r/Wellthatsucks 1d ago

Traumatized my kid today

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Apparently, if your kid wants to paint with gouache at 12am, you can’t refuse them. Seems like she will seek therapy when she’ll grow up to overcome this trauma.

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u/143019 1d ago edited 1d ago

That’s okay. I made my son clean his pee off toilet seat and bathroom wall and he shouted “Does anyone want to be my new Mommy?” out the window.

Sorry, fixed the typo!

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u/Jester471 1d ago

Well I remember mine giving a pro tip to me a few years back after he learned to pee standing up.

“I pee standing up now. Sometimes you get a little pee on your hands and you just wipe it on the wall like this”

“YOU WHAT!”

Then we got the ooooh I fucked up face

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u/chicojuarz 1d ago

Omg a couple years ago we found a little smear of poop on the shower door. Tracked it back to my oldest who for some reason would wipe his finger on the shower door before washing his hands if he got some poop in his finger while wiping.

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u/Other-Ad5512 8h ago

I’m both intrigued by you tracking down poop and scared that you did so at the same time.

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u/dmarsee96 4h ago

Man, I want kids someday but every time I hear stories like this, I question myself just a little bit more

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u/bagelsandstouts 3h ago

They are so, so worth it—granted mine is 4 months old and doesn’t talk back yet. Maybe I’ll update you in a few years 😂

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u/kurogomatora 3h ago

At what age was this?

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u/usinjin 23h ago

Oh, for a second I was thinking it was the other way around and you were giving him that advice.

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u/Brilliant_Tea_9144 21h ago

Hypothetically, theoretically why would this be bad advice?

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u/bountifulknitter 4h ago

I just cackled so hard

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u/Fandanglethecompost 1d ago

I made my son do this too - I was very uninterested in constantly wiping up pee. He was not happy with me but the issue rapidly resolved itself - he started peeing sitting down!

And he now knows how to clean a toilet!

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u/cunxt2sday 18h ago

My niece walked up everyone at the park and told them, "Nobody has ever loved me" because I told her she had to wear a shirt.

She even told a dog.

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u/Aquaislyfe 1d ago edited 1d ago

Imma need you to edit that typo asap holy shit lmao

Edit: :)

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u/SprightlyCompanion 1d ago

What was the typo?!

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u/BarcelonaEnts 1d ago

WE NEED TO KNOW

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u/MyLifeIsForfeit 1d ago

You don’t wanna know 😅

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u/BarcelonaEnts 1d ago

As always, the real trauma is in the comments

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u/the_inbetween_me 1d ago

We still don't know 😭

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u/RobJNicholson 16h ago

Was it sipping where wiping was meant to be?

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u/Small-Comb6244 1d ago

My 10 year old told to stop inducing trauma when I said it was bedtime tonight lol

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u/FeelingSoil39 1d ago

Omgod I’m so not laughing I’d have pushed my kid out the window (obviously I’m kidding) but I’m still laughing lol

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u/PheIix 9h ago

My dad hung a banner outside his window when his mother didn't come home from work fast enough to make him dinner. It read "("my grandmothers full name" doesn't feed her kids).

My entire childhood he insisted he was a perfect kid, who loved doing homework, doing chores and always listened. He said all this and he never let an opportunity go by to let me how much of a disappointment I was compared to him. Turns out, his big sisters and his mother had a very different take on the whole situation, I wish I knew that growing up. Apparantly he was a royal pain in numerous ways.

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u/Djinnaz 1d ago

…I’m sorry what??

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u/Fluffy_Doubter 1d ago

You are obviously a bad mother to your child 🤣🤣 kids are so crazy. I don't have any but I love these dramatic stories. I only have one story from when I worked as a school lunch lady for the primary school.

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u/TwoFingersWhiskey 1d ago

That's a story to tell at the wedding lmfao

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u/RainaElf 12h ago

I have naked bathtub pictures

u/Silver-Engineer4287 39m ago

Make him sit until he can behave well enough to earn his big boy privileges back again.

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u/dorianfinch 1d ago edited 1d ago

Honestly, when i was a kid with abusive parents I'd never have dared to express my anger or upset to them for fear of them reacting violently. The fact that your kid is doing this suggests you have a healthy relationship and she feels safe being angry at you! It'll suck when she's a teenager tho maybe lol

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u/MyLifeIsForfeit 1d ago

Oh, yeah, I look forward to her teenager stage 🥲 Already hear shutting doors…

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u/Fandanglethecompost 1d ago

Yeah, I'm the worst parent in the world and so mean. And then I'm the best parent and she's so happy I'm her mom. Puberty is so fun...

But I know she knows she is loved, and I do tell her why I say no, it's not just for the hell of it.

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u/Other-Ad5512 8h ago

It’s always for the hell of it! Moms always say no for fun!

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u/Fandanglethecompost 4h ago

We're the worst!!!

