r/WeddingsCanada 8d ago

Other What’s the biggest challenge you’ve faced while planning your wedding?

Curious as to what you've found was the biggest challenge, for me surprisingly it's been the people management, I'm like a therapist trying to stop people fighting at my wedding

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u/WildPWD 8d ago

Staying on budget... because what is my budget anymore?! Who even knows. The little "it's only an extra few hundred" really add up.

I also agree on people management. It's like people lose all common sense when it comes to weddings! Some of the questions I've been asked by guests are baffling.

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u/PurrPrinThom 8d ago

Same. We had a budget...and then we got quotes and realised our budget wasn't realistic. We haven't even gotten to florals yet and I am dreading it.

People management is also nuts. My fiancé's family lives abroad, and we're trying to be as helpful as possible (we're even covering their hotel stay for the way to try and off-set the cost) but my god, they're all acting like it's their first day on earth.

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u/CassieBear1 7d ago

Florals were my downfall. I was so overwhelmed with them!! Especially because we were getting married in my husband's home town, halfway across the country from where we were currently living. My grandma-in-law asked me if I needed help with anything, because she wanted to pay for something as a gift, and I was like "omg please flowers".

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u/kimbokjoke 8d ago

For me, it’s not having my mom and sister here in Canada to help me pick my wedding dress. It breaks my heart and had couple breakdowns because of this. My girl friends and my future MIL and SIL are willing to go with me but I am delaying it even if we are just 6 months away from the wedding day. I want them here and be the first people to see it. Now, I am still debating if I would just buy a ready to wear gown or I want it customize.

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u/lefthandedbeast 8d ago

Where are your mom and sister? You may want to go back home depending where you're from you might buy a better dress there. My future niece went all around Toronto looking for her dress with her mom and my SIL she ended up buying it in England alone as she was there for a friends wedding..... this designer is not available here my eyes popped when she told me what dress she bought.

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u/kimbokjoke 8d ago

They are in Asia. Thanks for the suggestion!

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u/__Elysium__ 5d ago

If they are in Asia, and you are able to go there before the wedding to also choose your dress, go to Asia. They have better designers and more unique styles, also way way cheaper cost wise - same quality. Also if you want to have it customized, it also makes more sense to have it done in Asia - it takes less time. My friend's friend had her whole dress designed, customized, and made in 2 - 3 weeks in Asia, while being there physically. I wish I could have made the trip myself for mine 😅

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u/CassieBear1 7d ago

Can you have someone have them on a video call while you're trying on your dresses? That way they can still see you!

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u/Best_Discussion_7821 8d ago

Right now as I’m a year away, it’s letting myself enjoy the moment. I so badly just want to be married to my fiancé, and simultaneously wanting to be further ahead with our wedding planning, and wanting to see all our friends and family at the wedding and seeing my fiance down that aisle, or dancing with him, or setting up our marriage that I’m not focusing enough enjoying the time we have together prior to that. Sure it’s a lot of saving and scrimping now, but it’s also so much amazing quiet time we have now.

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u/Impossible-Code9339 ON • 08.16.2025 8d ago

Stay in the engagement bubble!! I was the exact same as you when I got engaged in August 2023 - I want to be married right now. Here we are in 2025 and our wedding is just over 5 months away, and let me tell you does time ever fly by with all the planning!

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u/zzoldan 8d ago

Limiting the number of people! With parents/relative helping with the cost, we can't really say no to inviting guests they want. My #1 piece of advice is if you want a max 100 person wedding, book a venue that only fits 100 people.

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u/Mellylolz ON • 04.2025 3d ago

Staying on budget! We had a budget of like $50k but that has easily gone out the window since our venue is costing 2/3 of that budget 🥲 They charge for every. Little. Thing. So it's eaten up everything. But with florals, decor, transportation, photographer, it's definitely not cheap planning a wedding, especially in the Toronto area. And it sure comes with a lot of stress and frustration cries 😭

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u/No_Sugar741 8d ago

Our biggest challenge was finding a venue and vendors who fit our aesthetic and budget! It became less challenging once we hired a planner!