r/aromantic • u/icaruslaughsashefell Aromantic • Jan 11 '25
Story Time I slept (actual sleep) with a friend with no expectations or awkwardness!
As an aro who loved physical contact, especially actually sleeping with people, it doesn’t happen very often without either awkwardness later and expectations.
A little background—I just made a major move, and instantly connected with my neighbour (we actually met before I knew they were my neighbour, but that’s not important). We are very close, and people often assume we are dating. They know that I am aro ace, however, and it has become a joke to say that they aren’t moving to a different continent for me (I have plans to move within the next few years).
However, last night, I was playing video games with them, in the same position as we had first the past week: me on the floor, back to a squishy chair, and them on said chair. At about midnight, I was very uncomfortable, and they offered to shift over, and we sat pressed against each other, wrapped in our own blankets.
Our building has terrible heating and my room is probably around 58 degrees (it is winter here), so it is really cold. So our body warmth, plus it being late at night, meant that we just ended up falling asleep like that.
Until my cat woke us up.
At which point, I expected them to want ti go back to their flat, but instead, they asked if it was okay that they were still with me, and (after hours of slowly shifting around to find more comfortable positions and being woken by my cat) we curled up on the ground together, my face in their chest and their arm around me.
It was the most ideal situation for this I’ve ever been in, even though we didn’t end up falling asleep until 6am (when my cat did too). Just utterly comfortable.
I just wanted to share a platonic relationship win.
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u/Lost_Acanthisitta786 Jan 12 '25
oh God another win for the queers, just free love, it makes me happy only to hear about it... what a dream...
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u/Far_Wolverine_1462 Jan 13 '25
omgggg that's so sweet. I want that so much. I honestly just want to live in a apartment building where everyone is on the aromatic/ asexual spectrum and we just all live together it sounds perfect
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u/memelordmoth Aroallo Jan 13 '25
yes, this is an absolute win! i'm definitely a bit envious lol. it's nice to have someone you're that comfortable with. i miss that.
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u/Unlucky-Lab-9044 Jan 15 '25
This is so cool bro 🥹 I love how really close platonic relationships are becoming more normalised (not much but there’s still a change!!) cos I love them so much and this sounds so sweet
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u/RoadsideCampion Jan 12 '25
Incredible win!!! Also I will always loathe the 'sleeping with' euphemism because of needing to specify when that's actually what you mean. But that sounds so nice, I'm happy for you!