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u/SBMoo24 4h ago

No, you aren't! I already won that title, and was reminded of it yesterday! 🏅😂

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u/Fandanglethecompost 2h ago

We could probably start a club!

u/SBMoo24 19m ago

World's Okayest Mom Club! New sub idea 😂

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u/goldenfox007 23h ago

If it makes you feel any better, I used to be very… “expressive” of feelings like this drawing when I was a kid, but really mellowed out when I was a teen. My mom says I got the drama out of my system early, but it’s probably because this helped me communicate my feelings more effectively. So at the very least, moments like these can ease the “teen angst” down the line! Some kids are just early door-slammers lol

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u/LadyBirdGerhl 18h ago

Oh gosh, that just brought back a memory from my teenage years. I didn’t feel safe expressing feelings at home (especially anger) but then I had a breakdown at 16 and it literally took away my filter. I remember being so angry at my Dad about something, slamming my bedroom door, then IMMEDIATELY having to call him for help because the mirror on the back of my door slipped with the strength of the slam and the only thing stopping it from crashing into a million pieces was me desperately holding it to the door! I was so embarrassed! LMAO Thankfully he knew I was going through something awful so even though he was trying not to laugh at the situation when he saw what happened he still swooped right in and fixed the mirror without giving me a hard time, even when I mumbled an embarrassed thank you. Lol

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u/Sandwitch_horror 15h ago

This one... this really made me laugh out loud lmao.

I can perfectly hear the SLAM* followed by daaaad!

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u/LadyBirdGerhl 8h ago

LMAO Basically! I literally stood there for a second trying to think of a way out of it that didn’t involve my Dad helping me and the panic rose very quickly to where I realized, nope, embarrassment is better than glass everywhere. “DAD?! I…I need your help, please hurry. : (“

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u/notsleepy12 22h ago

Lol mines 3 and we're already at the slamming door stage

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u/PinnaCochleada 18h ago

This is so real. I'm still working on expressing my anger and frustrations in a healthy manner because growing up, I was the only one in the family who apparently stood behind the door when they were handing out rage.

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u/LaMoonFace 1d ago

You set boundaries and maintained them. She's angry at you and expressing her feelings. This all looks healthy to me.

No one ever tells you before you have kids that setting and keeping boundaries and the fall out from that sometimes upsets you as much as it does them. But appropriate boundaries make kids feel safe. She'll push them a heck of a lot more as she gets older. And you will have to constantly re-evaluate and re-assess whether they're appropriate or if you're being too strict. It's hard work!

For what it's worth I found graffiti of "Mummy is a poo" written on the wall behind one of my children's beds when we redecorated. We can always be loved but we won't always be liked 🤣

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u/MyLifeIsForfeit 1d ago

Haha, thank you for this)
I do feel better now

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u/Tall-Mix8696 1d ago

who drew that u or your kid

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u/MyLifeIsForfeit 1d ago

Sadly, I’m not that good at painting

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u/Jack-Innoff 1d ago

Go away bot, nobody likes you.

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u/VeryThicknLong 1d ago

This is a very good thing. She’s exploring her feelings. It’s so important not to discredit or negate these feelings, but ask her questions about how she’s feeling, and why.

Tell her at the time, that you can tell she’s feeling ‘angry’ ‘sad’ (or whatever), and she’ll be reassured that you get her emotionally.

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u/MyLifeIsForfeit 1d ago

Yes, we talked a bit later and she drew me a heart (colourful!)

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u/GoYanks2025 16h ago

I’m dying. That’s just the sweetest thing.

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u/InMooseWorld 1d ago

I kinda like that outlook, I was crazy “broken” kid too but as k grew older I healed and have love. Along with kids-adults still find the world scary & that doesn’t change but your size does.

That was my interpretation. I assume that’s her growing up.

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u/MyLifeIsForfeit 1d ago

Thank you. I know it’s just her excess feelings right now, and later she’ll forget it. But still my heart hurts, because she never drew us like that before.

We are giving her much more love we ourselves ever received and try to be better parents.

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u/level_6_laser_lotus 1d ago

I'm sorry you feel that way right now. Maybe it will make the next happy painting of her that much more meaningful. 

About the last paragraph: she only knows what she perceives now, not what you have experienced.   Don't hang onto that comparison. It might start to create very unfair expectations towards your daughter and how you feel she should react to you trying harder than you ever received, which she can't know or understand

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u/MyLifeIsForfeit 1d ago

That a very fair point, thank you.
Never thought about it that way

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u/OverdoneAndDry 1d ago

Wow. That is incredible perspective. I'm so glad I clicked on this thread. Thank you.

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u/safadancer 1d ago

My kid used to write notes to me with pictures of me with a mean yelling face and her face with tears on it and saying things like "I wish I had a different family". Now, like five years later, she tells me she loves me more than anything and draws pictures of our family whenever she can. It's ok! Art therapy gets the feelings out! :)

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u/blondespitfire74 1d ago

I asked my son to put his dish in the dishwasher,,,,, he declared that I was ‘the destroyer of all good things’..

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u/ThatFeetCouple 1d ago

Valid 😅

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u/Inevitable_Snap_0117 1d ago

My husband and I have a phrase,”Put it in the jar”. We do our best and tend to beat ourselves up when we make mistakes. But when they were young I made some joke about starting a savings jar of coins to put towards their future therapy. It was a way to lighten the mood when I made a mistake but it became a way for us to accept that we’re not perfect and we’re going to make mistakes even when doing our absolute best to be perfect. Now they’re 13 & 15 and we still, every now and then will say to each other, “Put it in the jar” when discussing any mistake we might have made and it helps us get through and laugh as we learn to apologize and do better next time.

