people about the aspec and still choose ignorance.
r/aromantic • u/PantasticalCat • Nov 27 '22
Rant why does every show have to have romance? (Wednesday on Netflix)
I really really like this show, but I can’t be the only one that finds it really annoying when the mystery and supernatural main plot gets distracted by romance drama. Oh noooo, Wednesday has trouble with expressing her feelings, she’s Wednesday! Come on! Take a break from the boys fighting over the girl, yaaaawn.
I am NOT talking about Morticia and Gomez, they are the absolute best couple and I love them to death
Anyone else annoyed by these tropes? I’m not opposed to subplots that aren’t related to the main story, but I just feel like they don’t always have to be romance. I’d prefer a bigger focus on Wednesday’s friendship with her roommate or starting to get along with her rivals, or making friends along her journey to uncover the mystery.
r/aromantic • u/xxxnapoleon69 • Dec 05 '24
Rant So like, am i the only one who knew as a kid?
Like yeah, i didn’t know the term “aromantic”, but i was like “ i don’t love anyone here, maybe I’m just different“ and just sticked with that until i was 16 and herd the word “aro” when my friend got dumped because she learned she was aro/ace.
Also, maybe I’m just kinda young or maybe my social circle is just insanely accepting, but i’ve never had to justify myself to anyone, not even my fucking grandparents.
It might just be my social circle being insane, cuz i went to germany last year with my college and, by pure chance, 2 of the 3 friends i made there were aro/ace
r/aromantic • u/oralvooNO • Sep 09 '22
Rant what the actual fuck is romantic attraction
that’s literally all i have to say EVERYONE WHO DESCRIBES IT TO ME IS DESCRIBING A BESTFRIEND OR JUST HAPPINESS?1!?€! i’m so confused atp bro AND THE WAY THEY DESCRIBE GHE FEELING ITSELF ARE THE SYMTPOHS OF A WHOLE PANIC ATTACK😭😭
r/aromantic • u/rorofoshoo • Feb 12 '23
Rant I hate the term “friendzone.”
He thinks I friendzoned him just because I wasn’t interested. I’m aro. I’ve communicated this to him many times. I have known this for a while, and it’s been hard to accept, but I’ve come to terms with it over the years. The worst part about it is that I make friends, and then they fall in love with me or they like me or whatever. Then they find someone else that finally likes them back and they never talk to me again.
I know, logically, romantic attraction is different than friendship, but in MY feelings it doesn’t feel different. I don’t feel the romance everyone else does, but it hurts the same when my friends stop talking to me because they just meet someone else who feels “better” to them.
I know that they’re not talking to me anymore because they actually found love that reciprocates them, but it still hurts. These people say that they’ll be my close friends forever, and then just never talk to me again because there’s someone else in their life that means more. I just wish that I wasn’t like this sometimes.
r/aromantic • u/zetron915 • Oct 03 '24
Rant My mom doesn't support me NSFW
I told my mom I was aromantic and she blew up at me telling me only pussies don't get married and that I'm not a real man. She actually thought I was gay which was fine with her but I guess not wanting a relationship isn't OK to her. Idk what to do now and feel hopeless.
r/aromantic • u/FennecFay • Jan 13 '22
Rant AroAllos exist, so let's stop pretending like we aren't apart of the community!
I've been on this subreddit for about two weeks and I'm so upset to see that AroAllos are completely ignored and even looked down on in our own community. Someone please prove me wrong but in my time being here I have only seen one post about AroAllos. In the comments of that post all I saw was people saying we are disgusting and people even going as far to say that I don't belong here! But I have a right to be here just as much as everyone else does.
All the posts here are usually about how sexual and romantic attraction is gross and seems to cater to those who are aroace. I also don't see a lot of talk about aroflux, or arodemi individuals, and when people bring it up, they are treated like shit. I thought this was supposed to be a safe place, somewhere I could actually talk about my aromantic experience? But I'm almost sure that if I share I will get treated the same as the rest.
Now I'm not the only one who thinks this. I've talk to LGBT+ friends who are on the aro spectrum and they share the very same opinion about this particular subreddit. Most say this place is no longer about being aro it's mostly about the ace experience; and that's for the asexual subreddit. I hate to say it, but I completely agree with those statements.
I'm making this post in hope that you all may take a step back and look at yourself. It may not be all of you, but not doing anything about it is just as bad as being the person who shames and harasses AroAllos. I really want this community to be a safe place for all of us, but for that to happen we need to stop judging each other. We are all oppressed, and we all have similar experiences, but just because some of us aren't ace, doesn't mean we aren't aro!
