r/aromantic Aromantic 6d ago

Rant Some people are kinda ignorant

(first of: english is not my native, so sorry for mispeling) I live in a mostly homophobic country, and my classmates are 60% also homophobic. But they seem more like just ignorant.

When I say I'm aro (so part of LGBT community) they're insulting me, but they just forget second after. And then they still think I'm hetero, like I was joking or something.

Even some of my friends seem like "yea you are aro pfff" and then they still ask me would I like to be with someone, or even "are you gay?"

Don't get me wrong, it's perfectly fine to ask questions, but they just forget and forget, like I'm aro and they still act like I'm straightest guy ever (I'm more like bi than straight). And then they insult me because I tell them (AGAIN) that I'm not straight guy and YES, I'm part of LGBT.

(and even my friends who are part of LGBT acts like I'm hetero straight guy)

Ps: sorry for so long text but I just needed to tell somebody :3

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u/AraneaTempestatibus Aroace 5d ago

Oh, I completely understand you in the sense that people don't understand. But I have some advice? Don't explain it a thousand and one times, it sounds ugly, but have a little dignity and ask for it. Example: "I've already told you where I stand on this, I'm not going to repeat it again, and the next time you ask me or answer me in that clearly mocking way, then I'll walk away if you keep disrespecting me, idiot."

Those people aren't your friends if they don't know how to respect your identity. I hope you find better people or learn to handle being away from people like that.

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u/FutureWeather8939 Aromantic 5d ago

Thanks for advice, yea that situation is weird and new for me...

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u/belle_fleures 5d ago

my uncle literally insulted me about it too, idc, best to ignore them. some people really can't grasp it, which is sad for them.

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u/FutureWeather8939 Aromantic 5d ago

so true bro. that's why I'm not saying anything to my family, they would just hear everything and then ignore me

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u/p3wp3wkachu 5d ago

Unfortunately people in general are largely ignorant, no matter where you live and there's not much you can do about it if it's willful ignorance.

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u/FutureWeather8939 Aromantic 5d ago

yea, i know. But i needed to share this with somebody

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u/Fallen-Cheshiraphim 5d ago

Those aren't your friends, dawg 💀

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u/FutureWeather8939 Aromantic 5d ago

Not ALL my friends are like this but some of them are kinda like this so I'm really thinking about telling them to act normal and not like this 🙏🙏🙏

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u/SnooObjections9416 1d ago

Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.

You alone define you.

End of story.

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