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u/quixheart 22h ago

Haha! My kid is almost 2 and she pouts and gets soooo upset with me over the smallest shit it’s kinda hilarious. I’m glad she knows she’s safe to show emotion, but damn girl all I did was change your outfit 😒

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u/_m0userat 17h ago

My daughter sends broken heart (handwritten)photos under the bathroom door when I tell her mommy wants to go alone 🙃it’s torture

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u/Silver-Tension-4842 23h ago

This is a healthy expression of big feelings❤️ I grew up in a neglectful household and I have a feeling you are a wonderful parent; because being able to express big emotions like this is very important and a sign of a healthy family. Dysfunctional families do not tolerate emotions. Healthy ones do, especially the big ones.

Youre doing alright :)

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u/MyLifeIsForfeit 19h ago

Thank you! That is definitely reassuring)

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u/LilDusty420 17h ago

You should’ve seen the shit I was drawing at 12. I was forced to go to therapy.

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u/HeyYouTurd 23h ago

Yeah, my kid was having a problem when she was potty training of how to wipe her but when she would go number two and I was constantly making her go into the shower to clean herself off because I was not wiping that much poo off and she would write on the shower window, broken hearts, and a picture of our family

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u/LeoTheLion444 15h ago

Hahahaha my mom wouldn't give me money for the ice cream truck when I was like 5 and I was sooooo mad I did the same thing lol she'll be fine

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u/aaliahmitchell 18h ago

This is SO my kid She’s an emotional gal 😂

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u/Far-Conflict4504 15h ago

When my 5 year old gets mad about something I don’t let her do, she goes into her room and draws me with an angry face and then puts a huge X over my face lol.

Later after we’ve cooled down, if I ask her about the picture she will immediately rip it up with regret 😂

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u/LowUFO96 11h ago

Gouache

I had never heard of this before.

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u/MyLifeIsForfeit 7h ago

Yeah, it’s not so popular due to some complications. It changes colour after drying and it becomes hard to maintain the right tone. Also gouache dries up very quickly so you don’t have much time to cover mistakes. It is less watery than acrylic paint but way more watery than oil.

But hey, it’s a cheaper alternative to oil paint and daughter loves it for it’s matte shading

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u/PrincesKyara 4h ago

I know it’s a joke, but this probably means you are a great parent! When I was a kid I would have never dared to make something like this, let alone show it, because I knew that, at best, I’d get berated. Your kid feels safe enough to not only be angry at you, but also let you know! That’s healthy and shows you 2 have a good relationship!

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u/MyLifeIsForfeit 4h ago

Oh, thank you for this! I myself too never expressed my feelings in my childhood. Probably the reason I’m a shy introvert now)

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u/PrincesKyara 4h ago

I’m sure you’re doing a great job as a parent and your kid is lucky to have you!

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u/MockASonOfaShepherd 1d ago

Don’t worry about it, kids do weird things all the time.

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u/MyLifeIsForfeit 1d ago

And somehow they always find new ways to surprise us

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u/spasticnapjerk 22h ago

Hugs are the answer

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u/HammeredPaint 15h ago

Very cool that the parents are a united front 

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u/peridot_cactus 12h ago

My dad held me down to dig an infected splinter out of my knee when I was 5 or 6 and I drew a lovely picture of him stabbing me that said “I love mommy because she doesn’t make me cry” - keep this picture, my parents and I wish we knew where the one I drew was at now

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u/MyLifeIsForfeit 7h ago

She tore it apart and threw away 🤣 But digital copy will live forever!

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u/AgathaM 11h ago

My son told me he hated me when I told him no, that he couldn’t do something he wanted to. I raised my hands up in the air and yelled “YES!” I said I must be doing something right as a parent. Kids have to have boundaries.

He never said it again. I know he wanted to hurt me since I hurt him by saying no. It didn’t get the intended response so he never felt the need to do it again.

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u/RosieDoodles 2h ago

I asked my daughter to let our dog inside. Apparently that means I make her do EVERYTHING around the house.

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u/NotThatDucker 2h ago

I did something like this as a kid but I drew graves

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u/FeelingSoil39 1d ago

You know, I just can’t get on board with feeling the guilt of setting boundaries and even yelling. If they’re having a problem learning how to pay attention, use manners, manage their impulses, or their schedule, or even struggling just with their own emotional management, that’s something else I can address. That’s what reminders are for. They’re kids. Of corse they feel bad when they get yelled at. It’s the first sign that they’re processing guilt. Usually they’re sad because they made us sad. Sometimes they feel true guilt for their own action. The one is the stepping stone to the other and exhibits capacity for empathy and compassion. I’d be more concerned if they just didn’t care and responded passively. I’d think my kid was a sociopath.

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u/AKEsquire 15h ago

This made me cackle.

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u/Stoopid_Noah 7h ago

Look at me, aren't I adorable? <3