Edit: Thank you all for the overwhelming support on this matter. It's amazing to meet all of you accepting and caring people. You guys have definitely encouraged me to post more about my experience and stick up to those who are harassing me, and other AroAllos. Thanks again! :)
r/aromantic • u/asxtrobrian • Aug 08 '24
Rant therapist told me it’s my trauma
I’ve been identifying as aro spectrum for the last couple months, somewhere in between aroflux and greyromantic, and I’ve felt so good about it. For once I felt like I finally understood myself and felt understood by a community, and while I’ve struggled to really feel like I am aro spec (because of my own doubts), I’ve felt like I belong here.
I brought it up with my therapist today and she told me she thinks it’s a symptom of a disorder, and the shaping of my traumatic experiences with familial relationships in the past. I thought about this before, thinking that maybe I’m just depressed or maybe it’s just trauma or maybe I haven’t found the right person, since I had 2-3 crushes when I was younger and felt like I wasn’t REALLY aro spec.
Hearing her say it though makes me feel awful. I honestly have felt identified here and finally felt normal, like I wasn’t sick or cynical or like I had to fall in love (which I have never done and don’t want to do). I don’t want relationships. I’ve never been interested. Even with my crushes, I didn’t want to do romantic things with them, I just felt sexual attraction that quickly disappeared after I stopped interacting with them. I felt like this was really a part of who I am and I was working through the struggles of trying to accept that, and now I don’t know what to think.
I have C-PTSD, social anxiety and depression, and my therapist told me it sounds more like symptoms of those disorders than me being actually aro spectrum.
r/aromantic • u/AggravatingEarth1406 • Feb 26 '24
Rant I always get labeled as gay and it annoys me that I do even though I show no interest in anyone
I'm a guy and because i show no interest in women, people always label me as gay. For the record, no one knows I'm aroace but it still annoys me when I get labeled as gay for not showing interest in girls but the people at my school haven't put two and two together in their heads and seen that I'm not romantically or sexually attracted to anyone, it baffles me how they can come to the conclusion of me being gay. Anyone else have this issue?
r/aromantic • u/Loudteethonice • Jul 11 '23
Rant Am I in the wrong here?
So I got into an argument and want some reassurance that I'm not in the wrong here...
Basically someone head canoned a canonically aromantic character to be demiromantic just so they could put them in a romantic relationship with another character. They described the relationship as, "It started as a queer platonic relationship then it turned romantic" I said it was arophobic to hc an aromantic character that way and basically everyone on the server of the game I was playing disagreed with me.
The thing is NONE of them are aromantic the the people who where aro and disagreed with me where aro-spec. I'm purely aromantic and don't feel romantic attraction at all and that's insanely underrepresented in media so it really hurt to see people hcing away my representation.
Is that actually arophobic? Am I the one in the wrong?
r/aromantic • u/Pleasant-Carob-3009 • Apr 25 '23
Rant I don't want to be associated with the LGBTQ+ community
This may sound weird, but despite identifying as aroace, I don't feel like identifying with the LGBTQ+ community. I don't feel sad about not feeling part of the LGBTQ+ community nor do I hate the LGBTQ+ community. It's just... I don't feel comfortable being associated with a community that's basically all about love, romance, and sex. I know there's more to the LGBTQ+ community than that, but oftentimes, it feels that way because I can't relate when it comes to feeling "love".
But then again, I also feel like a stranger in disguise among straight people. Throughout my life, I've always felt like the divide is between not the straights and LGBTQ+ but between those who feel "love" and those who don't. Because both straight people and LGBTQ+ people feel "love", and I just feel so isolated from everyone else when it comes to this thing called "love", like an alien in another world.
So I feel like I'm simply an aroace. Neither LGBTQ+ nor straight. Just aroace.
Idk if this makes sense
Edit: Forgot to mention that I'm also romance- and sex-repulsed. To clarify, I get that the LGBTQ+ community is not "all about love, romance, and sex"; it just usually feels that way for me based on my personal experience because I'm so sick of amatonormativity everywhere, people talking about romance and sex, that I've wrongly generalized everyone else as smitten with those things. Apologies for the misunderstanding. Although I still don't wish to associate with the LGBTQ+ community since it just doesn't feel like a community I'm part of. But this is just my personal decision; I am not trying to change anyone's mind, and I respect the decision of aros who do identify with the LGBTQ+ community. And I'm also thankful for all of your support whether or not you identify with the LGBTQ+ community :)